I've known this girl for about 4 years, we have been good friends ever since with a unspoken attraction to each other but for reasons, based on mutual friends, timing either she had boyfriend or I had a girlfriend, we never actually pursue each other. Well the past couple of months we have been very close, dinning together, going out for drinks on a weekly basis. We dont talk to or hang out with our mutual friends anymore.
What do you think?
She's lonely, needs someone to talk to?
She interested? Checking my reaction?
She just likes my company?
What I want? Definitely a relationship with her, and a would normally not care much or think about all this with any other girl, but she is a great friend.
So, I am at a verge here, I need to ask friends but as I mentioned that is something I lack right now....
She
2006-12-04 04:23:27 · 21 answers · asked by resiste_lfc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good info so far, but know this:
we are friends, we flirt, play, make fun, tease each other since we met..... so BODY language is a bit hard to tell... now.
I know she likes me, an she know I like her... but I think we are both concerned, by the way, we both date other people we just know if we are exclusive...
2006-12-04 05:55:47 · update #1
If you're both suffering this mutual attraction one of you is going to have to get up the courage to ask...My husband and I were WILDLY attracted to each other, however neither got up the courage to ask the other...we would spend all kinds of time together and talk for hours on end...and nearly lost each other, because we both were too shy...or scared to put ourselves out there...we were lucky.
If you're as great friends as you say, than you'll remain friends even if the RELATIONSHIP doesn't work...go for it...ask her out. She's probably DYING to ask you but is scared. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 04:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer and just need someone to push you into it. I am pushing, life is too short to wait. If it all feels right then by all means go ahead, she is probably waiting to see if you want the same thing. But, just in case you really aren't sure, why not just talk to her about it. You are friends and that is what they are there for. Don't miss out on a great thing that will only get better. take care of you.
2006-12-04 04:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that 'if' you guys do end up dating, it'd be the best things ever, because we all know that the best partners in a relationship start out as friends....
I'd say to maybe talk to her... She probably feels the same, you know?... I try to imagine what I'd do in the same situation, but I can't come up with anything realistic. I don't know that I'd be able to bring it up and talk about it...
Well, you guys could hang out together one night, and you should maybe do something a little special to make it a tad more intimate than anything you'd usually do... then when she's feeling pampered, indulged, happy, and relaxed, (a little tipsy wouldn't hurt either of you), talk to her about it...
Good luck.
2006-12-04 04:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is in to you in some way. Sounds like you two are dating w/o/ having said it. You should talk to her about how you feel. You two are close. Communication is a great thing. If you don't ask you may not find out. Maybe she is thinking the same as you. Sounds like you two are great together.
2006-12-04 04:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cstout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you've been going out & become very close to her then just sit her down & talk to her to see if she feels the same way. Lay it all out so she knows how you feel. If you wait it could become to late & you don't want to let a good thing go.
2006-12-04 04:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, you never ever ask a girl if she likes you, that's just cheating. something you could do is be a little more flirty with her, and kinda test the waters a bit. then ask her something like me and some of my friends are going to a movie......they've all got dates and they are all drop dead gorgeous. but i told them i know the most beautiful girl in the world. they asked me to bring her, and i told them (her first and last name) would love to come, so please don't say no. ; D that's how my bf got my attention and it was the cutest thing ever. hope it works for you
2006-12-04 04:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by nanerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is double sided: if she feels she likes u as a friend only, then asking would affect ur friendship, but if she secretly loves u, then love which was built on a friendship, is the best thing i can imagine in relationships.
2006-12-04 04:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by JUSTGIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking if you and/or she is/are gay? If that's it, only the 2 of you can tell. Spend some more time w/her and see. If it's what you want, then give it a go. If not, then tell her "no, thanks", but preface it by how much you like her as a friend.
2006-12-04 04:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o man definitely tell her how you feel !!! the only thing that you lack in your details is how is her body language? that is the key to reading a girl. look at when she crosses her legs, are they crossed towards you or away? if they are crossed toward you it means that she wants your attention!!does she sit beside you or across from you? or does she put her hand close to yours? well take notice next time she sits beside you with her legs crossed and toward you, grab that hand that she placed beside you and tell her how you feel. best of luck
2006-12-04 04:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Linds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're spending time together, what on earth do your conversations consist of? If you're actually TALKING, and LISTENING to each other, these questions should be answered between you both!
2006-12-04 04:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋