hello our daughter has just started to cause a problem at night time, she gets up to use the toilet then refuses to go back to bed to sleep and just stands in the hall way crying for me her mum she will only return back to her bed and sleep if me or her dad gets up puts her back to bed and one of us sleep on the sofa then she will settle.This is a new problem has only been going on for a few weeks we have tried all the usuall things as parents as u do but we have had no success so far in solving this problem we are now at out witts end with this any idieas will be helpfull please help thanks.
2006-12-04 05:26:17 · 15 answers · asked by WayneO1964 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sounds like she's probably still asleep when she gets up to use the toilet then wakes up in the hallway, confused and scared to be out of bed. Perhaps a small kiddy toilet in her room would be a good temporary solution. Otherwise, I think just a quick, quiet, calm escort back to her bed until she moves out of this phase is most appropriate. Do not punish her - she's not trying to control you and is most likely very upset by the whole thing as well.
2006-12-04 05:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It'll take some time and several sleepless nights, but you need to be consistant in putting back into her own bed. Stay with her a few minutes for her to get settled and then you go off to bed yourself. If she gets upset, then do same thing over again. She will get used to you not sleeping in the same room anymore as long as you don't cave in. If you give up and sleep with her, she'll know she just has to push the bar higher to get what she wants.
2006-12-04 05:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw a similar situation on Super Nanny or Nanny 911 and though I don't completely agree with their approach all of the time, some of their methods are quite effective. Seeing as this is a "new" problem, and your daughter slept fine on her own prior, the Nannies recommend you or your husband simply take your daughter and put her right back in her bed-- don't crash out on the sofa, and don't say a word, don't coddle or pamper your child back into her own bed. Simply lead her back to her bed (or even carry her if you have to), tuck her right in-- again without saying a word, and go right back to your room.
Your daughter may creep back out a few times and cry for you or your husband, but same thing, keep repeating the steps: lead her back to her bed without saying a word. After just a couple of times, she'll understand and accept that she's to go right back to sleep in her own bed and you in yours...not the sofa!
It's far easier said than done, because you and your husband will feel an urge to talk to her and comfort her back into her bed. Well, apparently children take this as a sign that it's hard for you and that if she's persistent enough, one of you will 'cave', one of you will just crash out on the sofa so she can go back to sleep.
HTH!
2006-12-04 05:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by olliebee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be firm with her, because this will become a habit that can last for a long time. Put her to bed, tell her that you love her, give her the favourite toy and leave. If she cries, tell her that it will not make a difference, she will stop withhin a few days, once she gets the drift. It's amazing how quickly they learn if you make the effort to be persistent. It will take a lot of willpower on your part, but in the end it's worth it. Try to start on a Friday night and use it over the weekend, so you won't lose too much sleep for work. I bet you, by being consistent she'll be over it in two days.
2006-12-04 05:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah i agree with Laura. She is trying to see how far she can go and what she can do. Keep putting her back to bed and tell her very briefly, "its bed time" and put her back to bed with no conversation. Also try to limit drinks about an hour before she goes to bed. My friend daughter used to do this and she was stopped giving drinks after 6.00, this worked very well and she wasnt getting up o use the toilet, as well as what i have said above.
Good luck i hope you get this solved.
2006-12-04 23:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried a few night lights along the way. My son was half asleep on the way but by the time he finished he was more awake and bothered by the dark. We also showed him how to tuck himself back in and fix the blankets. He then felt more in control, and would stop by and wake me up (yeah that sucked - LOL), let me know that he was done and was going back to bed....he would call me if he needed me....hope this helps - Good luck
2006-12-04 05:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont say how old she is?
If she is still under 6 then this is normal. U just have to accept that u will have to get out of bed each night. Take it in turns and keep calm. She will grow out of it soon
Have u tried expaining to her that she is waking up mummy and daddy and that she should just go back to bed?
Just think it is better than bed wetting!
2006-12-04 05:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 3 year old did the same when we recently moved I found that if I put a potty in her room with a night light beside it she had no excuse she eventually gave up on the screamming tactic when we ignored her orders it took about a week but she is back to sleeping through the night hope this helps good luck
2006-12-04 05:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kara B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try taking her back to her own bed without tlkin to her x every times she gets up keep doing without talking to her, and eventually she should relalize tht its not working in her way x so she'll give up and go to bed,
2006-12-04 05:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes just woke up and unsure where she is, it'll stop soon, its a pain but go along with it, it'll stop in no time!
2006-12-04 05:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋