17 year old guy, 14 year old girl?

Question

I am a 17 year old guy in high school. A girl came in this year who is more beautiful than could ever be put in words, both on the outside and inside. She has not one ounce of meanness and is so mature and caring, you would think she was older than me. We have gone on a few dates and are so physically attracted it is freaking me out because people are calling me a pedophile and stuff while all we do is kiss and I want her to be my best friend and wait until we can be together. Every time I get close I pull back because of the stupid remarks. Can't we just see each other and not have sex and not lose each other. I have had many girls in my life cause I'm considered good looking but I've never felt love like this and I'm so scared of losing her forever. I've never felt love meaning more than sex and maybe that is what it is. What can I say to the people who tell me not to date her or be her friend.

Answer 1

That is so sweet of you that you have alot of respect for this girl. Dont mind what remarks people make to you. They could be jealous that you are the one with her instead of them. Let the girl know how much she means to you. Tell the other people to get a life and stay out of yours.

Answer 2

Well, actually, both of you are under age. You are not doing anything wrong, especially if her parents know that you are dating. You are wise to hold off on sex and just be with each other. At this age, you are both still in High School. If you were 18 or older it would be a different story. Ignore your friends, because you know if you stopped seeing her, they would go after her. Just be honest and the best advise is to make sure her parents are aware of this, no sneaking around. She is still very young to be worried about a sexual relationship, but it appears you have very much respect for her. Good luck.

Answer 3

It's not the number of years, it's where they are: 14 is too young for 17. Next year, you'll be 18 and she'll be a minor. The year after that, you'll be in college (just guessing, maybe it's not for you) and she'll be 16. How's that going to work? If you can't handle people calling you a pedophile now (when you technically aren't) how are you going to handle it in a year or two (when you will be)?

She'll be able to vote the same year you'll be able to drink. If that were the case, I'd say that you're both adults, so it doesn't matter, but for now, sorry, I just don't see it working for the two of you.

Try to be her friend, but know that the odds are stacked against you. I wish I had better advice for you.

Answer 4

For the most part, I think it's okay for you to be her friend, since girls do mature faster than boys. Mentally, you are probably both the same. However, in years (age), you really shouldn't move anywhere past being friends right now. From what I gather, you are not a virgin... and hopefully she IS. Do not cross that line though, because you will go to jail. If you are 17, you would probably be tried as an adult, if things went in that direction. Whatever you do, DO NOT have sex with her. That would be morally wrong!!!!

Answer 5

It does not matter the age mY bf is 17 I'm 12 ur probably thinking sick slut but no were in love and he is always getting stupid comment from every body the better thing is they don't really no my age I'm a Junior in high school but any way the point is stay with the girl no body's words should matter to you they all probably are just jealous that you have love not just sex with her. Most guys just don't under stand love not sex and make Sheree she knows you love with all Ur hart and that u wouln't leve her cuz some1s words... later dude

Answer 6

first of all it is legal, you are 17 which means you are still legally a child, so its not statitory rape. there is also an age gap because 17 year olds date 18 year olds and not get arrested. I knew a girl who dated a senior when she was 14/15 and no one cared. I also know a junoir who dates a freshman and no one cared. must be different where you are. as long as its legal and you two seem to care about each other, so it is worth it.

Answer 7

you're too young to love someone. well, a girl anyway. perhaps you're IN love? seems to me you're IN love b/c you mention her looks and personality, and the physical attraction, but those are all superficial reasons. ok maybe superficial isn't the word. you can like a person's looks and personality, or how they make you feel, but take all that away--do you still love her? love is unconditional. when you decide you love someone for absolutely no reason at all, that's love. what you described is the romantic act of being IN love w/ some aspect of her.

trouble is, this physical attraction you have will eventually and no doubt lead to a physical relationship. it always does, especially w/ teenagers. that said, you won't be 17 forever. soon you'll be 18 and she'll still only be 15. big deal, you say, it's only a difference of 3 years and plus, she's a lot more mature than i am. that's not how it works. 18-year-old "men' find it very hard to resist ... themselves, in essence. one day you'll find yourself undressing this girl and you won't even know how it happened. save yourself the grief. if you want her all that bad, stop dating her now and wait until she, too, is 18 years old. if by then you still think you 'love' her, and she loves you, then by all means, get back together.

if it weren't for the law, i'd say remain friends and be on your best behavior. but i know that's a joke, b/c 'best behavior' to a guy is ... well, nonexistant when it comes to pretty girls. their hormones tend to take over. i'm not saying 17-year-old boys are evil. i'm just saying they don't have enough control over their urges. sadly, a lot of older men don't either.

so, don't date anymore. don't be friends. there's no such thing. don't hang out, it'll lead to ... other things! tell her your reasons for breaking up. make her understand it's not her, it's the Fing law!!! insist you only want the best for her, that you don't want to hurt her unintentionally, and that staying friends (even the platonic kind) will be hard on you since you have such strong feelings for her. hopefully she won't take it personally.

this will give you both the opportunity to date and experience people your own age. heck, how do you know you won't come across the real love of your life, say 2-3 years down the line, and then again, 5 years down the line? you're much too young to concentrate on one girl. she's too young to date one boy. often times teens think they know it all, and feel invinsible. they think nothing bad can happen to them, as long as they're 'in love.' truth is love does not conquer all. you may love someone who's totally wrong for you, and suffer for many years before you come to the conclusion that life's just too short to live in misery. by then it might be too late. you may have already gotten her pregnant!!!!!

whatever you decide, good luck.

Answer 8

Keep your relationship out of the bedroom and you should be okay. Maybe they're making the comments because of your past and think that you're not mature enough to do the right thing.
So it's hard to say.

If you don't plan on doing anything, then don't worry about what other people think. You're not dating them, you're dating her.

Answer 9

Well dont listen to those people who tell you that. You are doing ok, and if you love her, I think you should continue to be her friend and even date her if you want to. If you feel love then you should definetly not let her go. I know how it feels and when you are in love I dont think it matters how old you are, or nothing else. Just continue like you are doing, and I think it is fine.

Answer 10

when I was 14 i met this guy who was 17 also we are still today
friends, we have been friends for 23 years. he did not care what
other people said about us. i had to move away from him, I think if you love her. Do not let other people, tell you want to do. Who cares what they say, do what you feel is right in your heart because you might break her heart. i know been their,
but you will never know what my happen in years to come.
oh if you have not told her how you feel do so. send a e -mail.
if you can not tell her face to face. but do let know. who knows you might stay friends for a long time. we did, he is now
in Iraq I still love him today.