step sister is seriously depressed. help please?

Question

i have no idea what i can do. my step sister is seriously depressed, shes self harming and has got suicidal thoughts. her mother is telling her that she is pathetic and is just hormones from where she is growing up. she is 14 by the way. shes not allowed to go to the doctors. what can i do for her im worried she kill her self. ive tried talking to her mum but she tells me its none of my business and not to tell her how to raise her child, i will understand when i have my own. but i feel i do understand, she talks to me about everything and cant tell her mum anything cos of her irational behavior. please help i feel like im in a no win situation

Answer 1

for now just continue to be nice to her, talk to her once in a while. there's nothing worse for a child being told that they're pathetic by their own parents; and there probably is an element of it being hormonal in there. people are saying you should go to a doctor but that wouldn't be easy, for a start, your parents would almost definitely find out. ring a helpline on her behalf and try to speak to someone who you're sure will keep it in confidence

Answer 2

To be honest any advice you get from this isn't going to be all that trustworthy, as even a pro psychiatrist won't be able to tell you much without knowing more. All you can do is stick with her, do whet you think is best and try to get her preoffessional help if its possible. My advice is to try to help her look to the future. No offence but often this sort of thing might be a need for attention, this is as genuine a problem as anything else though, and shouldn't be seen as less serious than other forms of depression. So give her that attention and carry on talking to her.

Answer 3

I agree, it seems her mother is being very abusive & evil. You don't tell someone who is suicidal she's pathetic, probably she's being treating her like this all her life & that's why she's the way she is. Call Childline 08001111 helpline & the police as her mother is preventing her from getting help & her life is in danger. she needs to be removed from that enviornment. You can even tell the social services. I think you have to contact the council for that but remain anonymous as the mother might come after you next. She sounds evil, sorry.

Answer 4

If her mother will not take her to see the family doctor. Your sister can talk to the school counselor or another adult she trust. It's important that she get professional help as soon as possible. Depression is a serious condition and once a person starts having thoughts of suicide it could turn fatal without help.

Answer 5

Somehow or other you must get your step sister to see a doctor. Her mother is being totally irresponsible. Depresion is a recognised serious illness and not an issue of how one is brought up.Is there any other significant adult that you can trust who can help, is your father on the scene ? At the moment she may be feeling too ill to actually harm herself, but you can't always tell.

Answer 6

your step sister needs help. tell her to contact or you contact

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or you can talk to your dad about this. why isnot he in the picture?he should know what is going on.

Answer 7

At least she feels that she can talk to you - it would be harder for her if she wasn't talking to anyone about it at all. I think if her mum won't listen then you should talk to a teacher at school - I am a teacher myself and I know that if a child approached me and told me something that serious I would do everything possible to get help, and trust me, you can get help that way. You've done the right thing by listening to her and looking for advice, now you need to get someone to help you. Good luck!

Answer 8

Try and tell her what she has to live for. If shes self harming maybe she needs some anti-depressants.

Try and keep out of her way or talk to her about it, tell her our worried about her.

Answer 9

what your sister will need is lots of love and support and reassurance the best thing to do is try to keep her happy and take her mind of it the more happier she feels the more she will come out of it go out for drinks with her grab a baby sitter and both of you hit the town once or twice a week it will give her somthing to look forward to

Answer 10

it seems to me the mother is the problem and needs the help. get help for the child asap even if this means getting her removed from the house. when she has gone the mothers actions will speak volumes.watch and wait.