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At this moment I don't go to church I don't even now which one to go to. My boyfriend of two yrs is a christian. Yesterday he asked when am I going to church with him. I didn't respond I don't feel like i'm ready to go back and i use to be catholic. Everything in our relationship is good but i don't want to go to church. I'm not sure if I believe the whole story of God. How do I know what the bible says is true. people tell me its in my heart but that doesn't work for me. What do i tell him?

Answer 1

Goodness....

I see a lot of fundamentalists have jumped on your back about returning to church. Though I understand their views, I do not necessarily agree that is the best choice for you.

My suggestion is that you research and find something that truly works for you spiritually. I, personally, have found that there is no one religion that does it for me....so I waver a bit between agnosticism and Unitarianism. I want for there to be a higher power, but I won't mince belief with wishful-thinking.

Going to church just because your significant other attends does not make you a believer. It never will. You might gain acceptance and friendship in the church merely by attending, but it doesn't mean it is right for you. Not to mention, if you truly feel uncomfortable with it, it can cause a bit of dissent in your relationship by causing you to resent his expecting you to attend services and rituals you don't identify with.

We are all on different spiritual journeys...and part of growing as a human being is figuring out, for YOURSELF, what you believe.

Good luck to you and may YOUR personal truth light the way on your path.

Answer 2

I used to be Catholic too ,many years ago. My wife was a church going Lutheran. I told her that the reason I don't go to church is simply because the church and bible stories didn't make sense to me. She was encouraged to continue going, which she did for quite a few years.
Gradually she dropped away too. Now she can't believe any of this religious superstition either.
We have been very happily married for fifty-three years. We are every bit as much in love now as the day we were married.
Naturally, you might have a different experience. Both have to be considerate, understanding, reasonable, helpful, and live-- not for yourself, but for each other.
Okay, what should you tell him ? Tell him exactly how you feel. If he really loves you he'll go along with you're not going to church with him. If you really love him, you'll encourage him to continue going if he gets some satisfaction from it.
If neither of you is willing to do this - - - - well you have a big problem.

Answer 3

Hit that baptist church girlfriend.Get in there.If you can do it.Go to brother John Hagee's church in Texas.He tells it like it is.He holds nothing back.He is a wonderful saint of God.If you live in California,I would warn you not to go to Rick Warren's Saddleback church.He is a false witness,and an abomination,and a hypocrite.He is a black eye to the church.So far baptist church's are the only denomination that is telling it like it is.You want a church that is active in doing work for the lord.

As far as bibles,do not read the new international version.It's a counterfeit.The new King James Version is not a good choice either.The 1611 edition of the King James Version is all you will ever need.

Peace be unto you.

Answer 4

If you feel comfortable enough, just go once. But make sure he understands that you're not committing to anything. You realize it's important to him and that's why you're doing it.

If you don't feel comfortable enough, honestly, I think you should tell him what you just told us. If he cares about you, he should be able to respect that just as you respect his point of view on the issue. Nobody can tell you whether the stories in the Bible are true or not. That's something you have to explore and determine for yourself.

Also, if you're looking for a church to attend, a religion you may want to research is Unitarian Universalism. They're a very liberal, open minded, non-denominational religion that welcomes all points of view.

Answer 5

The Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster of course, where else ?

The Bible is one of the many middle eastern tales and legends. It is an interesting work of fiction written over the years by many authors. It is something to read and perhaps enjoy. Not something to "believe". Tales and legend are not "real". Thinking that they are is one of the symptom of schyzophrenia. This is a treatable common mental disorder. Tell your friend to see a psychiatrist perhaps and seek treatment.

Answer 6

You said, "How do I know what the bible says is true. people tell me its in my heart but that doesn't work for me. "

Here's how:
1-Prophecy!
The remarkable evidence of fulfilled prophecy is just one case in point. Hundreds of Bible prophecies have been fulfilled, specifically and meticulously, often long after the prophetic writer had passed away.

For example, Daniel the prophet predicted in about 538 BC (Daniel 9:24-27) that Christ would come as Israel's promised Savior and Prince 483 years after the Persian emperor would give the Jews authority to rebuild Jerusalem, which was then in ruins. This was clearly and definitely fulfilled, hundreds of years later.

There are extensive prophecies dealing with individual nations and cities and with the course of history in general, all of which have been literally fulfilled. More than 300 prophecies were fulfilled by Christ Himself at His first coming. Other prophecies deal with the spread of Christianity, as well as various false religions, and many other subjects.

There is no other book, ancient or modern, like this. The vague, and usually erroneous, prophecies of people like Jeanne Dixon, Nostradamus, Edgar Cayce, and others like them are not in the same category at all, and neither are other religious books such as the Koran, the Confucian Analects, and similar religious writings. Only the Bible manifests this remarkable prophetic evidence, and it does so on such a tremendous scale as to render completely absurd any explanation other than divine revelation.
2-Historical Accuracy:
The historical accuracy of the Scriptures is likewise in a class by itself, far superior to the written records of Egypt, Assyria, and other early nations. Archeological confirmations of the Biblical record have been almost innumerable in the last century. Dr. Nelson Glueck, probably the greatest modern authority on Israeli archeology, has said:

"No archeological discovery has ever controverted a Biblical reference. Scores of archeological findings have been made which confirm in clear outline or in exact detail historical statements in the Bible. And, by the same token, proper evaluation of Biblical descriptions has often led to amazing discoveries."
3-Scientific Accuracy:
Roundness of the earth (Isaiah 40:22)
Almost infinite extent of the sidereal universe (Isaiah 55:9)
Law of conservation of mass and energy (II Peter 3:7)
Hydrologic cycle (Ecclesiastes 1:7)
Vast number of stars (Jeremiah 33:22)
Law of increasing entropy (Psalm 102:25-27)
Paramount importance of blood in life processes (Leviticus 17:11)
Atmospheric circulation (Ecclesiastes 1:6)
Gravitational field (Job 26:7)
and many others.
Also the bible is a work of antiquity and there are over 5000 cataloged works from the bible. All the same, all accurate and many from different languages. We have the dead sea scrolls and one was dated from the gospel of John 90 ad-and that's around the time he wrote it! You will find a "different" God when you get into a bible based church. Pray about this-see what God wants. Read, learn pray. Just try it.

Answer 7

thats because you're right- most of what the bible says isn't true. people used this as a way to explain the unexplainable at the time. it is obsolete. if you're not sure you believe in the whole story of god, its for good reason. you're thinking logically. do some research on the subject and see what you come up with.

Answer 8

I am a Christian, my husband is a non-believer, we have been married for six years and have three children who are being raised knowing how we both feel about religion, so it is doable. You need to have a discussion with him and let him know where your faith lies and how you feel about church. While not everybody will be able to be in a relationship like the one I am in, you need to approach how you are feeling with honesty and be open about it, no relationship will survive filled with lies. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Go to church say some prayers read the Bible and let Jesus Christ into your life again> In the gospels, the apostle thomas didn't believe jesus had risen from the dead until Jesus came to him and showed him the holes in his hands and side.

Answer 10

Just go to church then you see if you still believe the way you do. If you do then tell him church is not for you.