up he comforts me by telling me I will have a guy 2morrow and when I tell him I am a second chance virgin until marriage and he's like "oh yeah you are gonna wait until some guy (not him)marries you before....." its bad isn't it ? How long do I have before he dumps me ? And are all prospects of marriage pretty much out the window even tho I have been with him for more than a year ? By the way, even after all this behaviour, he says he doesn't want to dump me but all the signs are there. What do I do, how should I act and MEN, why is my bf acting this way ? THANX FOR ANY ADVICE !
2006-12-04 03:41:19 · 20 answers · asked by Kendra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
was your relationship sexual before you became a 2nd chance virgin ?
did you have sex with him and stop to become a second chance virgin ?
the guy wants you on many levels but is frustrated
If he did not want you he would have kicked you to the curb by now . he is hoping a compromise can be worked out .
2006-12-04 03:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kendra, this guy is just a jerk; he is stringing you along until he can find someone more pliable and gullible. Dont wait for him to dump you. A little proactive management is needed here- you should dump him! Stand by your principles, and find someone better. You owe it to yourself. What kind of future can you have with a loser who is always looking around at other women? Stand up for yourself! Dont be a door mat for this guy to wipe his feet on. He is acting this way because he is a shallow, selfcentered jerk. You can do so much better. Stay strong, stay focused, and things will work out for you.
2006-12-04 11:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is telling you that then dont stress over it girl just end it with him. You dont deserce to be told that and if he is not ready to comit but u are then you need to find someone who is ready for a mature realtionship. I cant tell you how long before he dumps u i can only tell u that u should dump him. You need to show him that you will live without him if you show him that he will see how strong you are. DO NO MAKE HIM THINK U NEED HIM he will only take advantage of that well good luck and i hope i helped
2006-12-04 11:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Megan T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if a man talks to you that way he is not worth you time dump him b/f he humiliates you any further.He don't want any commitment,he's not attracted to you so what there are other men out there who will love to have you,you have to stand up for yourself,don't let him take advanage of you.I would have given him a beat down for you be i don't think we live in the same state.
2006-12-04 11:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a punk @ss *****. Why are you waiting for him to break up with you? You should break up with him. Tell him that he's right and that you will have a guy tomorrow, one that is attracted and might want to be committed. You're not supposed to feel bad or guilty for wanting to be with someone who thinks you are beautiful and wants to be with you. He says this cr@p but doesn't have the balls to break up with you? Sounds like a chump who doesn't know what he wants and is too insecure of himself to go and get it even if he knew. Dump him. You don't want to wait around and be played like a fool, coz it sounds like he is keeping you around until his loser @ss can trick some girl he likes better into dating him.
2006-12-04 11:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!! girlfirend this a**hole doesnt deserve you. It seems as tho he doesnt have any respect for you & he doesnt even take you seriously. Heck yeah all the signs are there, so you do it first. Then go out & find a man who will love you for who you are!
If you dont...he will dump you either when he completely gets sick of you & sees you arent gonna give it up. or when some little hottie bats her lashes at him.
TRUST ME...GET OUT OF IT NOW!
2006-12-04 11:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is wanting out because you won't have sex with him. He may be trying to make you feel like he isn't attracted to you in hopes you will try harder to make him attracted (sex).
Don't disrespect yourself, and your wishes for this guy just because he is a little horn-dog. The next time he says you will have a guy tomorrow, say..." yeah, i guess you're right... you and I can just be friends..." and watch his reaction.
If you agree with him, and act like you want out too... turn the tables.... he will either A) start trying to keep you, or B) be out of the picture.
One or the other needs to happen... (i suggest the 2nd option)
Good luck
2006-12-04 11:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your confidence?? You deserve better and it is out there. Move on... Break up with him. Why do you want to be married to someone like that. Leave NOW that you have the chance to before it gets too late.
2006-12-04 11:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he wants you to break up with him, and I think that you should give the man what he wants. You don't have to put up with that. I know that you must really like him for whatever reason, but the sooner you cut him off, the sooner you can start getting over him. No man suggests you be with someone else unless he doesn't want you anymore. Move on and find someone who deserves you.
2006-12-04 11:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by clifsdi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wait around for him to dump you, you need to dump him and find someone who appreciates you. Life is too short to remain in this type of a relationship!
2006-12-04 11:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by mikesco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋