well heres my situation.. i was with him for 2years.. and i recently cheated on him.. it was a one time thing.. and yesterday i told him what happen. he left me and told me that he doesnt want me in his life.. i dont know what to do. but i love him soo much and i cant live my life right without him.. i need him and i dont know what im gonna do without him.. i told him how i feel and i begged for him.. i know i should give him space.. but how will i ever get my sweatheart back?
2006-12-04 05:25:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
#1, you may feel, at this point, that you can't live oyur life without him, but I guarantee that it is possible. The hardest part of a relationship is taking it to another level or ending it. Both options are just as nerve wracking as the other.
You were unfaithful and it is more difficult for a man to forgive than a woman. Men are more inbred to stray then a woman (even tho we are catching up). But a man thinks of you as his and once you have been unfaithful, you are no longer his, you were someone else's and that STINGS!
Best to cool it and let him come around. Maybe give him a call in a week or so and if he hangs up, try again a few weeks later. If he is a mature man, he'll understand that things like this happen and at least try to preserve a friendship (distant) but a freindship at that. If he is not mature, he hop on the first pair of panties he can just to feel as tho he has gotten even.
Good luck Chick!
2006-12-04 05:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Myndlynd T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters right now he just wants to be alone right now he needs his time to think and be with friends etc... thats the norm and as much as you say u cant you can live ur life without him u just dont want to believe me i know exactly how ur feeling another thing is that the rejection is killing you inside considering you feel like you did what u thought is right by telling him you did cheat so y is he not talkn to you or just dont want u in his life well thats for many reasons and im sure u can understand esp if it were vice versa and he cheated on u im sorry to say but the only way that you will or can get him back is to let him go i know ur like nah no way but the more you call and try to get him back right now the more chances are he will only keep rejecting you and it will only hurt that much more please remember if its meant to be it will be "time heals" i hate this process too you should check out the questions i posted this way you will see your not alone i lost my bf of 3 yrs well this new years would of been our 3 yr anniversary havent spoken or seen eachother since imagine how i feel chances are its over for good and im depressed and a mess right now im messing up in college i cant think str8 all i do is lay in bed and watch movies and cry so believe me sweety we all go thru this bs its all a part of "love" i wish it werent soo hard
2006-12-04 05:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation with about a 8 year past with my ex boyfriend. Don't keep calling or bugging him let him think, it is hard as hell not having him in your life. Just take one day at a time. Maybe call him once or twice a week, if he doesn't return your phone calls don't keep calling him. Please take my advice I kept calling and it has all turned around to hatefullness right now. Let him know how much you care about him and that you want to be with him more than anything and leave it at that don't keep telling him. It will be horrible with out him, it's been a month for me and it ony feels like it's gotten worse because I kept calling. Keep a positive attitude and try to keep on going with your life.
2006-12-04 05:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you tell him? Sometimes it is better to keep quiet than to hurt someone we love. There must have been a good reason that you told him. If it was a one time thing and it was never ever going to happen again why tell him in the first place...except to hurt him or break up the relationship. Good luck on finding a new sweet heart.
2006-12-04 05:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by dpon62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him somuch , what were you thinking when you were cheating?
think,how would you feel if he cheated on you.
it doesn't matter 1 time thing or 2, 3, 4, 5, .. it is cheating on the person who trusts you, loves you.
anyway, I think he was right ending your relationship and sure he needs some space, some time to calm down and figure out if he still cares about you... you shouln'd bother him for a while, as you will just hurt him. if you realy care about him, wait passionatly and don't see other guys
2006-12-04 05:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you did get him back, it's going to take time to rebuild that trust you guys had and not to mention when he cheats on you for payback you can't say anything about it. I would take it as a life lesson learned. You shouldn't have done that to him. Once a cheater always a cheater in my mind..most people's minds too. He will probably forgive you but forget, never. You guys will have a broken relationship from not on out....just move on.
2006-12-04 05:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats harsh.....but you know what if you really want him back you have a lot to prove to him...I mean the relationship has to start back again from step one....but thats if he wants to even give you a second chance. IF he does give you a second change things wont start right where you left of and another thing fogive and forget is not the same thing....IF he gives you a second change dont expect things to be the same.....cause they wont....
honestly I dont really thing he will be willing to give you a second chance but if he really loves you then he will....for now just give him some space....
2006-12-04 05:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by shygrl52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u say that u really love him like u said that u do, then u would have never would have cheated on him!!! if he told u that he doesnt want u in his life. then there is no way that u can get him back!!!!
2006-12-04 05:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him you wouldn't have cheated. Your loss, another womens gain. Hopefully you will learn from your "mistake". I don't think he should take you back. Once trust is lost in a relationship, it is soooo hard to get that back. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-12-04 05:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋