I am at my wits end and honestly don't know how to handle this. Here goes: My step-sister and step-mother are the most needy women I have experienced in my life. Mind you, I just recently gotten married a couple of weeks ago, and really haven't had the time or energy to return everyone's calls exactly when they call. She had the nerve to call me at work about this bull. I've explained to my step-mother, that my energy is a little drained right now. I think alot of this has to do with the fact that her daughter accused me of liking her boyfriend, step-mother wants payment of money she gave me four years ago. (told me not to worry about paying back). The list goes on and on. They seem like if they don't talk to me they are going to die or something. It was my step-sister being needy, now it's her mother. It's like they can't do anything or make any decisions without seeing what I'm doing. They just seem to want to absorb the air I breathe. What's the deal with them?
2006-12-04 06:21:15 · 7 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my father and this woman have been divorced for over 20 years.
2006-12-04 06:27:12 · update #1
sound to me that this is nothing new.that before you got married that they were just as needy and you were right there when they needed you.well now that your married you feel that their neediness should have ended. well your finding out that it not that simple. here is the thing give her the money that you owe her that will be one thing out of the way.then go from there your going to have to ween them from being so needy of you and that's all there is to it,this is not going to happen over night. tell them that they can not call you at your place of employment.only at home even tell them not to call past a certain time of day.set ground rules.you don't need to tell them that you have been to tired to call them back. just tell them that you did not feel that it was any thing urgent that you needed to call right away.
2006-12-04 06:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either have a place for her in your life or you do not. I can only assume that although they are needy....you allowed them to be this way with you. YOU need to put your foot down and let them know the deal. THIS situation is in your hand.
2006-12-04 14:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your father is not married to this woman that means she is not your stepmother and this girl is not your stepsister anymore. I would encourage you to write a letter and explain how you feel and what you expect from them. They need to learn boundaries and to respect you.
Technically you don't owe them anything, you aren't even related!
2006-12-04 14:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds chilish to me hun.. they aren't your family you owe them nothing... talk with them and see what they say.. move on with your life family's have disagreements an arguemenst but nothing to serious to jeprodze the relationships.... you will be better off with out them around you.
2006-12-04 14:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their problem. Just ignore them. Maybe they'll get the message.
2006-12-04 14:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is just their way of including you into the family.
2006-12-04 14:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them and if they don't understand, ignore them and if that doesn't work talk to your father.
2006-12-04 14:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋