He treats my wife (his daughter) with very little respect, and his wife (my mother-in-law) says, "he isn't going to change, he's 55."
We purchased the grandparents' place, his shop is on our property, right in our back yard. He is a truck driver, and constantly leaves a mess. When he changes a tire he leaves it in the drive way. When he cleans the trash our of hsi truck, he makes a little pile and burns it, in the driveway! The last big thing was the pile of tires he brought home. He got a good deal on a box trailer; it was a good deal because it was full of old truck tires. Truck tires are hard (and expensive) to dispose of. He promised they would be gone with in a week, it has been two months now. There are probably 50-60 very large truck tires! Every time we try to talk to him he completely misunderstands and tells all the neighbors we are being unreasonable and "rotten" to him! His other daughter lives in Boston and never visits, I'm thinking we should move too!
2006-12-04 05:35:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, he is impossible, and his wife is right, he won't change. You won't be happy there, you can rent the house out or sell and get out of there.
2006-12-04 05:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, you should have been more careful to really understand what you're getting into by living there. Didn't you see this man's lifestyle before buying the property? It sounds to me like there may be little to no room for compromise which is unfortunate but he's obviously not intending to bend over backwards to please anyone. Have a very long talk with your wife and ask her what she wants and what would make her happy. Do your best to comply with her wishes and bite your toungue until further arrangements can be made. He sounds difficult so just stay out of his way. If it's too much to handle, the yes, move. But you have to get your wife on board. It's her family and that makes it a very sensitive subject.
2006-12-04 06:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's called a sheeny e. The tires are worth money, Now-a-days they use the rubber to mix in the blacktop that they pave your roads with. Its just findingout who buys them. Even thou it was his house at one time, it's not his now. He has to realize that if there is a complaint filed, about the condition of the property it's going to be your problem not his. Try having one of your friends call and complain, they usually give you a warning the first time. At least you will have a letter that he can read to justify your concern. you remember the saying (can't teach a old dog new tricks) don't believe it. If you do you'll either be moving or doing a lot of work.
2006-12-04 06:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you got yourself in a very awkward situation that doesn't foster many plausible solutions
what you need to do is determine of how far into debt you wish to go before you finally realize ugly truth, you are the one who will be stuck paying to remove everything it's just a matter of how long it will take to stop any further dumping
good luck Tom AL USA
2006-12-04 05:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said that you purchased this property? so your the owner of it? if this is the case some times you have to treat them as a tenant not family. give him a written notice that he has to move it from the property or face eviction.you may not have a choice.if you are not the owners then yes maybe it is time to move.
2006-12-04 05:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude - this sounds like a scene out of Deliverance.
I bet you $100 those tires "ain't" moving unless you have them removed.
I think you answer your own question a few times as well did your mammy in law - "you ain't changing you 'ol father in law - he's 55"
2006-12-04 05:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋