There must be a evasive way I can hint or talk about something that would bring it out. Any ideas?
2006-12-04 06:10:31 · 9 answers · asked by Karen E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask him why he's texting other girls. Don't worry about trying to be evasive honey.
You are dating, your not married yet. So you don't have to tip-toe around him. You aren't the one who is doing something shady are you????
Don't have an attitude about it, just tell him that you though his phone chimed or something and you picked it up. Tell him that you were checking out his downloads and saw a text to another girl. Ask him what the nature of their relationship is and go by how he reacts.
if you catch someone doing wrong, don't be afraid to confront them about it.....but remember that it could be nothing, so don't react too harshly, just enough tom let him know that you aren't stupid.
Good Luck.
2006-12-04 06:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say "Listen, I don't like keeping secrets or anything. It's just that I texted a guy the other day from school/work- and felt weird about it. I didn't do anything wrong, it's just that I wouldn't want you to think I was being sneaky if you saw his number on my phone or anything"
Wait for his reaction. If he says nothing or is cool with it, add "Phew. I felt really weird about that. I know I'd be cool if you were friends with another person who happened to be a girl. I know you'd tell me of course."
It he keeps quiet, I'd be a tad worried. You would have laid a get out clause at his feet. If he mentions that girl, find out a bit more about her "Oh, we'll have to all go cinema or bowling sometime" etc.
You didn't mention what he was saying to the girl. Any guy flirting behind his girlfriend's back needs to have his @ss kicked to the curb!
2006-12-04 14:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no easy way - I looked at my husbands found and that is how I found out he was cheating on me. Doesn't by the way hold up in court since I obtained the information illegally (it was his phone, not mine - like opening someone else's mail). You either confront him or don't or wait and see if it goes off while he's not around and luck out like I did.
2006-12-04 14:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way to ask with out him thinking that you are not trusting him and going through is phone.
2006-12-04 14:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by redbull_photo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight up with him. ask him if he is texting another girl. he shouldn't be texting girls if he has a gf. you may need to think more about this relationship if that is the case. or maybe that girl is just a friend? the only thing you can do is ask him about it.
2006-12-04 14:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by stormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already having "trust issues" that means you don't trust him. And if you truly don't trust him (no matter WHO he is texting) you never will! Cut your losses and find someone trustworthy! Or someone SO in love with you he forgets that other women exist.
2006-12-04 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Italian_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow him
2006-12-04 14:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him, tell him you were going to use his phone to call your phone cuz you couldnt find it and saw the message from a girl. ask: who is it and why is he talking to her?
2006-12-04 14:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not beat around the bush about it. just ask him .if you dance around it will feel awkard
2006-12-04 14:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by ericnh79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋