I have really liked a guy on my crew team. I am the coxin and he is a rower and normally i am supposed to stay away from the Rowers dating wise to not cause drama. Saturday night we went back to my room after a party, kissed, talked, and feel asleep together. It was really nice. I am not looking for a relationship really but I love his company. I havn't talked to him since, but the more i think about it I want him to still be with me but i don't want him to just come over to hook up. Anyone see what I am trying to get at.
What kind of things should i do or ask him, or not do and not ask him about where this is going?
2006-12-04 04:01:55 · 18 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the fact that you two slept together (literally) without the rower asking for anything more is a good sign.
You should ask him out, and tell him what you told us. You like his company, and that the time you spend with him on Saturday was really nice.
Don't pressure him. Just ask him out on a casual date. A movie, a cup of coffee, taking a walk... are all casual dates. Don't get too intense on him, or you'll scare him away. Make sure that he doesn't have any girlfriends.
2006-12-04 04:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know by how he treats you. If he takes you out, treats you well, calls you for reasons other than coming over to score, than you are more than a booty call. If he calls you late in the evening because "he's lonely and missing you", he wants you for sex and only sex.
But let me ask you something.......How can this be a booty call thing, if you haven't put out yet? Aren't you putting the cart before the horse? That's why we push these men away so quickly. Some guy shows us a little attention and we start doodling our names together in a heart, or trying out his last name as ours. We act like a bunch of idiots the first time we get a little attention and if we just stayed back a little to watch things unfold, we might find out we don't even like them!!
2006-12-04 04:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you're coming from and I can also understand why the sport doesn't want team members to "hook up"...but if you have genuine feelings for each other...and not just for sex, see where it can lead. On the other hand, if you've already been to intimate with this guy (without a clear understanding), he may just see you as "a hook up". Unfortunately for you that may be all that he wants from you now.
Why buy a cow if you can get the milk for free? Be careful how you present yourself to anyone before you set the rules and standards. That's the advice I gave to my sons and daughter.
2006-12-04 04:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to start taking an interest in the guy, & see if he responds Find out whether, other than rowing, you have any similar interests. Go out on a few dates.
Take your time, don't rush into anything.
If he is impatient then he is probably just looking to sleep with you & that's it. If it's anything more then you are laying the foundation for a relationship together.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 04:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, he doesn't want you for random hook ups or he would have done something when he had the chance. What is wrong with telling him just what you said "you are not looking for a relationship, but love his company" Tell him you don't sleep around, but would really like to get to know him better. Let nature take its course...what is ment to be, will be.
2006-12-04 04:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Becky F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find out if he wants more than a booty call, is to treat HIM like a booty call. If he tries to take it further, then you know. If he doesn't, then at least you worked off a little energy
2006-12-04 04:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not supposed to date, quit trying to skirt around it. Either leave him alone or quit the rowing team.
2006-12-04 04:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask anyone, any thing. let time pass. If he is yours, he will come back. Don't forget to keep smilling always, whatever happen, if you are happy, everyone will be happy.
2006-12-04 04:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by J P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait him out...let him date you withOUT sex and you will see his intentions..only time will tell.
But remember never poop in your kitchen...what do you enjoy more crew or this guy...dating him might mess it all up...so think about it.
2006-12-04 04:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We guys would rather you just come out and ask us what is on your mind. That's the easiest way!!
2006-12-04 04:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋