Just wondering what will be your comments on this one.....I have a friend whose parents are arraging his marrigae with his cousin (it is perfectly OK to marry cousin in their culture - so no comments on that please).
The problem is he loves his parents and they support him everytime he needs anything...money or whatever.... the problem is he is almost 6 foot and his cousin is almost 5foot.. he thinks she a bit too short for him and he never thought about getting married with her
.... but if he does get married with her he will have a good life by having his everything done by his wife...including cooking, dishes, everything done at home... guaranteed... as she is grown to be a house wife....
What would you do if you are in this situation>? Please this is very serious matter...he needed my help and I know Yahoo user can tell the best...I wrote what I understood. Again this is not DISGUSTING in their culture...just imagine another lady instead of cousin if is matters....
2006-12-04 05:24:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just checked with him.....
He says he does not like his mom's family anyway (cousin is from mom's family) and he is worrying about, if he gets married else where, and there is any trouble or something his family will not help him or blame him for doing that lame thing!! ( please not his whole family is agreed with mom)
2006-12-04 05:38:01 · update #1
In my thinking there is nothing wrong with a shorter woman. My husband is 6'2 and I am 5'2. I am the shortest in my family (my parents alsways said the best things come in small packages). I wouldn't want to marry any of my cousins on my mom's side either, they are (as some would say) from the wrong side of the tracks. I care about them dearly but their religious and political beliefs are not shared with mine.
The issue that I see here is that your friend has been catered to by his parents and have given him every opportunity in life. He needs to talk openly and respectfully to his parents of his concerns. Perhaps they can work with the local matchmaker to find other young ladies who would be suitable matches for him
2006-12-04 08:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should sit his parents down and have a chat and say that he is not happy and if he doesnt mind the whole arranged marriage thing then perhaps get them to arrange a marrriage from somewhere else i knw its hard in asian family's to talk but it's better that it's done now rather than later pass on my good luck wish's!
2006-12-04 13:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by sassy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good deal to me. "Romantic love" as a reason for getting married hasn't worked well if the United States is an example. Note the 50% divorce rate. Till death do us part.
2006-12-04 13:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tomm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is an arranged marriage. Why does he think he has a say in who his family chooses for him.
I don't care if it is his cousin. He should respect her. His family obviously respects her or they would not have picked her to be his wife
Also, he is not so tall himself being "almost 6 foot". That is kinda short for males.
2006-12-04 13:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my understanding that even in arranged marriages, the would-be couple has some input. How much that is respected varies from parent to parent. Is height the only thing that is bothering him about this? Somehow, I think that's just the surface.
2006-12-04 13:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his only issue for not wanting to marry her is their height difference then he should go ahead and do it. I am 5' 3" and I have dated men as tall as 6'7" and everything still works out just fine.
2006-12-08 08:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsexylocs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so he's taller bug deal....the problem i have is marriage among relatives...from a genetic side who knows what could be wrong with any children they have...and if just wants someone to cook,clean etc for him let his parents hire a maid for him,or he can continue to live at home and his mommy can continue to do this stuff
2006-12-04 13:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married for love not money an i live a good life with my family.
2006-12-04 13:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Height? That is the problem? Umm, I think a bigger issue might be is he going to get along with her? Not that she is not tall enough.
2006-12-04 13:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That better not be a first cousin, and if it is it would explain alot about your people.
2006-12-08 10:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋