my gf just broke up wit me syin tht she just wants to be friends and i reeli lked her but i cant get over her i need some advice
2006-12-04 03:33:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really love her let her to do what she thinks the best for her... be happy to be her friend.... imagine some people do not like to remain friends and that is extremely painful...
2006-12-04 03:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how long you have been together. Time heals all wounds. Maybe the relationship was moving to fast and she wasn't ready for it. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. When she tells you how she is feeling you need to really listen. Don't push her or you will push her farther away. Being Friends with her in the long run won't be so bad. If you are meant to be then she will see that and maybe you guys can work something out.
2006-12-04 11:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww! I'm really sorry. You don't mention your age or hers, but as the mom of three teens, I will give you the same advice I would give them....
It is going to take time for the pain to heal. But, it WILL! I promise. Also, I am a firm believer in if it is meant to be, it will be...there is nothing you can do or say to change it...and, look inside yourself and see the good person you are...do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? You deserve the love of your life... don't settle...
Time will heal this pain...just take it a day, moment, second at a time and you will get through it!
Good Luck!
2006-12-04 11:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to get over a broken heart. The reason your feeling like this is because you had this girlfriend who you really like and felt comfortable around. You could lean over and kiss her or hug her anytime and you felt a bond with her. Now that all of thats gone, your feeling upset and lonely probably. When someone says "i just want to be friends" its going to be hard to achieve that because you want more than just friendship. Your going to have to just forget about her. Try to keep yourself busy and be around friends alot because that will cause you to not sit in your room feeling sad and lonely thinking about this girl who just wants to be 'friends". There are thousands of girls out there who will want more than just friendship and its not that hard to find one if you just forget about this girl and move on. I know you will probably be upset for a while, and thats normal but let me tell you, it will pay off in the end. Hopefully this answered your question and good luck in everything you do.
2006-12-04 11:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to suck, but only time is going to heal your broken heart. Spend more time with your friends, keep busy, go to the batting cages or gym or arcade, anything to keep your mind off it. Time heals all, so while you wait for time to do it's magic - keep busy. Usually I find it's easier to be "just friends" with someone after a breakup if you don't talk to them for a bit. That way it clears the air and if a friendship is possible - it's easier. It's always going to suck the first time you hear they met someone else. Just remember who you are - I'm sure you're a great guy, and key thing - just keep busy. Hang out with your boys more.
2006-12-04 11:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can change her mind then talk to her about it. Why did she break up with you, is it something you can fix? If it isn't something you can fix then you will start to feel better in time. If she doesn't want to be with you don't worry there are plenty of others that will. I know you can't see that now but in time you will. Give yourself the time you need to get over her if you can't work it out with her. If you can work it out with her then let her know how much you care.
2006-12-04 11:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling out of love is not that simple especially when someone has broken your heart. It's going to take some time but you deserve some who who loves you and appreciates your good quality. Talk to you friends. Keep yourself busy so you don't think about it as much.
2006-12-04 11:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wanna know something true? one-sided love doesn't prevail. never. so im gonna have to say move on... naturally, letting go hurts a lot and you have to deal with the fact that you're no longer together, day by day by day. if you can't give her friendship yet, take your time. when you get used to the pain and becomes numb, you will be able to give her that eventually. right now, pick yourself up and do something productive for your future's sake.
2006-12-04 12:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Stanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we love someone and they don't feel the same about us, and that's really okay, cause there will be someone else for us , we really don't want to be with someone who doesn't love us, we just have to accept that, and allow people to make choices in life, even if it hurts us. just takes time to move on, and be ok with it, as we really did love that person even if it didn't work out with us. there will be many other girlfriends, and loves that will be in your life, and it is hard to understand when the object of our love doesn't choose to see us in that way. but it happens alot, just cause one person doesn't see u like u do her, doesn't mean there is a thing wrong with u, or that it's your falt. just be patient in life, the one meant for u will come, but only when u accept this, and deal with it appropriatly.
2006-12-04 11:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friends with her. There is always more women out there. Ones that will treat you the same way. You express yourself like a young person. Trust me youll find someone that will open your eyes in a way you never thought possible
2006-12-04 11:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by DR.PHIL-A-LIKE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. I say give it time and move on the best you can. Right now don't try to be her friend because that will not help how you feel at the moment.
2006-12-04 11:36:59 · answer #11 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋