I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. People have told me I should leave him but Ive stook by him. As we stay longer together, I feel close to him but slowly not as romanticly but more as close friends. I know he doesnt feel the same way.
Another issue is I have met someone who I am starting to like a bit, romanticly. Hes 22 and I am 20. We just talk nothing more. I cant cheat on my bf, so I've told this other guy that we are strictly friends.Getting to know e/other though is making it hard. I would love to give this guy a chance but there is one thing I dislike, he admitted that after 1yr of being with someone he analyzes the relationship & if he doesnt see himself marrying the person he leaves them. Its like he has an expiration date! So i ask, do I want to get involved with this guy? I could see myself falling for him but nervous that theres a chance after 1year he'll leave.I think hes getting tiered of waiting though he says i'm worth it.
What do you guys think?
2006-12-04 05:23:36 · 10 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would stay away from a guy who only gives a relationship one year to find out whether he'll be marrying her or not. Sounds like he's just a closet commitment-phobe. On the other hand, if you're desiring to try other relationships, maybe you should break up with your current guy and date around a little bit. I wouldn't be exclusive with the other guy right away. Be cautious and be on your guard.
2006-12-04 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I'd stay with my current boyfriend! It's normal for romance to dwindle a bit in long term relationships. But just because the heat is gone, doesn't mean the love is gone! Being close friends with a guy is crucial to making the relationship last and it sounds like you've got that going on with your bf. And the other guy, like you said, has an expiration date. It's good that he tells you that up front, but why risk losing a good relationship when this other guy could dump you in a year? My advice is stick to your man and find ways to bring the romance back. Go for a walk in the moonlight. Make him dinner and eat by candlelight. Cultivate your friendship and your relationship at the same time and I think you'll have great results!!
2006-12-04 13:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by elvishgeek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love someone, when is enough enough? You've seen the movie the Mexican haven't you? If not the answer is never. You don't sound very happy in your relationship with your bf and you don't seem to love him romantically anymore. However, you do seem very excited about this new guy who has told you that you have a year or less or more. I wonder why nobody like your bf, what has he done to you? Neither choice sounds like a good one. If you're thinking of leaving your bf, why not go for someone who doesn't have a time limit on his relationships. There are no guarantees in life or love. The best we can do is try to find someone who is decent enough, ya know.
2006-12-04 13:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search within yourself to find your answer as to whether he is your "boyfriend" or just a friend. Your question sounds like you have other interests. If you do not feel committed to him, it is best to be honest with him. The truth hurts much less than a lie. Not telling one's true feelings is a lie of omission and is very destructive. It is best to be up front and honest. It seems as though you are hanging on to your current boyfriend who seems to be a sure thing in case the other guy decides that after a year, you are not the one for him. Not fair.
2006-12-04 13:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by grandmomarcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is perfect i have been waiting for a ? like this.i am 35 ive been on both sides of the fence.i have to say its real easy get out of the relationship.you are to young anyhow. you should be testing all walks of life.get alittle older and see if you think and feel the same.dont rush.you will have plenty of time for headaches!!!!!and thats what relationships R a big freaking pain in the ***
2006-12-04 13:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by mnegro@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already given you an expiration date! Plus... he sees you already have a boyfriend and are considering him....bad stuff...he thinks, "will she do this to ME?" Finish up with one before starting another (I'm not a guy, but hope my opinion counts).
2006-12-04 13:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go for it...After 2 years and you are obviously not happy where you are at now, I wouldn't expect anything to magically change for the better... BUT... you MIGHT be happy with the other guy.
2006-12-04 13:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to decide what you want to do with your current boyfriend and the feeling you do or do not have for him. you can just leave him because you have found someone to replace him. if you decide to leave him it should be because you no longer are in love with him.you should be thinking about that first my dear.
2006-12-04 13:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being honest and telling you the truth right up front---so if u don't like that don't get involved...u are lucky---u have one of the honest ones
2006-12-04 13:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you want to do.
2006-12-04 13:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋