My husband is going to be going to Iraq early this coming year and I don't know wheater to stay here in North Carolina for an entire year or go back to Texas and be with my family until he comes back. I have a very good job as a receptionist and I know that if I go back to Texas that I am not going to want to work I already told my husband that and he told me that I didn't have to work if I didn't want too. What to do...If you were in my shoes what would you do go or stay?
2006-12-04 03:42:04 · 12 answers · asked by mysteryousmtz 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well that is a hard situation to be in, I know all to well about deployments though. If you have no one, I would say you will need some kind of family or close friend to make it through this next year. I know I did. It is hard to deal enough that they are leaving us, but to do it all alone, is even harder. We all need some help and a little picking up every now and then. Think hard what will be better for you, you have to make sure you is good before any job. Deployment take alot out of the loved ones at home, I don't know how many nights I sat up in tears wondering if my soldier was okay, praying the bad news would never come. It takes a tole on your mind and body, take care of you for him, we are their support and with out that they may fall apart. Good luck to you, and know you are not alone. The family of the military stands together and we stand tall. much love jenn
2006-12-04 03:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Army Love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are so that you will still have a job, a place, and something to keep you busy. Since he said you don't have to work, that gives me the impression you are not hard up for money...so use the money to go home and visit through out the year. If you come back to Texas, when he comes home you have to move everything back and look for a new place. If there is a large number going over with him...then when they all come back they most likely will be looking for a place to live...
When my ex went over for even 6months...he got out of his lease so he could save money and every time he came back (deployed 3 times) he had to scramble when he got back to find a place.
2006-12-04 04:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not stay where you live and work and wait for your husband? He is in the service and this will not be the last time he is called to duty, are you going to move to your family everytime he is deployed? WHat happens when you have kids. Hopefully you have friends and a gret support system where you live. I would stay home.
2006-12-04 03:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
iraq?...for what reason..i hope not for visiting purposes or entertainment...if work is important you should stay in North Carolina..sometimes change can affect you in more that one way....plus not having a job will take its toll after a while...but if you love him and approve of him going then you should go to...i would problably stay and hold down the fort at home until he gets back simply because i think working and avioding terrorist based-places like that is right from an American presepective.
2006-12-04 03:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by blk_tn_mild 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
honestly it would probably be better for you to stay where you are, because if you go home and dont work, you wont have anything to keep you busy. but if you're working, you wont be sitting around thinking about your husband not being there all the time. its best to stay busy. my husband is going to korea next year and im definitely going to get a job and keep myself busy so i dont miss him so much.
2006-12-04 03:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by blackqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly go home and be with family. the time without your husband will be hard and having that support will help alot. If you need to work to support yourself then you probably need to keep your job. Since your husband said that you don't have to work than definetly go home.
2006-12-04 03:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
depends:
how independent are you?
can you create a social network of women and friends in the new place?
will you be excessively lonely?
how much will it cost and will you have to move back in a year?
you should work to keep busy while he is gone.
so if you are planning not to work in texas, then it's a bad idea.
2006-12-04 03:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think I would stay at my job. Just to keep my mind off things. What would you do with your home, would you keep it or sell it. Now if you rent your home I would go to my family. But then you would have to pack your things and move there, so then you have to think about were you would store your things. Personally I would stay.
2006-12-04 03:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by manders 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay at home. You'll need your family and friends. Don't make this more challenging that it already will be.
2006-12-04 04:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were in ure shoes keep the job save up for some nice things for him to look forward to
2006-12-04 03:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by babyblue1512000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋