I have several tattoo's but everytime I get one, it's always a fight with my husband. He hates them. He says if I get to many he will think I'm ugly. In my eyes, that means he doesn't love me no matter what. Am I wrong here?
2006-12-04 05:07:10 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
You are right, maybe it's time to get another husband that will except you for who you are.
2006-12-04 05:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
That depends, but neither of you is 100% right or wrong no matter what. And there really is no such thing as "love no matter what." If there was, then there would be no divorces, no miserable spouses, no cheating, and everyone would be happily together until "death do us part."
If you had even one tattoo when you two met, dated, fell in love, got married, etc... then he's wrong. He knew that you enjoyed tattoos when he said "I do." So he has no right to complain when you get one now.
If you have gotten all of your tattoos after the wedding, then you should have thought it through more before the first one was ever done.
Since you can't change the past, talk to him about a compromise for the future. Each of you should list what you want. Paper or verbally, you two need to know where the other one stands.
Example list:
1. How many do you want, and how many is too many for him?
You want to cover your whole body, he wants you to limit it to 5 tattoos.
2. How big is too big for a design?
You think that there is no such thing, he thinks that anything bigger than the palm of his hand is too big on a woman.
3. What designs are acceptable?
You think anything goes, he thinks that it needs to be feminine, like a rose or heart.
4. What places are off limits for a tattoo location?
You think anywhere on the body is fair game, while he wants you to limit it to traditional female locations, like the ankle or shoulder blade.
Once you both have shared your views, find a middle ground for each. Again using the examples from above for example answers:
1. How many? One per area: one per leg, one per arm, one per shoulder blade, one on the lower back, etc...
2. How big? Instead of his palm, it can be as big as his foot.
3. Designs? You can get anything you want, as long as it doesn't offend him, like a nude man might make him really mad.
4. Location? Nothing highly visable, like the neck, back of your hand, face, etc...
Ask him to go with you the next time you want a tattoo. Let him help pick out the design, and the spot you put it. He'll probably be more accepting if he is involved in the decision.
2006-12-04 05:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well on the one hand, it is your body and you can do what you like with it, but on the other hand, when you get married you are entering into a partnership with a person. You should take his desires into account, as long as he doesn't take it to an extreme. Plus, keep in mind that the tattoos you like so much now may not look so great 10 or 20 years from now. But ultimately, it's up to you. And if you guys simply can't agree, you'll probably end up going for a divorce.
2006-12-04 05:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Viki 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you had tattoos before you were married, then he should have realized that you love getting tattoo's and that you weren't just going to stop because you got married. You probably should have talked about this before getting married to find out your issues/feelings on this issue. I say next time you want to get a tattoo, sit down with your husband about what you want to get done, see if he likes it. Maybe it is the design he objects to and not the tattoo itself. Good luck!
2006-12-04 05:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by aloneinga 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I like tattoos but I agree too many on a person is distracting to their personality. But second your not wrong. Your hubby should be in compliance and supportive to what you want to do and become in life. Maybe you two should really sit down and discuss your likes for tattoos. Maybe he can comprimise on a number? Also maybe your next tattoo can cover up an old one you really don't enjoy anymore so your not covering your body head to toe.
2006-12-04 05:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he shoud love you whether or not you have tattoos, you are more than what you look like physically. However, I do think you should respect his wishes to SOME extent. First off, you know he doesn't like them, so you already know it'll start a fight when yuo get a new one. You guys need to comprimise. This will just happen every time you decide yuo want a new tattoo.
2006-12-04 05:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yikes. my husband doesn't hate tattoos but he doesn't like all tattoos and there are definitely tattoos that he doesn't want me to get. my plan is to let him get his next two tattoos (chest piece and calf piece) and then ask him if i can get the tattoos i want... we'll see how that happens.
i don't think it means he doesn't love you. but some guys don't think that a lot of tattoos on a girl is attractive. maybe he just liked the way you looked better before the tattoos. i don't know what to tell you but good luck on all of your future work.
2006-12-04 13:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i kind of agree with ur husband, i;m in the same boat as u in a way.
my husband has 7 and he wants more and i don;t want him to get anymore. I think that women with to many tattoos looks awful and tastless. as long as u can cover most of then up if needed then its fine. bu i wouldn't get anymore if i were u.
2006-12-07 07:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by laydenirvine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband hates tattoos! what do I do?
2014-12-16 10:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, too many can look kind of trashy. Have you ever watched Miami Ink on TLC? There is a female tatoo artist on the show by the name of Kat. She is cute but she has tats pretty much all over her body and it looks kind of trashy to me. Now, your husband could have told you in a way that is not so rude but I do see where he is coming from.
2006-12-04 05:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband hates tattoos, then respect his wishes and don't get anymore. He probalby thought you were pretty with the few you had at the time you met and was willing to forgo that "flaw" in order to marry you. He's told you where he stands so he is being honest with you. you should value that in him.
2006-12-04 05:11:27 · answer #11 · answered by kwightman69 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋