How can I promote that.... I want to make sure my baby is able to be held happily by friends and family... I know when I was a baby my mom was the only person that could hold me... or I would cry what can I do to help promote social development and should I start early on??? I dont want strangers coming up to my baby and it be ok either... there is a fine line... and I just want my family and friends to enjoy my baby! Any tips, ideas??
2006-12-04 06:00:23 · 10 answers · asked by Kara K 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh... also... I am preggo... so I am just trying to prepare... due in July!!
2006-12-04 06:06:05 · update #1
babies get their ideas from how you react. If you are comfortable with people and are calm and open to handing the child over, your baby will probably be OK with being held by other people. The more certain people hold the baby, the more familiar the baby will be with them. But keep in mind, that kids go thru phases when they don't want to go to anybody.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-04 06:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cara M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most babies will develop at least one time in their lives and many times more than one time when they go through a "stranger anxiety" period. It is not something that you can predict nor is it something you can prevent. It is just a natural thing that many babies go through when learning about their environment and how things work. Babies who don't like to be held by any one other than mom or dad can often be "tricked" by holding him/her with his back to you so he/she can still see mom/dad. Some babies will pick a person that they just don't care to be held by and will cry no matter what you try. Usually it is someone embarrassing to you (the mom) such as your mother in law or your husband's best friend. Every baby has a distinct personality when it is born, some are quite content to be held by anyone who will hold them and others will pitch a fit if held by anyone but mom. This is generally a phase and your baby will get over it, especially if you don't make a big fuss about it and don't come immediately to the rescue every time your baby is crying when someone else has him/her.
2006-12-04 16:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your baby? If your baby is 12 - 18 months there's not much you can do about social phobias or stranger anxiety. It's normal. I'm going through this too. Talk to the strangers/family members and make eye contact with them to let your baby know that it's OK. This is what I do...maybe a friendly touch on the person's shoulder or whatever....anything to ease your child's nerves.
2006-12-04 14:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the baby's age. They all go through stranger anxiety--sometimes more than once! And, some babies just want mommy more than others. It is ok, your baby will get used to it--especially once he/she understands that you are ok with it.
A word of warning--it could get worse once the new one comes along so be patient! Depending on how old your first is and how aware they are of the situation, he/she could decide that mommy doesn't need to hold the baby.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 14:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Beth W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your baby spend time with the peole you want the the baby to be comfortable around. Kids all grow what they know. Make noise and the baby sleeps through noise but be quiet and the baby won't sleep though loud. Let people hold the baby and the baby becomes social. Easy beans!!
2006-12-04 14:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time. Our son tends to be more apprehensive when people come in to our home, so maybe try taking him to their homes or the park. Leaving him with family and friends for a short time is a good way to let him know you're coming back and it's okay to be with other people. Depending on how old your child is, play groups or part time day care are good ways for your baby to learn social skills and become more outgoing - when our son started day care it was like night & day!
2006-12-04 14:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that babies sometimes go through "stranger anxiety" (i.e. anyone but Mom) at around 8 mos old. My daughter is 4 mos; she loves people and social happenings. It could just be your baby's personality! Above all, DON'T FORCE baby to be social if s/he isn't naturally sociable. It will only backfire and make the baby clingy and fearful.
GOOD LUCK!! :D
2006-12-04 14:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by tussinvehicle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow close friend and family to come over often to see your baby children will cry only if they feel uncomfortable around someone if they get to know you close friend and family from an early age they are likely to want to go to them. I would also suggest letting your baby know who it is okay to go to by say the persons name and telling them it is okay she is a friend so they don't get confused about who they should and should not go to.
2006-12-04 14:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by nickieandsarahsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit of an ask to expect a newborn baby to be "social" !!
Babies will do what babies do and they react to their environment.
If the person holding the baby isn't confident in doing so, the baby will more than likely cry.
The best solution is to show people how you hold your baby and what position comforts him/her and how you would settle him/her when he/she cries. That is the best you can hope for I'm afraid, it's a baby not a performing seal!
2006-12-04 14:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Babies will be most comfortable around people they are around the most. If you want your baby to be comfortable around certain friends and family, the easiest way to accomplish that is to expose her/him to them as often as you can. Then understand that babies are babies and sometimes they just want mommy and no one else (or daddy, or grammy, etc.).
2006-12-04 14:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋