I have been with this guy for like a few months and we were out together at a concert last night and he kissed me and told me "You know I love you", So like was he telling me he really loved me, I was shocked, I didnt say anything back and now I feel stupid. I really like this guy and I hope if he meant it, I didnt hurt his feelings. What do u think?
2006-12-04 03:47:18 · 27 answers · asked by Jessi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing not answering him. You can't be in love with him already, so you didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure you're adorable and not to take away from your likability, but there are a LOT of guys that will tell you what you want to hear so they can have sex. The smart ones know that girls react to their emotions and they know how to stir up those emotions. A girl is in it for the feelings and for commitment and to the guy, it's just a sport. IF he's serious, then he'll be impressed that you didn't declare your love to a guy so readily. IF he's genuine he'll show his feelings and WAIT for yours. If he loves you, he'll wait for you.
2006-12-04 16:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kissed you, he said he loved you. Sounds like he wants you to take it to another level and you don't have a clue because you aren't even thinking along those lines. Teenage guys think about sex once every 8 seconds, during all waking hours. What are the odds that he is really in love with you and not just after a piece?
Date a lot of guys at once and don't be attracted to a guy just because he says he likes you. They will all like you.
Step back, like yourself, and then decide what it is you like in a guy and then look for that. There will be a thousand dates where a guy will tell you he loves you. It isn't real. Your heart will tell you when it's real and....there will be absolutely no question or doubt at all, in your mind, soul or heart. That's when you go for it.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 03:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You blew it and you probably did hurt his feelings, but it can be saved.
If you love him too, the next time you see him (like TODAY) ask him if he remembers that concert last night, then plant one on him (kiss him) and say "I remember it, too." He'll forget all about what happened last night.
Right now he's probably feeling kind of embarrassed because he put his feelings out there and you rejected him. Not intentionally, but anything other than 'I love you, too' is rejection.
If you don't feel the same way about him, then yes, you're going to hurt his feelings because you're rejecting him. It's not a good thing or a bad thing, it's the chances you take in a relationship.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-04 03:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mitch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make of it what you will. You have to decide for yourself the level of his sincerity. I would say let time be the measuring stick of this new found love. I would also say if you feel the same way tell him before his imagination runs away with him. The worse thing a woman can do is when a man gets the guts to say they love you is for you to say absolutely nothing! So call him and acknowledge you heard him and just froze cause it surprised you so and don't forget to say you feel the same way. Now good luck!
2006-12-04 03:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably did. You say you've been together for a few months, I know I fell in love with my NOW husband after just a few months. But if you dont feel the same, dont say it. Just tell him you need more time to get there, but you will!
2006-12-04 03:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of variables to consider. How old are you two? How mature does he seem to be? How many women has he 'loved' before?
You shouldn't rush to say 'I love you' to someone if you don't mean it. The majority of the time it will come to bite you in the end. If it really bothers him, explain to him that saying 'I love you' is a big step for you and you want it to be genuine. Keep in mind if that the feelings aren't there for awhile, you might want to re-evaluate the relationship.
2006-12-04 03:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by jolt9157 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several times when saying I love you does not count. The first is during sex. Second is when drunk. Third is at a concert. Fourth is when it's been "like a few months".
2006-12-04 03:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One or Two mounth is a while to tell if someone likes you a lot. if a person spends a lot of time with you and says he loves you,you can say yuo love him back. if you are having mixed feelings about weather you should love him or like him then exsplaine that to him. He will understand if he loves you.
2006-12-04 03:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by parisnikkivager 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he been faithful for the past few months and u really like it...u should tell him...my past relationship i told this girl i loved here even though she was shocked to hear it..we had been dating for about 4 month..not its seven and she says it all the time.
2006-12-04 03:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by blk_tn_mild 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him! If he ment it he would not have any problem telling you again. If you feel the same way let him know. I say wait till you know how he feels and if he was real about it or you could end up hurt. Good Luck
2006-12-04 03:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋