ok somebody posted because they work in a restaurant.. they were complaining about parents who let their kids make a HUGE mess and behave like animals (I wonder if the kids behave that way at home too) and they were asking why do parents take such bratty children out..
Anyhow most of the answers seemed to say this was normal and there was something wrong with her for complaining about this... I was SHOCKED and rather disgusted.. if this is normal and so many people are saying its acceptable for kids to behave like this - I truely fear for the future....
The question was in Parenting.....
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061204054724AAe31RP&r=w#NbUvWjG5VzVg6dhlKoiA
wow.... how sad.. how sad.. how sad.... and why would parents allow their kids to treat other people (restaraunt staff) like crap is just terrible...
so ya.. WHY IS THIS ACCEPTABLE?????
2006-12-04 03:18:50 · 19 answers · asked by CF_ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well at least the most of the people who answered my question are alot smarter than those who answered the original question.. more than the kids its those answers defending the kids and parents that shocked me
2006-12-04 07:10:23 · update #1
the parents probably don't have the skills or knowledge to know any different. you should start working in a day care center or someplace these kids are and teach them better. start teaching parenting classes in the neighborhood where this happens.
criticizing is one thing, but educating changes the world.
make a change...in yourself...to change the world for the better.
2006-12-04 03:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Perhaps people disliked the tone of the person who asked the question. The person seemed to really hate families. (and kids) Also blamed 85% of parents for having kids like this.
Everyone needs to relax. If you don't like something... get up and leave.
If my child was ever misbehaving I would correct her in a manner I see fit--I am the parent. So far I have had absolutely no trouble. If someone in a restaurant (waiter) gave me any advice or comments on my parenting you can be sure that person would now be jobless. (And I would have an apology letter from that establishment.)
Many times the people who claim their children are "perfect" and never rude to anyone are the ones whose children are complete terrors.
2006-12-05 05:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not explaining it quite correctly. She didn't simply complain about some kids and parents but 85% of them. (Also said they don't tip well)
Like it or not families make up a large population and have the right to go out to restaurants. Babies and kids can be messy. That is a fact. They tend to be loud too. Kids are generally not as well behaved as adults, fact also. Even the best behaved children have bad days.
If someone hates working in those conditions, get another job. Families spend money and families are some of the people paying the wages of those waiters.
Children should be taught to behave but how can this happen unless they learn through example and correction when they misbehave. Smacking them would surely make you feel better but wouldn't help the children. (unless you also wish to hear loud crying) Perhaps you don't like the way some parents choose to deal with their children but that is really not your business. Children are not robots, they are not perfect.
If you don't want to be near children don't go where you might find them; stay away from restaurants and malls. (and don't work in the service industry if you can't handle stressful situations)
2006-12-04 03:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by artimis 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Because the parents think that it's the staffs job to clean up after them, when they're at home it's a whole different story parents will not tolerate that same behavior then. It's the parents who have very little regards and respect for the establishments they visit and don't think of themselves as a guest of someone else's place of business, they get into the "I'm the customer" mindset and my kids can do whatever they feel like. Anytime you visit a restaurant or shopping mall, etc... you are a guest and should conduct yourself as such.
2006-12-04 03:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Norm 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I used to work in a truck stop, and people would bring babies in at one a.m! Shouldn't these kids be at home in bed? On top of that, they would allow their kids to throw french fries in the floor, smush them onto the table, and sometimes, the parents were messier than the kids!!
I had a few faithful customers who tipped really well, so I put up with a little mess every now and then. Besides, their babies were so cute!!
I have a daughter who's four, and there is no way in hell she makes a mess in a restaurant. She threw a gummy bear at me once, and I made her pick it up in front of everybody there. She won't throw anything else!!
2006-12-04 03:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Thats WAY NOT ACCEPTABLE. I have four kids myself. I assure you they are all well behaved when I take them out to eat or out anywhere for that matter. How about the people at the restaurants who don't have kids? Do they go out and pay for a nice dinner just to have some bratty kid sitting at the table nearby screaming and carrying on? I don't think so! How rude. If you can't control your children and make them behave you shouldn't take them out places and force any other people to have to deal with them. I don't blame that waitress for complaing - I'm sure she has to deal with that quite a bit and I bet the people didn't even give her an extra tip for cleaning up after them either!
2006-12-04 03:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
That is not acceptable at all. Having worked and managed restaurants for years I find this behavior very disrespectful. Parents need to have their children behave themselves --not just in public places--but as well as the home. It does start in the home--afterall. Restaurant management and aftaff for the most part need to ask that the children be calmed down if this gets out of hand. The mess? Well, if the parents cannot clean it up to be courteous--then the staff has to.
2006-12-04 06:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I was a waiter for a very brief time 2 months and I had parents and their 2 kids come in and sit down, 2-3 minutes later they are standing on their chairs banging on the plate glass windows! I told em if you cant control your children you have to leave, they acted like nothing was going on. You can bet that they would be the first ones to contact an attorney if some one got hurt. By the way they got up and left said I was rude to them, see ya don't let the door hit you on the way out.
2006-12-04 03:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by landersonjr1958 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I was surprised at the answers to the question that you are refering to. That is not acceptable behavior. I realize that kids will be kids, etc. But they do not have to act like uncivilized animals. I witness so many unruly acts in public with children. I was in church a few weeks ago. It was crowded and I was sitting next to this family with a bunch of bad children..not realy young...maybe 5-7 years of age. They were throwing church bulletins, dancing in the aisles, talking loud, dropping hymn books. Now, I know church is a very dull place for children. But the church did provide a cry room. The parents were practically ignoring these kids. I was completely annoyed because I was not able to concentrate on worshipping. Again, I realize that "kids will be kids," but when it gets to the point that they are upseting paying customers in a restaurant or disturbing people in their place of worship, that is just not acceptable or cute.
2006-12-04 04:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Angrygirl5 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
When my kids were smaller at home they seemed normal...however as soon as I said, let's "GO" have dinner.
It's like I could hear these little voices in there head's say YEEEEEHAW... time to TERRORIZE..!!!
When we would get to the resteraunt it seemed as though someone loaded them full of sugar, and set them free.
Before you know it, you feel like your having to hog tie them to there chairs, and tie there little arms down, due to there curiousity levels being up in the sky. lol
Nevertheless even though they were perfect little angels at home, but going out was like dealing with the invasion of the little body snatchers.
I still did my best as a parent to pick up after them, and try to keep some control to the madness. It's not fair being cooped up in your home, due to not knowing how your children will act.
I have been out to a nice resteraunt, and seen those parents who let there children terrorize anything, and everything around them.
And yes... I don't agree with it.
(phewwwww.. THANK GOODNESS there older)
2006-12-04 03:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As a parent (and previous waiter) i'm consistently attentive to my son's habit when we are out. yet as a parent i visit work out how some dad and mom have a foul day. perhaps the dad and mom had a puzzling time searching a babysitter or purely did no longer ought to time to practice dinner. They went to eat through the indisputable fact that they had a very puzzling day at paintings, etc. Disciplining their little ones in public can no longer purely take the relaxing out of any evening, it would want to also be embarrassing for them (even if it is going to or no longer). allow's no longer condemn those dad and mom to be elevating a herd of gangsters and hoodlums. Impolitely because it will be, they could have purely allow their safeguard down. With that stated, that is rude and thoughtless for others to allow their little ones behave in one of those fashion. This challenge should be addressed with the aid of the dad and mom. even if, that is purely as rude and offensive to call someone's little ones "animals" or "bratty" and condemn the dad and mom with none extra understand-how than a thirty minute dinner statement. Even the suited young ones might want to be unpredictable and characteristic undesirable days. dad and mom may have undesirable days too. My wager is that many of the anger expressed change into no longer in justifying the undesirable behaviour, yet a retort to the not undemanding words of "bratty" and "animal" and a protection to the parent and little ones who might want to have purely had a foul day. Undoubtably there are some undesirable dad and mom with undesirable young ones who do not have manners. those undesirable manners might want to no longer be seen "regular" yet you requested why human beings stated it change into perfect. that is maximum in all danger because many if no longer all dad and mom have had those undesirable reviews on occassion. they're reliable dad and mom with reliable young ones yet had a foul day. To be thrown lower than the bus or labelled a foul parent is hurtful at the same time as parenting, relatives, and little ones are so major to them. i imagine those dad and mom are purely attempting to safeguard themselves and little ones adversarial to the labelling and call calling. i truly doubt there are a range of of oldsters who've no regard for others or who make no attempt to coach their little ones manners. If there are we are going to choose help!!
2016-11-23 16:08:00 · answer #11 · answered by money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋