thanks for answering my last question, i tried to tell my mum.?

Question

i told my mum that i couldnt go to college and she wouldnt stop shouting at me and i backed out telling her about me having panicattacks, cutting myself and the suicide thoughts that wont go away and for the rest ofthe day she didnt talk to me and yesterday she asked me if i was going to the college course she said she understood how scared i was and that once i go i will be ok and just but she doesnt realize that when i think of going there i find it hard to breathe and i have passed out on numerous occasions cos of it in my last question i said that my mum doesnt know i cut myself and have panicattacks frequently i stopped wearing long sleeved t-shirts and as i hoped mum or dad would pickup on the cuts on my arm and help me but neither has noticed or they doesnt care. im scared of going to the doctors for help and as i said in the last question i dont go to school so i cant ask teachers or friends there for help. i do no i need help and i do want it but then somedays i dont want help

Answer 1

You've taken the first step and spoken to your mum, so now take the next and speak to a doctor or someone who could help you if your parents aren't.

Answer 2

if you go and see a doctor for this they will refer to u a counsellor who can help u deal with your anxiety in safer ways than cutting yourself.
a counsellor will also help u to figure out exactly y u r so scared of going to college.
Im sure your parents do care they maybe think that they just want the best for u and if u dont go to college u will mess ure life up and that wont be what they want.
you are doing the right thing askin for help but i do think that gettin professional help will be the best solution and also is there any other family members that u could talk to? any brothers or sisters?
let me know how u get on take care xx

Answer 3

Cutting and panic attacks and thoughts of suicide are serious issues. You can't expect or assume that someone is going to notice your need for help. You may be scared but you have to get help for this. If your parents don't help you then try calling a relative who will. Check to see if there is a mental health hotline for your area. A doctor will be able to help you. Your mum thinking that getting to college and life will be fine again is a dangerous way of thinking about you.

Answer 4

You are right you need someone who will listen to you. Don't be afraid of doctors. They will help you. You are miserable right now. Can you just leave your house and go to the emergency room? All you have to do it show them your arms and tell them you need help. They will get you help. Please don't be afraid. I am afraid you will do something you are going to wish you didn't. You WILL ABSOLUTELY FEEL BETTER when someone talks to you. There are so MANY ways you can be helped. You are in college so you have so many wonderful years ahead of you. I know it is hard for you to see right now but once you realize there are so many people out there that are going to care and WANT to help you. Dont waste another minute feeling like you do. YOU MATTER! YOU ARE IMPORTANT! I care , thats why I'm taking the time to write this. My 10 year old daughter is in ICU fighting right now and I am taking the time to write this to you. PLEASE ignore your parents if they don't understand now. Just leave or sneak out if they aren't taking you serious and get to your emergency room OR call 911 (if you have that system ) or whatever your emergency # is from anywhere you feel comfortable. They will help you too. Good luck and please just try this. If no one helps you then you are no worse off then you are now. BUT, that will not happen, someone will help you.

Answer 5

You poor thing. You are not alone. Maybe try contacting these people.

SupportLine Telephone Helpline: 020 8554 9004, email [e-mail] or write to SupportLine PO Box 1596, Ilford, Essex IG1 3FW - Provides emotional support and information relating to other helplines, counsellors and support groups throughout the UK including helplines and face to face for young people.

http://www.samaritans.org.uk/

ChildLine
Childline HQ
Studd St
London
N1 0QW
0800 1111
020 72391000
www.childline.org.uk
Free helpline offering support to any child or teenager in danger or trouble.

Phone line open 24 hrs all year


Young Minds
102-108 Clerkenwell Road
London
EC1M 5SA
0800 0182138
www.youngminds.org.uk
Charity committed to helping improve the mental health of all young people

Phone line open
Mon & Fri 10am-1pm,
Tues, Weds & Thurs 1pm-4pm


Sometimes parents aren't the best people to talk to, they really don't understand what is going on.

Answer 6

You really need to get help. You have to talk to someone before its too late. Its a step that you're asking for help on here. You should really talk to someone. Maybe an aunt or uncle. Do you have any cousins or brothers or sisters. Why not try calling a crisis hotline. They have toll-free ones listed on the net. Atleast its a start. Don't let this go unheard. You need to get some help.

Answer 7

Would you be interested to see a healer?

when I was around your age, I had similiar problems, & I started seeing a healer on a regular basis & I got so much better. it's free & to find the centre nearest to you go to this website & type ur postcode:(in UK) but I'm sure they have centres all over the world email them):

http://www.nfsh.org.uk/component/option,com_wrapper/Itemid,70/

They're really kind & everything is highly confidenatial.

But you have to want to get better & start being kind to yourself. I was self destructive & it got me nowhere I tell you.

I went to Uni & dropped out after a few months & as I was ill & couldn't study in that state. You can tell your mother how can I study when I'm ill & have these awful panick attacks? (they're bad I've had them too). I'll waste your money & when I get better I'm in a postion to go to college & study. & also tell them it's YOUR LIFE at the end of the day. If they shout at you, tell them I'll not talk to you if you shout. & donot talk to them unless they speak to you with respect & listen to & respect what you have to say.

I don't know if you'd be interested by I started reading self-help books & they really helped me. Some of the auhtors that are really good:
Louise L Hay 's book You Can Heal Your Life. She has many wonderful books you can have a look in Amazon.

I know panick attacks are horrible but one way I learnt to deal with it is do deep breathing every few hours in the day(even when u don't have them), simply take a deep breath, hold it for a couple of seconds, then take in more air ,hold..... & release. Do this 2 times every few hours or when u remember.

Another thing that really helps me is I use a crystal called SODALITE & place it on my stomach, which is wher I get the attacks. Crystal therpaists use this method, you can buy one in crystal shops, they also have them quite cheap on Ebay.
The only thing to remeber u have to clenase the crystal when first use it & then every few monthe or so as they absorb negative energy & need to be cleansed.by putting them in brown rice for 24 hours. Sorry if all this is a bit strange but it worked for me & I thought I'd share it with you.

I pray for get better & please don't despair, many of us have been through similiar experinces & you will overcome it.

much luv

Answer 8

even though i havent seen your first question, i still think that you should tell a close frient ir if not then a doctor or someone impartial, face to face
one thig you despirately need to do is tell your mum. how old are you? have you just finished school?
im 16 and will be leaving school this year and im scared of leaving but it could also be an amazing opportunity for me, as it has been for everyone else.
maybe your mum might be afraid for you to go to college too but she be even more afraid of you not fulfilling your potential.
you should tell your mum that you have cut yourself and that you need her to help you.
tell her that you need her to support you and not shout at you for being afraid and alone. if you tell her whats going on then she might just come through for you.
go for it dont be afraid.

Answer 9

looking at the whole thing like you are makes it scary. you have to do it a step at a time. so now you talked to your mum do the next step. phone and make an appointment at the doctor, dont think of the actual appointment thats the next step getting there. dont look at the whole jigsaw puzzle, just the individual bits. maybe you should show your parents your cuts, it may no be nice for them but it would shock and then they may realise how serios it is. i promise you there are better times tobe had and when you can be happy. i can relate to your problems as i have been there myself, if you to chat im me.

Answer 10

If your parents won't listen you should defiantly talk to a doctor even if you are scared to now it would be the best thing in the long run. And maybe your parents might take it more serious if they heard if from a doctor. I hop you'll take my advice, because you have some very serious issues that need immediate attention.

Answer 11

Greenjade, I wonder where you live? If you're in the UK you could ring Childline. I know you're not a little kid but they would still be able to advise you.
You certainly need to talk to someone who knows what they're up to and who can advise you face to face. You need more than we can give you here.
If your doctor's a bit scary, I wonder if there is a nurse there you could speak to?
I do feel for you Hon, and I hope you get through this OK,
If you do live in the UK and you think it could help, feel free to email me.
Best wishes,
Jon C