I've been with this girl for 8 months and I really loved her and I was willing to spend my whole life with her. She broke up with me because she couldn't take the fact we kept fighting but thing is she doesn't realize "she's" the problem. I accumalate my anger until I'm ready to burst out and i know its a bad thing. Everytime we fight she manages to win the fight because i know she's wrong but i juss try to ignore the fact she's always "right". Its been a month passed and I recently found out she's been ditching school for a week and spending time with this guy who I don't like because he's a freaking pot head. I found hickey's all over her neck and it hurt me at the fact that I still really cared about her. People tell me to move on and I try my best to do it but its really hard for me. I don't know if I should talk some sense into her or juss let it be until she realize what she's done. And she is scared shitless at the fact she's "dept" in goin to the marines. Suggestions?
2006-12-04 05:24:17 · 17 answers · asked by Eldrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of the few things I know for sure, I know one thing very well: ANYONE can disappoint you. Be lucky you were only with her for eight months before she flaked on you. Some people devote twenty years to another person who proceeds to ruin it all just to have a fling with a stranger.
Most people are slaves to whim and animal instinct, and the one percent who aren't stay away from the other ninety-nine percent. Even what masquerades as "true love" is so often just lust in disguise. Start setting your life goals with the idea that you're going to be single and have LOTS of time to spend on what YOU want to do. It will take a while to get used to being alone, because we get addicted to the notion of fake romance, but it is worth it. No one can boss you around, screw you over, or waste your time when you're single!
Don't waste another minute worrying about this girl or any other! It's not worth it!
2006-12-04 05:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by monkeyandmolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In her point of view, (i've been there before), she may be feeling like she needs to explore her options.
In my situation, I was seeing a guy for a long time then we broke up for a year, so I could start seeing this other guy who was a drunk and a pothead. I'm not sure why I went with this guy, but it felt good not care about anything and I could just go out with this guy and get plastered and not give a **** about anything. It took me a while to figure out what I really wanted. And what I really wanted was my ex back... so I called him and apologized for leaving him. I explained to him about everything and he accepted me again. We've been back together for over a year now, and still going strong. We plan on having children in a year to two, so it's good.
Give her some time she'll come around, you just have to let her know that you still care and will be there for her.
2006-12-04 13:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doncha start smokin da reefer yourself? Show up at a place you know she'll be with a hot chick wrapped around your arm and a super duper phatty rolled up behind your ear. Tell em all how much you love smoking tha dutch master, and tell your eyecandy that the blunt isnt the phattest thing you have on you (wink wink). That'll make her dope smoking a$s so upset she'll probably start doing heroin. That'll teach her for leaving you in the first place.
2006-12-04 13:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting high and hickeys? She's moved on. You should too. If she is not concerned about the marine thing, why should you be. Let it go and move on. Some people have to hit rock bottom to understand bad decisions.
2006-12-04 13:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is super funny but now that i read the details, i understand. dont TRY talk any sense into her, because you are asking for another fight. If you still care about her, then tell her maybe then she will open up her ears and listen to you
2006-12-04 13:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated a someone who smoked pot all the time, for almost 4 years. let me tell you, at the end it's all going to fall apart for her.
I know you care, but she has to find out on her own what that sort of relationship is all about. Please let her go. Wish her the best, and pray for her if it makes you feel better, but let her figure it out on her own. You should take care of your self first. There is someone lined up for you don't you worry. :) :) :)
2006-12-04 13:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a keeper. You will find someone with whom you do not fight and who does not always have to be right. If it is all her fault, why do you still want her?
You're young. It gets easier to let go.
2006-12-04 13:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her join the marines. Unless your a friggen hippie.
2006-12-04 13:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care Let her go, let her learn from her mistakes, sounds like she will be confronted with many of them, and if she truely cares she will thank you later
2006-12-04 13:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just hope the best for her. Maybe she will come around to her senses,and hopefully it won't be to late...good luck.
2006-12-04 13:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by cece w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋