I don't have any children, so of course, I don't know what it's like. However, I can't help but think that the parent-child bond should be unbreakable, so I can't imagine why or how any parent can disown a child.
2006-12-04 04:21:06 · 36 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would never EVER disown my child for any reason. Any parent who would disown their own child for ANY reason at all should be ashamed and has no business being a parent in the first place. Our children may not always make decisions in life that we as parents agree with but they are still part of us and we have a responsibility to support them and love them unconditionally. I feel sorry for any child that grows up knowing that "my Mum and Dad love me unless..." and I Will make sure that my son and my future children all know that there is NOTHING they can do that would make me stop loving them.
2006-12-04 10:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by QueenofSummertime 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am only 14, so I do not have the full capability to grasp this subject and understand the emotional aspects of it fully and completely.
I guess it depends on what you mean by "disown" Do you mean to give up legal authority over a child? Do you mean emotionally or what?
If I had a child I do not think i could ever point at them and say "this child is not mind" No matter what they did. I would feel grief yes, and pain too. I probably would not understand them or be able to relate and give them the support they need, but they would still be my child
However, if my child DID need serious help, and i could not provide this for them, I WOULD transfer my ownership over them to the state. At this point they would no longer be "legally" mine, but I would consider him/her my child, even if they did resent me for it. If they also got in trouble, I would NOT try and get them out of trouble, and i would want them to face their punishment, no matter what.
In conclusion, i would never say a child is not mine, I may be angry upset or dissapointed and be in an emotional wreck wondering where I went wrong, but I would never disown them
keep in mind, I am only 14 so when I mature more and become an adult, my views may change.
2006-12-04 07:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No as a mother myself i couldn't disown my child no matter what. I think that a parent-child bond is unbreakable as you say.
2006-12-04 04:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would disown my children for very few things but they do exist. Unprovoked cold blooded murder is an example. Rape is another. Joining a hate group is another thing I could never forgive. You have to also realize I'd blame myself completely though. I don't intend to raise my children to even think of doing such things...but if they do then obviously I screwed up somewhere along the line.
2006-12-04 06:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids, and no I could never disown them. I love them more than anything in the world and I make sure they know it every single day.
The only time I think I could ever be challenged in that way would be if they did some truly horrific or unthinkable acts...like became the next Jeffrey Dahmer, Ted Bundy or something like that. Something I know I don't have to worry about, so I guess my answer is no...I could never disown my children.
2006-12-04 04:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well my father disowned his 3 kids..he left the family when the youngest was maybe 12,i was 15 and the oldest 18...he decided living with his girlfriend and her 2 kids was better then his family..anyways i was the only one to have some kind of relationship with him for a few years after that but by the time i was maybe 20 he decided to be done with me also,which was no big deal to me..my mom did a great job raising us the best she could and aqll 3 of us are married,long term marriages,with kids and stable homes...when my dad died we went to the will reading because we were mentioned in the will and the mentioning was that he had disinherited/disowned the 3 of us..again no big deal since all he had was a restaurant in an econmonically down part of town which none of us would want anyways
2006-12-04 04:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I lost both of my parents at a pretty young age (at 26), so, I literally know what it's like to lose your parents (both physical and emotional). So, for myself, I could never disown my children for any reason. I know that I may feel some disappointment in things that they may do in life, but, life is just to short to hold grudges and mistrust against your own children.
2006-12-04 04:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Almost everythign is forgivable...the only thing i would disown a child for would be sexual assult of a child (any child) or of an adult fanily member...it is sick to think of but i have been thru it and i know how hard it is for the victim to know that the family is acting like nothing happened
2006-12-04 04:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Tissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 3 and stepmother of 3. I have heard a mother say she disowned her son becasue of the life he chose, drugs and alcohol, but when he died, she got his ashes and is saving them in a place of honor in her home until she can get with his children to bury them. She may have rejected his way of life, but she still loved him. Does disown include void of love? As a mother, I will always love my children, all 6, and do whatever I can to help them. I don't agree with them all the time but I always love them. My youngest is 16 (almost 17).
2006-12-04 04:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the cause, I would not disown my child. I have a special bond between my son and I. Now, when he is older, lets say in his mid teens or an adult, and he does something horrorfying, like murder or something, I would not say I would disown him, I'll just not speak with him.
2006-12-04 04:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋