Ive been in a serious 7yr relationship, and we have a 3yr old daughter....we had many ups and downs...but we have been there for each other throughout these many years....ive been faithful, he hasnt, recently he went 2 weeks without calling me...and didnt really give me a good reason why he didnt contact me...he just said he was busy! (BS) I have alot of bitter feelings for him right now and cant really get over somethings that have happened lately, and i think ive lost respect or love for him...what should i do, because i dont want to hurt him, and lately ive been having continuous bitter feelings about hurting him.....please only serious answers!
2006-12-04 04:04:06 · 9 answers · asked by Jackeeeee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said the reason why he didnt call was because he was doing something that i dont approve of (selling drugs) and he didnt want me to ***** at him about doing it.
2006-12-04 04:51:36 · update #1
First of all, he's been hurting you for a while, so hurting him isn't something you should be worried about. You should be worried about the fact that you are having to put up with him and being treated badly by someone who if they truly loved you, wouldn't do this to you. Listen to that voice that tells you that you should be looking for what is best for you and your daughter. It may take a while to stop feeling guilty about "hurting him" but eventually, you will come to realize that it wasn't him you felt like you were hurting- it was yourself. Its better to end it now before something else happens.
2006-12-04 04:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that....but go with your true feelings. You don't want to hurt him?? It sounds as if he has hurt you. It's very possible that you may have fallen out of love...that typically happens when the other cheats, doesn't work things out with you and their is no communication. Life is short....I know you've heard that many times....but this time you really need to let him go and move on. Overall that may just give you closer for yourself. Good luck!!!
2006-12-04 12:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound like you have ever had a proper relationship. I take it you do not live together if he goes 2 weeks without calling.
Sounds like you need to evaluate your relationship for yourself and decide what you want. Then get hime to sit down and talk with you.
Serious relationships are about being together, not apart, so you both need to do some thinking.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 12:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him sit him down and tell him how you feel don't totally kick him out of your life you have your daughter to think of she needs her father maybe you should just separate for a while and figure out what it is and if it's real love then you will be back to together know that God has someone out there for every one and everything happens for a reason keep your head up and stay strong if you wanna talk sometime e-mail me at socerchic2007@yahoo.com Good luck!!!
2006-12-04 12:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness who could blame you for being angry at him? Were you not living together that he would be gone all that time and not contact you? What about contacting his child, there is no excuse for that either. I think you owe it to yourself and to your daughter to give him an ultimatum, either he is in this or he is out but either way its not right to blow you off like that (not with a child involved). Good luck.
2006-12-04 12:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he went two weeks without calling you then he probably doesn't care anyone. It would be in your best interest to end it before anybody gets "hurt"
2006-12-04 12:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoudl tell him that his actions are pushing you away from him..... and that you cant truct him because he wont tell you why he was so "busy" that he couldnt call for 2 weeks.... and 7 years is a long time, why are you not married???he needs to know that he should have a commitment to his family whether he likes it or not.... and he cant go 2 weeks without calling or anything....
2006-12-04 12:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to end it before you "do" hurt him. It is impossible to get feelings back for someone who keeps on hurting you.
You still have the rest of your life to live.
2006-12-04 12:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow two weeks without talking and no reason? sounds like he doesnt care anymore. just tell him he needs to straighten up or you two will be finished. i have been there before. i know how you feel
2006-12-04 12:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋