Christians: What is your solution to people who grew up in abusive “Christian” homes?

Question

There are many people who grew up in homes which claimed to be Christian but were violent and abusive. These people, now grown, suffer from a form of post traumatic stress disorder and cannot stomach the precepts of Christianity. How do you think God judges these people?

Disclaimer: This question does not support nor denigrates Christianity or its message.

Answer 1

I think that there would be harsh punishment for those who lead the young away, with either their words or their actions.

I would think that God would have mercy on them, and also pray that they realize that the fault was with with the individual, not the Religion that caused their pain.

It is a fair and honest question, no offense taken here.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

How does He judge those responsible?

Well the Bible does say it is better to have a millstone tied to you and be cast into the ocean than for you to cause someone else to sin. (And sin is anything that seperates a person from God).

What about those who are victimized?

I grew up in a home like that. I have also experienced a church like that. Yes it does alot of damage. But, over time, God taught me the difference between merely calling oneself a Christian and knowing Him. It is a very hard situation, and I can't give a complete answer there. But I can say there is one, and God can heal the damage. He can and does work all things together for our good and His glory. I can personally say that God has healed me of much and has given me a passion for Him that I wouldn't trade for the world! He also promises that all who seek Him find Him. So the place to start would be to seek Him (not any other person or religion, just Him)

Your question is a very big one, It's alot to answer. But I hope this helps.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

They were obviously no christian and they abused need to understand that violence and abuse is not the christian way therefore their parents were not really christian just hipocrits. I do not believe that grown they suffer from post traumatic stress disorder because i was abused in the same situation and i do not have that disorder, they just need to forgive their parents and be the bigger person and move on. Things happen and they are not always good but what doesn' t kill you makes you stronger. I believe that god will judge them just the same just forgive your parents and forgive yourself and continue to believe in god. Sometimes for these people when things get tough, they start to not believe in god, but thats the time when you need to look to god for help and pray even harder.

Answer 4

I think a lot of these people will have a harder time trusting God as a "Father" figure because of the abuse that they've suffered at the hands of their abusive parents. So often, we as humans attribute human characteristics to God because we don't have any other yard stick to go by, and that is perfectly normal. But God is a Father that will not let us down, and I feel He will work tenderly and sweetly, and ever so gently with the individual to show His almighty Love, that will never be tainted. God Bless.

Answer 5

PABS! Hi! Long time no see on here.

I think children who grew up in abusive Christian homes will become Atheists. They will never understand why a God could allow this to happen to them.

Answer 6

I grew up with a parents who constantly used the bible to chastise me and force their outdated beliefs on me. My mother used what her other Christians friends thought to condemn me for wearing black, etc. She tried to control all aspects of my life and used Christianity as the excuse. Although she only hit me once she mentally abused me every day of my life. When I married my husband my mother in law said i could not love god because i did not understand unconditional love. It took me years to understand god and his purpose in my life. I do not think god would judge those hurt by Christianity without allowing them to find the good in it.

Answer 7

Same solution as if they came from an abusive Jewish home, or athiest home, or Muslim home. I'd have more information out there about types of abuse, and warning signs. There is help out there, but people are too scared to take it. I'd say, if you know someone who is being abused, or you suspect something, talk to someone! I don't think abusive behavior stems from any religion. It stems from the person, not their religious background.

Answer 8

God judge the abusers that committed the sins as sin there's no Big sins or Small sins... sin is sin, and God hate sin we must pray for the sinners and the victims and leave the Judging to God

Answer 9

The same for people who grew up in abusive non-christian homes, get appropriate help and counsel for them.

Answer 10

initiate with prayer. To be extra certain, ask God no longer purely to practice both your hearts to initiate verbal substitute on a non secular element, yet also to grant you opportunities to percentage the "milk" of the be conscious. If this human being responds favourably, you are able to flow on (continually with prayer for sure) to the "meat" of the be conscious. Do you undergo in concepts what Jesus did at the same time as He walked this earth? He tended to their earthly desires in the previous their religious desires e.g. fed the 1000's, healed the sick, raised the lifeless. Now we received't do an excellent type of those issues immediately yet there are honestly different issues we may be able to do: make a sick human being extra tender on each occasion we may be able to, be very thoughtful to someone who's unhappy, you comprehend, such issues as that - issues interior our realm of opportunities. human beings are basically hurting a lot presently. they're scared, pissed off, searching for solutions. yet we want God's practise as to the thanks to attitude each human being.