Please answer, I am 15 and really need some good advice.?
Ok, I am tha guy from a few months ago..who couldnt get over that girl...I would post the same questoin ever day. Now granted, I have matured since then, and realize hwo immatue that was. But the truth is, I'm not over that girl yet, and I dont think I ever will be. I really , truely do love her. Me and her now, are like really good friends, and I so desperatly want something to happen. And every time I'm around her, my feelings grow stronger. I love her...what should i do?"?? But..theres more to it...I've known her since I was seven. So weve been good friends for several years. I've had many crushes b4. But this is soo different. I want her to be happy. When she's mad, I'm mad. IDK..its just so weird and crazy. And she used to feel sumthin over the summer...and now its gone. and she's almost goin out with my bestfriend. But I dont know i just love her so much. And if theres anything I can do, or anything i shouldnt do please tell me.
2006-12-04 03:27:46 · 14 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But I'm not coming across desperate. Three months ago, I asked her out. She said she doesnt like me like that, But I know she altleast considered it over the summer. But about a month ago, she wanted the friendship back, she said she missed it. So now to her. I have to be very carefull cuz If I come across to her as if I like her, it will ruin the friendship, which is the last think i wanna do. So I kno I am not coming across to her that like her. But under neath all that , i still do
2006-12-04 03:31:37 · update #1
other than telling her what you just told us...nothing, cant force yourself on her. do not hesitate either, tell her NOW.
2006-12-04 03:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...you're 15 fer crying out loud
Everything seems so urgent and more intense at 15.
Trust me....wait till you're 18 and think back on this. Whoa boy are you gonna be embarrassed.
It ain't love either...and you know it. You want "something" to happen huh? Like what? No blame here. You are 15 and those hormones are playin a number on you. Just remember, girls don't have the same hormones so she ain't feeling the same urgency.
Stop now before you damage even the friendship. This too shall pass. You'll either get a handle on those hormones, or they'll wreak havoc on you
Don't you have an adult male role model you can talk to?
Any half decent men on YAnswers that can help this boy? Perverts need not apply.
2006-12-04 11:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and focus on being you and not on her. A lot of times we can offset things just cause we are so intent on something happening. Maybe if you just did your own thing she would notice you more cause you are not always around. She could be use to you being a friend so if you want a spark to develop maybe you have to back off and let her come to realize her feelings by not having you around. If nothing happens for you after that you have to realize that 1 she is not the one for you or 2 this is not the right time. So just live your life and things will work out.
2006-12-04 11:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brutal honesty?
My neighbor was in love with me too, from the time we were little kids. We played together like all kids in the same neighborhood do. When we became teens and I started liking boys, I started liking other boys. When I would feel down or like I needed a boost I would go next door, or ask him to go to the beach or just hang in his room and talk. I know he thought it was going somewhere and I didn't care. He took me out on dates that meant more to him than to me. As soon as my lovelife picked up he was history. As soon as it lulled I would start talking to him again.
The point is, I wasn't mean or evil or calculating, I was just a normal teenage girl who was selfish and didn't think about his feelings. Normal teenage girl is the thing you have to remember.
This might be the first time you are encountering this sort of thing, but it will go on until you, and the girls you know, are in your twenties and start to mature. Months don't mature anyone. Years do. You may very well be in love with this girl for the rest of your life. That doesn't mean you won't find other girls, girls you love more or lust after more or would jump off a cliff for, but she will always have special place in your heart because she was the first and you have known her all your life.
And, if it's any consolation, she will look back on these years and feel remorse for how she treated you. But also keep in mind that if she comes knocking at your door, anytime between now and the time she is out of college, she wants and ego boost, that's all.
Keep one thing in mind too, you have learned to love at an early age, which will make you so attractive to other girls that you won't eeven believe it. Look around. Your heartache will be like a magnet to other girls, girls who won't take you for granted and who will want to help you get over the girl next door.
2006-12-04 11:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing u can really do to make her love you i have the same problem i love a guy bt he doesn't like me back in the same way i realized that u can never make some one love u back bt just be round them and be happy for them i no it sounds hard ( and it is!!) bt you may still have a chance so be there OR u have 2 choses 1. if u want and think its the best thing to do TELL her how u feel! 2. keep quite and be her friend. tell me how u get on OK!
2006-12-04 11:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known her that long and she knows how you feel about her and she is obviously not interested in a relationship with you,sorry but it ain't never gonna happen.You should stop putting yourself through this and move on,you are only 15 and I'm sure there are plenty of other girls you could go out with.
2006-12-04 11:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u ve done wat ever cud be done in respect to fulfilling ur desires as it has got clear to u that she doesnt like ur rwelationship that way so i think there is no point in keeping ur self hanging in there .. i know its hard but at times we ve to make tough decisions .. i think u shud try to ve a relationship with some other girl who really wants u that way n as far as she is concerned i think lateer on in life u wud realize there is no other beautiful n fulfilling relatinship then friendship so one shud not pollute such a relation for something on which u wont be able to enjoy in case u ve the feeling that other partner doesnt enjoy as much as u do so its better to leave ... good luck
2006-12-04 11:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by wizard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes NOT leading you on then leave her alone. You'll only feel emotional pain to come. Confident in your ability to see someone else? If shes hitting on your best friend and if hes responding which I hope hes NOT especially if he knows how you feel.. That could screw up you and his friendship. Ignore her, they usually come back around later and then you'll see how fast YOUR feelings slip away that you have for her (?)...
2006-12-04 11:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have told her how you feel - then there is nothing you can do but get over it...if you havent told her - than do it now....i dont remember your last questions..but seems you havent given up ....so it is up to her to let you know if you have a chance at a real relationship....only she can tell you if you feelings are going anywhere, not us - i hope you get the girl...but if your best friend gets her first - you will have to respect their relationship and that will be hard for you....good luck...
2006-12-04 11:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.google.com, type in Free XXX, click the pictures, get a tissue, have fun. Or kill your best friend. Problem solved.
2006-12-04 11:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by sdsijfadsfii i 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u r in love! just make her feel z extent of ur love in ur words n actions! all z very best!
2006-12-04 11:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Vashini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋