well, this is what i mean. i was with this girl for about 4 years, and we had talked about getting married but then things happened and we decided to hold off. well, we recently broke up a couple off months ago actually and well, i still have feelings for her and she says the same about me but cant handle being with me cause i have anger issues. but its more then just that, that we are no longer together. anyways i have done some stupid things since we broke up, one being, i tried pretending i was someone else and was talking to her and well, i eventually told her that it was me, but now shes pissed off. anyways, guess im just wondering if i should just let her go or what. like i said i still love her and miss her, but all i seem to be doing is things that hurt her or make her mad at me even more. just really confused i guess
2006-12-04 05:59:28 · 5 answers · asked by pearme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
send her a message - a text, letter, email, whatever. in this message tell her you're sorry, that you still love her and want her back. try and explain motives for what you did, if you can think what they were - maybe it was only way you could think to get her to talk to you - and tell her anything else you want her to know. put a lot of thought into it.
after that wait for her to cantact you, or not. if she doesn't get in touch, leave it and let go. if she does, good for you. but don't do any more crazy things - bad idea
seriously this letter is really important. think of it as the last thing you'll ever say to her. like a parting comment. a goodbye. and don't forget to apologise and it's probably not a bad idea to mention that it's up to her to get in touch if she wants or not if she doesn't
2006-12-04 06:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just sick, pretending to be someone else is seriously wrong, but I understand it was an act of desperation. The thing about the relationship answer on here are that people can give suggestions on what to do but everybody lives in different cultures, societies, and lives. How a relationship effects everyone is different for each different person. All we can do is suggest and its up to you to make the right decison that fits your life. My suggestion is to break things off and see if you can stand on your own for a while. It seems as if you are incapable of living a seperate life without her. Yes I understand that she is the woman you think you love (forgive me for being pesimistic) but are you sure its just not that fact that you like the comfort you feel you have in that relationship already. I know it sucks to start over and go through that whole awkward phase of dating and meeting somebody new but I'm not suggesting you do that,maybe you need to figure yourself out a little bit before you commit to a caring and equitable relationship (possibly with her again if shes willing to do it again, but do not harass her she needs space too). and take some anger management classes or learn a breathing technique.
2006-12-04 06:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you must step back for a time, to continue your life without her, to concentrate your attention to other things that means a lot to you, for example your family, your friends. Try to find a girl to understand you but not suffocate her whith your presence.Give her enough space.
2006-12-04 06:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by angi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girl. Move on. It's O-V-E-R !!! You have ruined it so forget her. There are toooooo many horses in the corral to get all screwed up over one.
2006-12-04 06:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pretended to be someone else for what reason exactly?? To fish for information about YOURSELF??? HAHA you screwed up, have anger issues, and wont leave her alone,,,,hmmm.....I say leave her A L O N E .......
2006-12-04 06:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by dramafreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋