We have been together about 2 years, and she has not gone down on me? We have never discussed this before? Should I ask? Should I just wait? Do you think she will ever? She let's me, but she has never returned the favor if you know what I mean? I don't want to make her feel bad, or make her feel like I am not going to like her if I don't get it, but It's part of for-play, and you would think since we both are 30, she has probably done it before? Should I bring it up? And when? Over the dinner table? After I service her? When is the RIGHT TIME?
2006-12-04 05:59:55 · 13 answers · asked by Midge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course u should. If you cannot open up about your desires before marriage, you won't be able to do so after the fact neither.
Best time is for example when you're taking a walk, hand in hand, and you start talking about how u're doing, if you're happy, what you would like to change... things in general, and then you could just ask how she feels about your sex life, if she's satisfied. After you hear her out, you can tell her that you wouldn't mind having a ******** from time to time. Tell her that she's great and she makes u feel amazing, but if she would go down on you, it might bring you both more satisfaction, as it's part of foreplay and the longer you make foreplay last, the more stimulated you are and the more you will enjoy sex. If you don't tell her, she'll never guess. Just be tactful and be confident, as this is still the beginning of your sex life and now is the time to explore... Good luck
2006-12-04 06:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Changed by Lithium 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is ur fiance, u should be able to talk about things like this. My fiance and I talk about this kind of stuff all the time. Sex plays a big role in the relationship, regardless of whether people want to admit it or not, it's not everything, but it plays a big role, and each person in the relationship should want to satisfy the other equally. Maybe she thinks that if she does it, she has to swallow (not to sound vulgar)....maybe she doesn't know u want it cuz u don't ask for it. Some women are very shy when it comes to things like that. Just be honest, and tell her that u would appreciate the gesture from time to time, but be clear that if it's something she's not comfortable doing, that that's ok too.
2006-12-04 06:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had a bad experience in the past that has turned her off about it. Plus, if you haven't said anything in two years, she's probably thinking you don't like it or want it. I would talk to her when you're both calm, cool and collected. Don't over dramatize it, but do let her know that you're curious as to why she hasn't offered or initiated it. Find out first and then take it from there. Good luck!
2006-12-04 06:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has not offered oral to you, then she has probably never offered oral.
The best time to talk about it is when you are getting intimate with her. Tell her that you like to give her oral stimulation and it would be nice to feel the same from her.
Do not wait until you are married, because it will never even be a possibility then and if it is important to you it will be too late. She may not like the idea, even though she likes how it feels.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-04 09:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to ask for what you want, if it's important to you then you need to know that you can ask andshe will honr your feelings about it, just as she would expect that you should care about her desires. you have desires too. and if she doesnt feel like she should be obligated to take care of your needs then how can she expect the same from you. if she has a problem with being fare then you wont ever have an equally satisfying sex life, and whats the point of spending your time and energy with someone whos not going to put as much into it as you are willing to put in.
2006-12-04 07:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you watched porn together? Good ice breaker. Or talk about someone else's relationship and say hey so and so said his girl.... Have you ever. I would make it a light hearted subject - drop some hints, feel out the territory. Some women are totally turned off by that and others love it. Sucks for you if she's in the first category though.
2006-12-04 06:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by T C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, clothes mouths don't get fed. And neither do clothes mouths get questions and requests asked. Don't expect to get something that may not even be on her radar! I agree with Jen's answer wholeheartedly, and I'm a guy!!! Don't be crude or juvenile, or pushy about your request. And try to find out what her feelings are about that particular act. Don't try to force this on her, 'cause then you will have much bigger problems than not betting the "presidential treatment."
2006-12-04 07:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by mezhenari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~You said you are 30! You sound more like 13! If she's as immature as you, then yes, you're going to have to ask her why she doesn't do it. I would quit giving her oral if she doesn't return the favor.
I would think you should bring it up BEFORE you give her oral.~
Good Grief!
2006-12-04 06:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are playing together just casually ask her to or after you do something special ask her. its not a big deal. if you cant talk to her about sex how are you going to marry her and be with her forever? you should be able to be open if you want to try something new.
wow 2 yrs is a long time to be with someone and not get that if you gave it to them..........
2006-12-04 06:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her to do so; when you guys plan on having sex again. And just before you two procede with love-making just bring up to her. You know like, "Hey babe, could you give 'him'(ur penis) a kiss?'......If she looks at you crazy or refuses, than you know her take on doing that.
Just be blunt and ask her if she could do that for you; of course in private or just before you two get your groove on.
Thats what my husband does.....he asks before we proceed with love making...and well, I do it.
2006-12-04 06:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋