Well me and my GF have just got together on saturday and she says that she is busy this week so we won't be able to see each other till sunday. We have only just got together at our works xmas party and we have decided together that we will give it a go but many people say that we should have been together a long time before now. should it bother me that it will be almost a week before i next see her. before everyone starts sayin that she is cheating i know this is not true as my best (female) friend that i have no feelings for apart from us being friends has told me that she is madly in love with me. So she isn't cheating or she would have told me. should i be bothered or not????
2006-12-04 05:02:29 · 23 answers · asked by scott C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to point out i never said that i thought she was cheating it was just to let the idiots on here that just seem to come on and immediatly think that the other person is cheating
2006-12-04 05:17:05 · update #1
also i have already met her mum as i work with her which was quite funny at the party actually. we both go to seperate colleges but we both work at the same place thats how i got to know her.
2006-12-04 05:19:13 · update #2
No, you should not be bothered. I know that i have busy times in my life (with school, work, and family) and my boyfriend has busy times in his life. So we have sometimes gone a week without seeing each other. Don't worry yet, find out what she is doing that makes her so busy, she may be volunteering somewhere, or have family issues right now. But if it persists, i would ask her what is going on. But don't worry now, i think you guys will be fine.
2006-12-04 05:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand about wanting to see your new girlfriend but maybe she isn't wanting to jump into seeing you everyday just yet maybe she's been hurt before or wants to take things a little slow. a week is a long time though. I would give her some space but after a couple days call and see if you can maybe meet her for a quick lunch. If she just can't seem to sqeeze you in for anything after a few days I would just say call me if you have any free time. Then let it go. A good friend of mine had a similar thing happen and the it turned out she really liked him but wasn't really ready for a relationship like he wanted. They ended up just being friends. About her cheating I think it's silly to get jealous like that this early on. If she wants to see other people I would assume she would tell you.
2006-12-04 13:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't be "cheating" if you're not even in a relationship yet!!
You are just beginning to start "dating" so of course I wouldn't be worried about a busy schedule, that's just the way it is especially around the holidays.
I'm seeing a guy maybe twice a week, three times if we're lucky, recently we weren't able to see each other for a whole week but who cares? We both have our own life and work and friends and other interests, when we are able to make time for each other it's great.
Keeping a bit of space can help you to not get overly caught-up in something, especially at the beginning when you have no idea if it may or may not work out. Just enjoy the time you do get, and take it one step at a time.
2006-12-04 13:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Like you said, you got together on Saturday and I bet she already had plans for the week before this which she would have been unable to change (and it would be unfair of you to expect her to). After all, it is the Xmas period which is always busy and she probably has all sorts to sort out, people to meet, etc etc. You have also only just started to date so a little early for her to start introducing you to her circle of friends and family. Be patient. She has arranged to meet you on Sunday so I would guess that the following week would be a little different. If you start expecting too much too soon then you could end up ruining something that could be wonderful.
2006-12-04 13:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by JACQUI S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she says she is busy in the week why shouldn't it be true. If you only got together on Saturday, she would have already made plans for this week. It maybe plans which she cannot get out of, for example, a dentist appointment. She may be going out Christmas shopping. There are hundreds of good reasons why she would not be able to see you. If your female friend says your girlfriend is mad about you, why can't you believe it. Meet up with her on Sunday and go out and enjoy yourself. Remember Christmas is approaching and it is a very busy time of year especially for girls. Good Luck
2006-12-04 13:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only be bothered if you were married. From the sounds of it you have only got togehter. It takes time to start a relationship. You dont have to see each other every day straight away. Be true to yourself and dont worry about Ifs and maybe's. Other people should just let you get on with it. There is only 2 in this relationship of coarse everyone will have their opinions about it. But only the 2 of you can make each other happy. So do as you have decided with her and dont let other people tell you what to do with your relationship with her. On this occasion follow your heart not silly opinions of other people.
Have a good time. Relax and enjoy your new found relationship.
2006-12-11 11:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by wandera1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve only had one date and she is your girlfriend? After only one date how can she be cheating on you. When i date a guy for the first time i want at least 7 days to see how i feel about him before we see each other again. Perfectly normal.
2006-12-04 13:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Patti T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just busy. It's coming up to christmas so she may have family members to see or shop for, or she may have to work some overtime for the christmas present she's planning to buy you. Just relax and enjoy the time you do spend together.
2006-12-04 13:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this time of year its perfectly plusable to be busy, after all its december!!!
dont let the jealously thing start and finish your relationship before its even started!
come on, if everyone can see you two are good together, why can you? just enjoy the moments you have together.
you can call or text her you know!
texts are nice to receive.... why dont you send her one to say hi?
good luck in the future.
2006-12-04 13:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making a big deal out of nothing,,,,the way I see it you just want to be around her all the time,and that's not a bad thing..you miss her and that's sweet :)
dont do something you'll regret,have faith in her and trust that she's not cheating on you.
Good luck mate!
2006-12-04 13:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋