i moved out of my dads house when i turned 17 and didnt move back because of the way he was he was an alcoholic and he doesnt know how to control it and he gets out of hand any way my stepmom finally left him and he is starting to realize that he has a problem but he dont want to change what can i do he is losing his family and there is nothing i can do i want to help him change and do better and get his family back including me what can i do help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????
2006-12-04 05:31:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is going to have to want to change for himself. U can tell him to get help untill u are blue in the face but it won't work untill he's ready. Maybe him losing everyone will open his eyes. U must obviously care alot about your dad so just check in on him a few times and keep trying to ask him to get help. Maybe you can try recording him when hes drunk and acting up and then show it to him when hes sober. Maybe if he sees how ridiculous he is acting when he drinks that will make him want to stop. Good luck.
Remember that there are doctors and counslers that you can go to for help. Also try and find out if there are any AA groups in your area. Someone there might be better abled to help.
2006-12-04 05:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, but he will not change unless he wants to even to the point of losing his family. I have watched my father go through the same pattern (not with alcohol) for the past 26 years with selecting wives. My mom was his first wife, and now he is on his fourth marriage. My dad has been divorced twice and widowed once (third marriage). He has alienated my brother and me from himself again for the second time in our lives (second wife caused alienation too). We rebuilt our relationship during the third marriage only to have been destructed during the fourth marriage. I wish I had better news. I have included a resource to help you more.
2006-12-04 14:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. He is the only one who can help himself, maybe he will realize what the alcohol is doing to him and get help. My own dad had the same problem, he finally solved his problem in his fifties. He lived another twenty years before all his past sins caught up to him and died of liver failure. Sorry about your dad.
2006-12-04 13:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry but opinion is, you couldn't possibly posses the qualifications required to achieve the goals you have mentioned
i am afraid you would simply be spinning your wheels and succumb to mental and soon physical exhaustion were you to try to take on such a burdensome and complicate task
once he overcomes most of the major preliminary hurdles opportunity's to re-enter his life will emerge when the time is right
Good Luck Tom AL USA
2006-12-04 13:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, there isnt anything you can do if he see that what he is doing is hurting him and still wants to do it the you just have to set back and let it happen. you pushing him to get help is just going to make matters worse. but when he is ready for help then you need to be there for him and show him that someone does love him still. you cant change people all you can do is help show them what they are doing worng and hope that they want to change
2006-12-04 13:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU can't do anything that you aren't already doing. He has to make the change all by himself or it won't work...On a positive note...Looks like he's close. The first step is realization.
2006-12-04 13:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention.
2006-12-04 13:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to want it i am going through this with my brother so i know how you are feeling because i have to take my brothers kids all the time but really he has to want to quit we all want for the best for our family but they have to want it too!!I pray all the time for him and i know one day god will change this so i can tell you to pray and don't give up hope o.k god bless you and your family !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 13:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until he wants to do something about it you cant force him. There is a show on tv called intervention maybe they have a web site were you can contact them to help.
2006-12-04 13:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no attention to bad behavior
2006-12-04 13:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋