i am madly in love with someone, but i dont really know how she feels about me, and she is with someone. So here's the problem, christmas is coming up and i plan to get her something. so please amswer the 2 questions below:
1) what would be the best gift that says that i care for her greatly, but at the same time doesnt necessarily reveal that im in love with her? i really dont want to upset her or give the wrong empresion, and i dont what to hurt our friendship.
2) what should i not get her?
3) should i reveal my true feelings for her?
2006-12-04 04:49:15 · 7 answers · asked by 23486579 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also for referance she is a friend
2006-12-04 04:55:56 · update #1
first of all if she has someone in her life- the right thing to do is let it go- it's not right to go around breaking ohter people's relationship for your selfishness. If she felt something for you- don't you think she would have found a way to be single again and pursuade you?? us women have a really good sense of knowing when a man is interested in us. I'm sure she has an idea that you like her or are interested in her but for some reason- she's still with her guy and int's not fair for the guys she's with that you are trying to get her attention. If she was your GF or Wife would you like some guy trying to hook up with her knowing she has a man already? of course not! don't do something that you wouldn't want someone else to do to you!
Second of all- don't give her any x-mas gifts. IF she relaly loves her man and respects him- she will not accept anything from you no matter how big or expensive or nice a gift you give her- she will reject it. If she is a materialistic person and her relationship with her guy isn't going too good or she's not serious with him she will accept your gift and "play with your head." I find that us women could be materialistic sometimes and like getting attention from guys. Don't waste your money on her. Remember- she's only your crush and you can't act on that.
Third of all- find out with a friend to see how her relationship with her guy is. IF you find out that she is doing good with him- don't tell her any thing and just back away. IF you find out she's not too serious with her guy and it may end- the proper thing to do is wait! When you find out she's single again give her some time to get over it but during that time- try to pursuade her as a friend frist. For all i know- you don't know much about this girl and if you try to hook up with her without getting to know her first you will have about 65% chance of being disappointed. If things are cool with her (give yourself about 2 weeks to get to know her a bit) then- go for it! and hopefully everything will be great. Good luck to you!
Other than that if her relationship is good with her guy- just forget it! move on and look for someone who is single!
2006-12-04 05:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) if you know what types of things she likes, get a gift card or something to that place, like McDonalds or Target or something. Don't get her anything that will for sure tell her that you like her. She does have a b/f.
2) Don't get her jewelry or clothes. The jewelry is saying too much, and clothes are so hard to buy for girls....leave that one alone.
3) I wouldn't tell her how u feel just yet. Give it some time. Maybe the b/f will get her something for x-mas that she will hate or be offended by and will dump him.
2006-12-04 13:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make yourself look dumb.she has someone. by her a nice chirsmass card and put a $100.00 gift card or more at a expensive store that's going to make her wonder "why so much" she going to look at you twice. and at the same time you don't look like a fool. because at this point if you reveal your feelings your going to look dumb. is she madly in love with this guy she with or do they date once in awhile or does she see him every day.. you no what you should not get her. like any thing with love or hearts or any kind of ring or jewelry.
2006-12-04 13:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get her a gift. It is weird to get someone else's girlfriend a gift, and will only attract attention to you from the boyfriend. Instead, tell her how you feel, and let her decide. If she likes you and breaks up with the boyfriend, good for you. If not, at least you know she wasn't planning on breaking up with her boyfriend, and you save your money and can move on.
2006-12-04 12:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah tell her but dont interfere with her relationship.
That will blow up in your face.
Buy her something simple and thoughtful. In the meantime, get over her. She has a boyfriend. For now.
They may break up oneday - they may not.
You are going to miss out on someone great.
You are going to miss out period waiting on her.
Stay friends - date other people, but dont interfere with her and her current relationship.
She could resent you for it.
She probably will deny you because she has a boyfriend. So dont sit and mope over her. You will find someone you care about a lot more
2006-12-04 12:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess that would depend how close you are as friend. if your a good friend to her then i would get a nice bracelet with her name on it. if your not that good of a friend, then i would not get her any thing.why create a problem between her and her boyfriend.but don't tell her how you feel right now after all she is seeing someone.
2006-12-04 12:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should get her something really personal,something that she really likes and show her that u have been listening to her,and yes i think u should tell her how much u love coz if she's not happy with her bf she'll turn to u
2006-12-04 13:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by the_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋