sexually, but i just dont want to be touched im tired and can hardly breathe sometimes, should i feel guilty because he says hes deprived
2006-12-04 05:22:23 · 14 answers · asked by leigha s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I realize you may be tired and have a hard time breathing sometimes but sex during pregnancy is healthy unless the doctor has a health concern that should require restraint.
Actually there is a hormone released with intercourse that can reduce the pain of delivery and even cause the onset of labor when the woman is due.
So unless the doctor has said, "No" don't deprive yourself or your husband right up to the time of delivery it is normally healthy for the woman.
2006-12-04 05:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't feel guilty, some men cannot touch their wife for 9 months because of problems, does that make them feel deprived. Tell him to grow up and stop being selfish. Give him a hand job, if he needs it that badly. If you really want to shut him up, lay on your side and let him do it from the back, maybe that will help him and you can take a nap while he's busy. By the way ask him, what he's going to do after the birth, when he has to wait a month.
Good Luck!
2006-12-04 05:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd like to make sure you're getting your routine prenatal exams. You sound like someone who is in month eight or nine in terms of discomfort. Are you having problems with your health?
If not, then I'd recommend a combination of doing what you can for him and asking for his patience until your pregnancy (which is half his responsibility, BTW) is over. Try using your hands to pleasure him, or perform oral sex while he's standing and you're kneeling, lying on the bed or standing if he feels safe enough standing on the bed or a chair (but be careful, the last one can be dangerous).
If you're not up for any of that, don't forget that Christmas is coming up. You could get him a gift subscription to an adult magazine, to help him with masturbation. Also, there are many sex toys intended for men that he might find useful.
Also, has he stopped being sexually affectionate towards you? It it the case where every time he touches you, it's because he wants intercourse? That could be part of the problem and possibly part of the reason you don't want to be touched.
Finally, I think the two of you should talk about this. You need to tell him how uncomfortable you're feeling and that your lack of sexual activity is not a rejection of him, but a reflection of ill how you're feeling.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 05:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Drakkenfyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel guilty! You're husband should be a bit more understanding. If he was the one carrying the child he would be tired too. Having a baby brings many changes, especially in the bedroom department. There are many changes to come so be prepared! (But they are ALL worth it!) And by the way, congratulations!
2006-12-04 05:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by hot mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you!! I'm 5 months and totally disinterested. After working all day and coming home to cook, clean and care for my 2 year old, the last thing i'm interested in sex with hubby - I just want to sleep! At the same time , it's not fair to totally ignore him...
Get him to realize that pregnancy has lowered your energy level (you are carrying his child after all) and he's just not going to get sex as frequently as he's used to for the next little while. It's quite normal and he's a big boy - he can masturbate if he needs to. You can try sometimes getting up a little earlier in the morning (or if you wake up in the middle of the night) and give him a bj - it's quicker, doesn't take as much energy, and he's happy.
2006-12-04 06:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't feel guilty. If you don't want to have actual sex, try to engage in romantic outings or romantic pleasures. You can have a nice dinner...give each other massages...cuddle up and watch a movie. Have a good time and *gently* remind him how stressful pregnancy is. It's tough on the body and it's hard to have the same desire that he has. Your body is going through major changes...and you're almost there!!! He doesn't have much longer to wait.
2006-12-04 05:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 out of 10 women, including myself, feel/felt that way during pregnancy. And, unfortunally for your husband, that lack of sexual desire often lasts for months after the baby is born, mainly because of all the energy that you will be putting in taking care of your new baby. So no, dont feel guilty!
2006-12-04 05:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Delphine F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy him stock in the Vaseline company!!
Tell your "husband" to grow up. He sounds like a selfish ***. Here's another idea. Kick him in the nuts, then ask him for sex the next day! For the love of God, you're carrying his child!
2006-12-04 05:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel guilty because he feels deprived. Sorry you feel tired and breathless. Do his hands work? Do yours?
2006-12-04 05:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋