... anything to help us at all what so ever. Then- had the nerve to ***** about everything, even the invitations. Without going into extreme details lets just say it got pretty bad. My mom/ sis and brides maid had my bridal shower. His fam was invited since they obviously were not going to have one.Now- we are expecting our first baby. His grandma came out and asked "oh- so your family is doing the baby shower right?" I just stated, "my family is having a shower for me." Without mentioning if her fam was invited or they should have their own. Its getting time to make an invite list and my mom is being the better person and saying, just invite them, how bad could it be. I look at all the time, effort and money that is already spent on my shower. Why cant his fam do their own thing for once? I asked my husband to talk to his mom about it.... what do I do if they dont want to do one? I know they will be upset if I we dont invite them to my familys... and I hate drama!!!
2006-12-04 05:17:04 · 6 answers · asked by sunflower222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow this sounds like my in laws. I dont think you should invite them. Sounds like They dont deserve to be there, They sound like users. They should make an effort to do something! They cant do anything for you so why should you go out of your way for them. Its your baby shower and you shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable at your party. I wouldnt invite them if I were you
2006-12-04 05:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is right, be the better person and invite them. maybe you could just give one of them a call and say listen this is still what needs to be done and ask them to give you and your mother a hand.get them involved.maybe this will help.if they are not willing to help out i know i know just let it go. then if they show up and start complaining then tell them right then and there. that you asked for their help and they did not want to do any thing, and that you don't appreciate them insulting all the work that you family put into this.and make it clear that in the future they will not be invited to any family functions.some times you have to point blank.
2006-12-04 06:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband talks to his family and they say there are not going to thow one for you the i wouldnt even bother inviting them to the shower cuz obviously they want nothing to do with the planning but have something to say if it not up to their liking. The whole point of a wedding/baby shower is that the bride/mother to be is comfortable and everything is to be to YOUR liking and no one elses
2006-12-04 06:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by preaciousbutton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite them and don't talk about it around them. If they do not do one then just do not go out of your way for his side of the family on thier get togethers. If you just stay quiet and don't mention it and tell him to not then your family can do thiers with out his bothering your family. If the subject does come up then just say you thought each side of the family was supose to like at other holidays and such then switch to another topic.
2006-12-04 05:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yap that's When 2 Familys r supposed to be coming one. But that's not like that, only u and your husband became one! Remeber u picked the husband, and his family came with him. Just take them as they r, u can Not change them. They will just have to learn to know u as u r, I wouldn't change for them either. Just be yourself. Do what u WANT to do. If u r really lost, then Say it in there face. And yes, I have the same problam, almost got it over though! Thanks for reading!
2006-12-04 05:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hate DRAMA so much why are you creating so much drama. Listen to your MOTHER she seems to be the only ADULT in this situation.
2006-12-04 05:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋