OK, so I have been planning my bf's Christmas present since October. All he ever wants are video games and tools, so it's kind of hard to find a meaningful gift. When we were in the store, he showed me a drill that he really wanted. I'm extremely short on money, but I went ahead and bought it for him last night. I was so excited to give it to him. Turns out his parents got him the same thing. His mom started to put me on a guilt trip about how hard it was for them to get the gift, and how early in the morning they had to wake up to get it. Boo hoo. They have much more money than me and can easily afford anything else on my bf's Christmas list, but I'm the one who has to return the gift and try to scrimp and shop everywhere to find him something equaly special that I can afford.
I think it's extremely un-fair that I'm the one that has to return the gift and try to find something else. Should I confront my bf's parents, or just let it go and get him something not-so-special?
2006-12-04 04:24:03 · 13 answers · asked by Amigurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop belly aching and whining...Yes it is pretty crappy of his parents to not step aside and let you give the drill...but having said that someone has to be the adult, and I am sick of people willing to be at odds over such trivial stuff with everything that is going on in the world such as kids being sexually abused, starving and everything else...you just need to choose to live to a higher standard and move on...I am sure you can come up with something else...later you can tell him that you had gotten the drill but didn't want to rob his parents the joy of giving it to him so you just got something else....You will appear to be the generous spirit and the winner in the end...Good luck.
2006-12-04 04:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt make it a big deal and just return the drill and get him something else....when you give him his "other" gift, tell him that you had bought him the drill , but because his parents got it too, you returned it. Dont make a big deal out of it in front of him...he'll know you thought of him either way and will appreciate it. And no matter what you get him, if he loves you truely, he will love it! You could also maybe plan the same time you exchange gifts a romantic dinner for the two of you and a night of movies....doesnt have to cost a lot to have a great time spent together. Its the time together and thought put into it.
2006-12-04 04:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by jh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the parents ONLY if you want to ensure that you will never have a good relationship with them ever again. It's a freakin gift for peets sake. Get over it. Take the drill back, get your money back, and pick out something else. Sometimes the way to man's heart is through his mamma! If you piss her off, you could be out the door! Go find a fun video game he's been talking about or another tool and get over it already. You cannot compete with a man's mother. You rarely win!
2006-12-04 04:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old you are, and wheather or not he is living with them. I would just give the gift to him a little early, and when he opens it (say xmas eve) tell him that his parents got the same gift and that he might want to exhchange it later. Or you can tell his parents that since you don't make as much money as them, it would be really mature of them if they would kindly exchange it forsomething else, like say a gift card to a hardware store. Still meaningful, and you woulnd't have to scrounge to get a new gift. good l;uck .
2006-12-04 04:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh i think its unfair that u have to take the gift back but at the end of the day do u really think that his parents will take thepressie back to the shop?
but what i think u should do is make sure he opens ur gift before he opens the pressie from his parents
take care
2006-12-04 04:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord, the things we want to fight about. Leave it alone. I am sure your boyfriends list is much longer than just a tool.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 04:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off babe your his girlfriend. Anything you get him is special because its from you. Do what you think is better for you. Hell you could buy a real sassy Santa outfit and tell his parents to kiss butt. Good luck
2006-12-04 04:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wipe your tears no big deal go get a gift certificate so he can get what he want its show you r a bigger person and let them like cheap
2006-12-04 04:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go.there his parents and u realy dont wanna fall out wit them over it.
2006-12-04 04:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really unfair. i would say talk to them about it or they will just push you around the whole time you two are together.
2006-12-04 04:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋