My b/f lied to me. I caught him. He claims it was so I wouldn't get mad at him. He told me he was at his son's wrestling tourny when he really was over at a friend's house with his pals. I don't feel I can trust him as this isn't the first time he has lied in order to not make me mad-his words! It is true I have been angry in the past about how much time he spends with his friends and not with me-we live about 30 miles apart so can't see each other that often because of work and home obligations. He always has time for his friends but always seems to take me for granted. We have been together quite a long time...get along in most every way but this issue. By the way, he likes to party and have fun with his pals, but he HATES ME doing the same thing unless he is along. Should I forgive and forget? I don't think he is cheating on me, I really don't. I just don't see how I can trust him after this happening again. He wants to stay together. Help please?????
2006-12-04 03:32:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THANKS to all who answered. As hard as it is to read, I appreciate the full-out honesty of the answers. Yes I am in love with him-unfortunately CrAzY in love. {Am new at this and I ran out of 'characters' and was unable to continue with my message earlier} I truly wish I didn't care so deeply and feel like I do about him. My heart is breaking. I have cried all day at work-people wonder what is wrong with me. :( He is on my mind all day/all night, I can barely sleep. This just happened last Thursday and I haven't spoken to him since. I was so mad initially, and was very strong at first, standing up for myself. Each day, each minute that passes I lose all my confidence. He tried to call for two days and asked me to answer/call him back and I wouldn't answer and I haven't called. He quit calling?! But I won't call him, I won't. I MAY answer if he calls again just to let him know how I feel. I am floundering. This sucks. THANKS again for all you out there. Out of typingspce
2006-12-04 09:00:34 · update #1
Sorry to say this...and i really am, but it sounds like you can do better. The sooner you confront him about this whole ordeal and tell him how you feel, the sooner you may agree to end it...the sooner you are with another man who looks forward to seeing you and spending his free time with you (and then his friends). Friends are fine, but if two people are serious about making a relationship work they must be willing to please the other person and meet thier needs. If he is not willing to meet your needs and instead lie his way around it, where will this develop? Nowhere. Even if he does come around me, he's going to secretly resent you and wish he were catching the game with the guys or drinking beer while playing x-box. There is better. Go get him.
2006-12-04 03:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by grittykitty2007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to lay down the law. By this I mean whats good for him is good for you.
Go out and have fun with your friends and dont invite him along. If he doesnt like it just tell him you dont want a relationship with anyone who lords it over you and does things youre "not allowed" to do. Let him know you wont put up with that crap. Also let him know any lying about his whereabouts is subject to immediate break up because you will not tolerate lying.
He can only step all over you if you allow it.
2006-12-04 11:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has lied to you several times and you're still wondering whether you should STAY with the loser? Your question didn't mention 'love' one time, so there you go. If you don't trust him, don't stay with him. He's obviously not 'with' you, he just wants someone to be around when it's convenient for him.
2006-12-04 11:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words, Leave him. he is one of those guys who wants you to tell his friends "I got a girlfriend." And it's a good thing that you get along with him, do you love him? if you do then it's gonna be hard to move on, but try things that will make you happy again.
2006-12-04 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by munchy_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋