Is it normal for a women to be scared/nevious the first time she has sex?

Question

i mean i came close to haveing sex but i got scared like all these thoughts went though my head like what if i get pregnant, a STD, what if he leaves me........just stuff like that and i chicken out

Answer 1

its tough the first time

Answer 2

To a point....but not overly so....if you feel there's a chance the guy could leave you afterwards...DONT do it....he's the wrong guy if you doubt him....wait for someone special...someone you love and who you know loves you just as much. Also....you neednt worry about STD's and pregnancy so much as you SHOULD be using a condom AND some other form such as spermicide or the contraceptive pill. Please wait til the right guy comes along honey.....there really is no hurry ok? The longer you can wait the better off you will be. I wish I had waited a little longer than I did. I think most people do....Be proud of who you are....most guys will actually find it very appealing and will respect you something wicked....and if they dont....bye bye! Good Luck!!!! xx
P.S: Ok so after I posted this I went and read some of your other questions to see if I could find out how old you are and.......found that not only did you post a question 3 days ago saying you couldnt find any nice guys who are interested in you and were looking for a guy.....BUT....Also....3 days ago you freakin posted a thing saying you had sex with your boyfriend a few weeks ago?????? Ok so just keep doing what you're doing but quit wasting peoples time who have sat down and taken time to give you some good advice.....you're full of C R A P. Find a hobby is my advice to you. You have issues love!

Answer 3

You thinking about those things is your mind telling you you're not really ready to deal with the consequences of sex. It's normal to be scared of your first time, but you're no more scared than the guy. In fact guys are usually more nervous because there is a greater amount of pressure to perform. You should always wait until you're ready..usually with someone you truly care about and have been seeing for a while (or married). And though abstinence is the only sure way to prevent STD's and pregnancy, there are effective ways to protect yourself. The only thing you can't protect yourself against is the emotional aspect. You just never know what will happen after. Until you are absolutely sure, I wouldn't be in a rush. Take your time.

Answer 4

No, those are normal fears, and they're exactly the sorts of things you should think about before you have sex (with any new partner, or even for the first time). If you're not thinking and worrying about these things, then you're not old enough to be having sex.

If you're still nervous, don't stress. Don't worry. Just wait and take your time. The thing is, eventually, you'll find a guy who you know you can trust. Someone who you know will be there if something bad does happen.

Answer 5

It is very normal to be nervous. Always use protection (and if you are really considering having sex then you should maybe get on birth control). You should wait until you are absolutly sure that you want to go that far. Once you lose your virginity you will never get it back. Remember you are always worth waiting for so if they guy really loves/likes you then he will wait until you are ready. Dont rush into anything.

I think that if you "chicken out" then you probably aren't ready for that big of a responsibility. And if you have that many questions then you should think long and hard before you commit to that. And make sure the guy isnt just using you for sex. Many guys just want you for sex and then will drop you once they get it.

Your first time isnt always a good experience. It hurts, or its uncomfortable. I think you should just think for a long while before you decide to have sex.

Answer 6

I'm no woman but still a virgin and yes I can even see where you are coming from I wouldn't let it get to you if he leaves you because you didn't have sex with him... that's just sad. I recommend saving it for that someone special and even if you get nervous and chicken out in front of them if they are willing to wait that is what counts. Good Luck.

Answer 7

hey, id say well done, if the time is not right, then you wont allow it to happen, you are quite right to do what you feel, and not rush things like this.

its the most normal thing in the world, just wait until it seems like the right time, and you are with someone who you have known for a nice amount of time, make sure you know they are clean of stds, and make sure they are trustworthy, and loyal to you

then go for it, try not to be nervous, it will end well

Answer 8

well here is the thing use a condom and the threat for std's is pretty much not there same with pregnancy and if you are scared you boy will leave you then you arent ready yet my gf was scared the first time but she trusted me and i am still with her and its been almost a year since the first time

Answer 9

This is normal because many girls your age and older are getting pregnant and catching stds. If you arent ready yet and you arent for sure he is the right person to give your virginity to. Dont just do this for him, but for you also.

Answer 10

how old are you first of all? and if you're not ready then don't do it. so good job not letting yourself go until you know you're really ready!!! and yes it's better to think about those things then not caring and getting an std and getting pregnant and having to raise a child on your own. good job for you! :)

Answer 11

yes, it is very normal, and i would be concerned if you didn't have any worries, because, well its a first time your doing something, and thats always a difficult and can make you nervous, and if that wasn't enough, well sex, is a huge step in your life, its the first time your going to do it and you quite rightly want to make sure that everything is right.