A girl I was seeing earlier this year called me the other Sunday morning. We stopped seeing each other earlier this year as she wasn't sure of her feelings and wanted to date other guys but wasn't ready for a relationship (she'd just finished with a guy of 4 1/2 yrs), and so we broke-off contact until earlier this summer.
We got back in contact 3 months ago, met up and ended up hugging and kissed goodbye at the end of the night. She told me it was nice to see me again, but knew she'd broken my heart months beforehand.
Since then I've not contacted her, but some weeks ago she calls. What could she want with me? Am I wrong thinking her hugging/ kissing/ recent call is a sign she wants back?
Should I call her to tell her I think about her still?
2006-12-04
04:17:10
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➔ Singles & Dating
She's dated other in between, so have I (we told each other that)
2006-12-04
04:30:14 ·
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Truth is She wants to make sure your still there for her....Move on you can get much better.....Believe me I have guys that play this same game with me. Its the I dont want him but I dont want anyone else to have him either Game.
2006-12-04 04:26:25
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answered by barrbee_girl 1
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I would call her and get a sense of who she is now, maybe she has grown and sees she may have made a mistake and misses the time you spent together, or maybe she just is insecure and wants to know she still has a chance with you. Ask her what shes been doing, that will give you an idea if she has changed. Dont offer to much info about how you feel, until you can get a sense she has grown and learned from her experience without you. That way she cant take advantage of you feelings, and you have less of a chance of being hurt again.
2006-12-04 12:27:56
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answered by undeniable 2
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Nope you are not wrong at all, it sounds to me like she is sending mixed signals.
It probably wouldn't hurt to call her to see what she wanted, and if the relationship questions arise, then tell her you've been thinking of her. If she doesn't want to pursue anything and If it hurts to much to just be friends, then be honest with her too.
What's the worse that could happen with a phone call? But you need an answer to either direction this will go, or you'll always wonder.
2006-12-04 12:27:50
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answered by Daniele 3
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It doesnt necessarily mean that she wants to get back with you because she did those things. She could have just been being nice, showing she cares about you and that she is sorry that she broke your heart. But if you really want to know for sure you are going to have to ask or tell her how you feel. Youll never know for sure if you dont. Good luck!!
2006-12-04 12:22:07
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answered by U2 2
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Do you know why she came back to you? what if she is using you to save her the hassle of break-ups?She might go back to her ex later.Don't give in to her.Once she rejected you at first,you can't be her place for console,dude.Do you want to be the second option?4 and half yrs is too long for them to have broken up like that and it is likely they will come back together.Let her deal with her break up on her own because she might be using you.She wants you now that her bf doesn't need her,what if the situation changes? let her go,there are lots good gals out there.
2006-12-04 12:31:18
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answered by Phy A 5
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4 1/2 is a long time, she might still be hurt from that but maybe not.... she needs to know if she wants you she cant just say, i want to break up and see other people, thats messed up.... did she see anyone between when you broke up and when she satrted calling you back??? and i would tell her she broke your heart and that you arent going to let it happen again.... i would see her but you dont want to get series for a long time....
2006-12-04 12:25:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Life is too short to look back and think what if i would have told that person how much I thought about them or how much they meant to me, So say what u mean, do what u want and be with those who make u the happiest.
2006-12-04 12:23:05
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answered by Jessi 2
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Yes. You can then say you tried. Let her know how you feel. She deserves to know.
2006-12-04 12:21:04
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answered by Dan 2
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CALL HER!!!!! What are you waiting for???
Of course she wants to pick things back up....
Do you?
Good luck!!!
2006-12-04 12:19:55
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answered by Milkywayman22 3
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yes call her --- go out again and see what happens
2006-12-04 12:20:51
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answered by trader1867 7
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