I am very reluctant as far as counseling is concerned, I have went to a few psychotherapists/counslers in the past and the good ones, well all they did was listen and ask questions that caused me to think even harder about what all could have went wrong in the past, or they would recommend positive reaffirmation which in itself makes me feel insane stand infront of a mirror & tell myself how great I am what healthy happy person actually does that? Anywa I was wondering why is it that peopel believe that what a counsler thinks is right vs your own feelings? Who decides really what to consider within the norm & if so whose norm? I am often beeing judged upon my relationship but most peopel that give this advice are not even in a relationship are they refering to what they would consider a good rlationship? Too wired & I also don't believe in anti depressants aren't you supposed to feel even if it's sad? Sometimes I just think that peopel drive eachother crazy.
2006-12-04 06:47:28 · 7 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
As you are asking this question, it is a great start to understand why humans act and feel the way that they do...
When you are born and untill about the age of 10 you are learning everything from the one around you, then at that age you start thinking for yourself.
What is in your head and how you feel is very controlable if you really want to learn. No one has the correct answers for you, they can help you, but you have to help yourself..
Everything you want out of life is inside you right now....
Read " Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill....
You have relearn how to control your life and a counslers can help if you want it....
Good luck
2006-12-04 07:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have had a sad or abusive past, and most likely you had no control over what may have happened, and it can't be changed.
your no longer in your past and your future is now, so take control of it. If you don't want help finding what you really want, save yourself some money and live your life for you.
you seem to desire making your own decisions and finding your own feelings yet you wonder what others consider the "norm". To find the "norm", look inside yourself, and give yourself permission to feel comfortable with it.
2006-12-04 07:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by STEVE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your concern here is indeed valid. I have never taken anti-depressants, but have known people who have, and it IS weird. They are like zombies, unfeeling, uncaring, unsad, but unhappy, too. I do think, however, that medication coupled with counseling CAn help get a person back on the road to at LEAST being content with themselves by eliminating emotions that hinder logical thought and action geared towards making ourselves happy w/ ourselves. It is scary to relinquish control o fyour dreams AND insecurities to a relative stranger, but then we have to ask ourselves if we are better off as we are or giving in and getting help. I suppose the answers to this are as varied as the people who answer.
2006-12-04 06:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, right, right. But what can you do? We only have counselors like that and a few Yahoo answers. The answer of course is to learn more about what makes depression. It will get worse before it gets better unfortunately. These pattern of life are ages old. If you search my answers in yahoo I have answered this quest twenty times . You will need one new friend now who is like yourself and please message me for any detail in my previous answers. Good luck... you will need it. This is the hardest thing in life for some of society.
2006-12-04 07:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not them versus your feelings. And yes, you should feel sad as well as happy. Self-reflection is one of the hardest things to do. A good counselor will guide you in helping YOU find answers for yourself. Finding a good counselor is the hard part though.
2006-12-04 06:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by serendipity 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is inside of you is what is most important.
talk therapy never worked for me.
i recommend yoga. it is widely available.
and will help with these problems if you DO IT!
what saved me was dance mediation.
www.dancemeditaition.org
you are worrying too much about things that are not important, like what is the norm.
get to know yourself through yoga or martial arts.
2006-12-04 06:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit pissing and moaning and grow up. Get out there in the world. Make or break, just do something. Boohoo for you. There, feel better?
2006-12-04 08:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jimfix 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋