My bf of 2 yrs left me for a bunch of reasons, which all sound like excuses. Well, the day after I found out he was with some other chick hes known for a week. It's now been 2 months since we have seen eachother and spoke.
When he was breaking up with me, why did he "conveniently" forget to tell me about her? I know for a fact that he knew her while we were dating.
But if a man wants out of the relationship, why not flat out say "I found someone else"
He is already hurting me by leaving, by him saying the truth, it would be easier.
2006-12-04 04:32:24 · 7 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going through the same thing this very minute. Cried my eyes out Iast night and I am moving out today. I have lived with my bf for 11 months, we had a blended family with his and my kids. We had issues like any couple and I thought they were workable, but he didn't so he gave up. But before he let me know that he gave up, he took the phone number from another woman and started calling her. Its bad enough to deal with the breakup alone and that he didn't feel like it was worth it to stick around and work on the issues, but its a whole nother level of pain to find out he was calling another woman and pouring himself into her. She is his "stepping stone" to getting over me. The bad thing is I really wanted to be able to go away as friends and not hate him, now I am not so sure if I am going to be able to forgive him and remain his friend. He was and is so special to me still, despite this, so I will be struggling with that in the upcoming days. It hurts like hell, you are not alone in your feelings!
2006-12-07 23:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Randi B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is as you said,he wanted out.You want to hear some specific reason for his betrayal as if you can fix you or as if some thing is wrong with you. Well truth be told you chose a man with little character and he cheated on you not because you lacked some thing,it's because he found some one else and wasn't man enough to tell you.When relationships end it's not any ones fault if the two people don't fit,I'm sure you knew that you two didn't really fit so,some times these things happen.Move on and find some one with morals and character,at least some one who is honest before the betrayal.not after. Remember, these men are your choices so don't keep choosing the same man in different skin and then asking why they are all the same. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 04:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy do the same thing a couple years ago, we were together 4 years and he gave me reasons things were not going to work between us while not mentioning that he had met someone else. He didn't leave me "for" her, he just used her as a stepping stone to get over me, I suspect your guy is doing the same thing.
2006-12-04 04:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause men are stupid... and have too much pride.
Men tend to think they are dominent in the relationship, That is because they are wired in the brain to be independent, strong, and more linear... they don't regard others very often. While woman are wired to be social, nurturing, and very strong willed... different than just strong. Men think in ways that'll make themselves feel directed. This is why woman would have trouble running for president in the U.S. because they are so much more aggresive than woman are... I learned that in psychology class.
2006-12-04 16:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think guys say that because girls are fragile. if they say they are breaking up with you for someone else, you might start to make yourself into something your not..or start hurting yourself...yes they are alreasy hurting you but i'd much rather have a lame excuse then hear that there's someone else.
2006-12-04 04:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a lack of character.
2006-12-04 04:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by thrylz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier, but life isnt easy.()
2006-12-04 04:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋