this 29 year old guy says that he likes me and thinks that im a nice girl blah blah,we have kissed only, yet, he wont ask me out on a date.its "give me a call when your next in my town". we live in different towns.
he knows that a came out of a 6 year relationship 8 months ago and that i was engaged with a mortgage with my ex.could this be a reason why he hasnt asked me out?he doesnt know why i ended the relationship.my ex has moved away.
he is single, has his own place too and has his career sorted.wouldnt he be ready for a relationship?he hasnt been married before.
i met im through my ex.he isnt a friend of my ex.he always used to text me now and then when i was with my ex too.hes has kept in contact with my now for 2 years.we are not really friends as such.
2006-12-04 06:06:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
think before doing anything
u should ask about him and how he treat girls
ask him from his friends and from anyone know him
then if u really love him and be sure that he will make u happy then date with him
2006-12-04 06:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you're available and won't get to the point, he's either lacking the confidence to ask you out or he's keeping you on hold.
I reckon if you like him enough and think he may just be a little nervous then you could do the asking.
But if he's keeping you on hold it could be for any number of reasons, like he has a fear of commitment, he fancies someone else, is he's working through his own emotional baggage, and you might get knocked back if you make a move.
For what it's worth, if you like him enough I'd ask him outright... even if he says not interested it isn't the end of the world and at least you'll know for sure.
One last thing though - why don't you consider him a friend after two years contact? That might be worth a think - at least in terms of why you're pursuing him now.
2006-12-04 14:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by frenziedmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like this guy then try one more time but you can't force somebody into something that they are not ready for. he just might not be ready for a long time relationship or could be still trying to read you making sure that everything is perfect when the time does come for him to ask you out. but keep your head up and never give up because even if this specific person may not be the one you end up with there is somebody out there who was made specially for you.
2006-12-04 14:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by baby blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun im sorry but i think this guy has some issues that he needs to work out. He seems to be kind of "in lack of a better word" scared of a relationship. ALso he might be freakin out because your his Friends X and that might also be slowing him down. But honestly i think that he's just seein you as a friend and nothing more you should ask him whats up before you get yourself hurt
2006-12-04 14:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Alli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teo different twons makes it difficult to begin with. He is not that interested or he would make the effort a lot more than he is doing now. What he is counting on is that you are desparate enough to continue this and "hook up" when you are in his town, cause sooner or later he si going to get what he wants out of this.....sex! Move on girl!
2006-12-04 14:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time u call him when ur in town, and u guys hang out, ask him. say hey...u've been texting me from quite some time, and every time I come to town we get together, and I just wanted to know what ur intentions are. Ask him straight up......how do u feel about me? do u see this goign any further? Y haven't U been the one to ask me out? things of that nature. It's always best to just be straight forward......
2006-12-04 14:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I might do this if I didn't want to commit myself. On the other hand, he might be really interested, but has read some stupid book on relationships that says not to make himself look too available (and thus lose attractiveness).
2006-12-04 14:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by pantocool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not that into you. Go out get some more guy friends. If he really wants to see you then he will ask you out.
2006-12-04 14:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is thinking you aren't ready based on what you said above. Just ask him where does he want things to go with your friendship.
2006-12-04 14:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by ☆Soon 2 be Mom of 2☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're either friends or not friends. Ya either talk or ya dont talk.
What exactly are you looking for? Does he call you when he comes to your town? Give him a call when you're in his town. See what happens.
2006-12-04 14:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋