Tell her that you are impotent?
2006-12-04 05:22:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is due to surgery for cancer.
2006-12-04 05:36:51 · update #1
when the issue of sex arises....and remember, just because you are impotent does not mean you cannot be a great lover. and you also might look into new treatments for it. they have some amazing new devices out there. but even w/o these new things, you still have the ability to be an awesome lover.
2006-12-04 05:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sylvia H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go putting your foot in your mouth; what is the cause of your impotence? If it is for medical reasons such as diabetes then by all means tell her right away. If it is for psychological reasons I would suggest you get professional help to correct the situation first.
You do not go into a relationship with the absolute though of initiating a sexual phase right off the bat. Give yourself time to resolve your impotence. Once you've started the relationship and you trust your partner and you still haven't resolved your 'situation' tell her about it.
2006-12-04 05:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wish this relationship to move into a physical relationship, then she should be told as soon as you are comfortable discussing it with her. This way it gives her the opportunity to be "active" in the cure and it gives you the self confidence you will need to overcome your difficulties.
And just a touch of advice-don't drop it on her lap like a burning coal. Most women will be understanding (and maybe even a little excited about helping you out) if you mention it gently. Like, "Sweetheart, I really have enjoyed these past few weeks, and I'm excited to take our relationship to the next level, but before we go there, I think there are a few things you need to know. First is, I'm attracted to you and want to move our relationship into a more personal level, but do to (unforeseen circumstance?) I am unable to. I just want you to know and I'm looking forward to the time when this is not an issue for us."
2006-12-04 05:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Buttons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell her till after the relationship has reached a more then casual state and the need for her to know is evident. Such as marriage discussions take place.
2006-12-04 05:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by harry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's up to you..........if you think this is a serious relationship and you think it is about to get intimate...you can have a talk with your girlfriend....if she really cares about you...you might me surprised by her reaction....if this secret is eating your up...then tell her you have something to talk about right away...just to get this off your chest.
I'm sure she'll understand how sensitive of a subject this is to you....and the conversation will be OK..
Good Luck to you........
2006-12-04 05:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very rough decision, and I'm sorry you have that issue. However, something so important (and personal) should be approached carefully after you've started to go beyond the "friends" stage.
2006-12-04 05:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say if your dating to get married and your sharing lots of other things with her about yourself you should tell her as she may really want children naturally made you know... But if your just being friends I wouldn't tell her.
2006-12-04 05:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you think you want to be serious with her and in an exclusive relationship. If you are just casually dating wouldn't think that would have to be something you'd have to share.
2006-12-04 05:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by T C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her soon - being honest will always pay off - even if she leaves you for it - better to put it out there early then you wont have to deal with it later and her wonder why you wouldnt tell her sooner
2006-12-04 05:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her as soon as possible before things get serious. You poor thing
2006-12-04 05:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋