My boyfriend who blames me for an argument that we had almost two weeks ago? Now he is saying that he wont come see me again...even though we live in the same city. He says we are still together but he hardly calls and I havent seen him in almost two weeks. The thing is the fact that he is upset with me doesnt prevent him from asking me for things. He is still asking me to buy him stuff. He badly needs some winter clothing and he has asked me to purchase an expensive item for him. I bought it because I wanted to make him happy. He knows that if he needs anything all he has to do is ask. The day he told me he needed this item I had it for him within a few hours. But my buying him this still hasnt changed the way he is acting toward me. I thought maybe it would mean we were back on good terms but no. He said thank you for what I purchased but he is still blaming me& will hardly talk to me. What do I do now if he just wont let it go?
2006-12-04 06:16:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump his ***.
Ok...I say that because he is using you. If he has no money and he's asking you fo stuff when he's treating you like crud, then you hold the cards, honey.
Tell him that you are sorry that you had a dissagreement, but that you are each entitled to your own thought and feelings. If he can accept that, then that's great....if not, then he doesn't need to be treating you like dirt and expecting you to take care of him too.
EIther he can act like a grown up and be nice, or you can find someone who won't act like a spoiled baby when he doesn't get his way.
Like I said.....and I'm not usually this frank.....DUMP HIM.
If the gravy train dries up, he will change his tune.
2006-12-04 06:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His unwillingness to resolve differences when they arise (which they will in any relationship) is a good indicator that he may lack either the maturity or the desire to stay together. I don't understand your willingness to spend money on the guy whether you're on good terms or not. Allowing you to spend money on him is also a good indicator as to the type of person he is. Consider how this habit and/or pattern was formed. You need to take responsibility for the disaster your relationship has become and acknowledge that it is not working out. You can't really want this guy to come back to you in order to get a winter wardrobe--quit taking his calls on get on with your life. You need an equal partner that can support himself and contribute to the relationship. Two weeks is long enough to wait to resolve an argument. Things have gotten on the wrong track and you need to evaluate your reasons for your own behavior. Stop the blame game and sort out whatever issues are in your own life. Good Luck
2006-12-04 14:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell!
Read the situation for what it is:
"I don't respect you, I don't want to see you but BUY ME MY XMAS JUMPER! ... and then go away"
You should have spat in his face. What a despicable, phony jerk.
Dump him and stay well away. If you stay with him, you have "doormat" stamped on your forehead and the thing is, the two of you are not destined for a happy ending. If you let this horrible little man control you now, you may end up being controlled in every single relationship you have from now on.
Be strong. Be smart. He's just a boy, and not a very nice one. There are some great people out there who would treat you with far more respect.
You can't buy respect. You earn it.
2006-12-04 14:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by midsojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not positive about this but does it ever cross your mind that he might only be using you? I mean it seems like he only needs you when he needs something. If he needs this then he talks to you; if not, then you're on your own. Don't you think he's seeing someone else and he can't let you go because he can ask you to buy him stuffs?
2006-12-04 14:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl!!!! He is using you because he knows he can.Stop being a doormat it will take a little time to heal but trust me life does go on and I know it's over used but there are more fish in the sea even some good ones who deserve to be with you! Stop settling and stop spending money on him!
2006-12-04 14:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you and you should realize that. You are spending lots of money trying to please him even though he is still mad at you. Leave him because he is using you and ignore his calls. You will be better off without him and you can find someone that appreciates you. In the long run this will make you stronger and you will be happier with life.
2006-12-04 14:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, honey, honey... You cannot buy love and/or affection. It clearly sounds like he's using you. Read your question again. Read it as though you are reading a question from someone else. Wouldn't you say "girl - move on"? If he needs winter clothing he should buy them. If he won't let it go YOU need to let HIM go.
2006-12-04 14:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP him go on with your life,, he is a user,, wake up. Tell him to get a job and buy his own cloths Can you say door mat/ that is what he's using you for. And you are letting him, i wouldn't buy him a bag of cow dong. cmon.....
2006-12-04 14:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but he is using u. He must see you as a puppy and rich. hes an *** hole. Forget about him and tell him that because you cant be soft with him anymore. Hes a butt and maybe he will change with you.
2006-12-04 14:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by effie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
return that expensive item
then get him one from the thrift store
he is supposed to give you things too, doesn't have to be material things but both people have to feel like its worth it
2006-12-04 14:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋