Me and my boyfriend of a year broke up due to how things where becoming in our realtionship. When we first got together he would treat nme so ggod but then as time went on I wold try to talk to him and he would just look at me like i was nothing, and i would get so angry from him putting me down and telling me that I was he wrong always doing somthing wrong in the relationship. I would push him, sometimes even punch him..Im only 105 lbs so i know that it dint hurt is bad as him putting my esteem down.
So now he want space to figure out where he wants to be and im left in the cold wondering and waiting for him to come back to me. Its so hard for me to get over him. i miss him so much that I keep going back to him for sex and that love, that he use to give me, but he wont give me the love anymore.
He's leaving to for Christmas, without me and i begged to go with him, and to please give me onemore chance he told me knw he needs time alone...He a Virgo and im a piscese it hurts
2006-12-04 03:09:20 · 15 answers · asked by taneshia_mcclain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh sweetie, please don't beg him. I don't think you can really see what's happening here. Read what you wrote as if someone else wrote it. Would you hang on? Space just means he wants to keep you hanging on and has no intention of coming back. I know you hurt but the sooner you get honest about if being over, the sooner you will heal. Take care of you and may life bless you with friends that care for you and help you through this.
2006-12-04 03:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you think it didn't hurt him you were physically abusive to him and I don't blame him one bit for leaving you. Had he been the one hitting and pushing you I'm sure you would have left. As far as you going back to have sex with him your just a piece of a** to him now and that is all you will be if you continue to allow yourself to be such. Your zodiac signs don't matter either what matters is if you both love and respect one another and from what you have typed in your question there is no respect on either end. If he looks at you as if your nothing and you hit him where is the respect? Move on and stop being abusive to men and justifying that its okay because your only 105 pounds and "it didn't hurt him" and stop staying in relationships where you allow men to bring down your self esteem.
By the way when a man says he needs some time or space it means he doesnt want you STOP BEGGING him
2006-12-04 11:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it girl do you really want someone who is going to put you down all the time or someone who will love you without you doing anything for him. There are guys like that I have one. You just have to be patient. Don't go looking for a man let him come to you. I was the same way until I figured if I won't take that I deserve much more. There is someone for everyone and he seems like he isn't the right one. If you stay with him get married have kids do you think the kids deserve to see there parents argue all the time. I went through that when I was young and you know what to this day I have no good memories of my childhood. Don't do that pls. I know you deserve better. Every woman does!!! So keep your head up and let him go he don't deserve you. He will know what he lost when you are gone.
2006-12-04 11:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone's will is broken by a guy or even a girl, that's when we want our ex's back. Him putting you down over and over broke you. Get over this once mentally abusive person and find someone mature. And in future, keep your fists to your sides as that is the most childish thing on earth to do in a relationship - hit the other. Maybe you should take time to get to know yourself a little better too, and your likes / dislikes and take time to mature a little more too since you behaved badly when you hit him. Lastly, him being a Virgo and you a Pisces means nothing in a relationship. Don't base things on astrology, or you could miss out on a great relationship with a great guy in the future.
2006-12-04 11:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first. You punch him and you feel that is justified? That is call physical abuse no matter how light you think you are.
Secondly, from your story " i miss him so much that I keep going back to him for sex and that love, that he use to give me, but he wont give me the love anymore"
It is obvious that you don't like him. You are dependent on him and please wake up!!! U are in love with the concept of LOVE and not him!!
and if "I wold try to talk to him and he would just look at me like i was nothing" happens again, just leave him to himself, he realli needs that time-out.
wadever the case is now. Get over him, and find a new guy. A fling if you wish. Do anything that is not stupid and get over it. IF you feel that ur esteem hung low cos of him, do yourself a favor and get over it. Otherwise your self-esteem would be even lower.
2006-12-04 11:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him, this relationship is doomed, he knows it, that is why he wants space. Now you need to see it also. One thing, you do not put your hands on anyone. All you seem to want is the sex, and a relationship should mean more then that. Mental abuse in a relationship, can, and will strip you of your self esteem. No one needs to take that pressure! Get out while you can, start to work on you, read books and tapes. Wish him well, and take this time to smell the roses!
2006-12-04 11:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space and his time.. if it is meant to be it will be. You should never go and beg him to go back to you! I know you love him (or you think you do) but you shouold not want to be in a relationship where you dont know if there person is with you becasue he loves you or because you begged him to get back with you!
It is not the end of the world, although it may feel that way! You are young, take your own time off. Go out with friends, get involved in school, go out on dates. You never know someone even better might be out there waiting for you!
2006-12-04 11:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Astrological signs have nothing to do with this. I was in something like this for a long time. It was always my fault that I when anything went wrong in the relationship and not his. Also, I felt exactly as you do, it hurt and I blamed myself. Whenever he broke with me he gave me the same lines that this guy is telling you.
At the same time, while he says he needs room what about you needing room to think? Yes it hurts, and yes it is painful but what about who you are as a person without him.
2006-12-04 11:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if he's a martian and your from venus. We date people to get to know them, so when we find the right one, we know it. It's time to move on. There are so many guys out there, don't settle for one that treats you bad. It is easier to go back to the one you are use to than finding a new guy. But it's not healthy. The best way to get over someone is with someone else. Don't settle for less when you deserve so much more. Trust me, you will love again, you will get over him. Stop dwelling on him and move on.
2006-12-04 11:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about your horoscope signs. why is it that us women don't seem to hear when the guy says something to us? He said he needs time and space. Let him go and you should take this time to get together with your girls and go out and have fun. Do you have any hobbies? Get busy with them and get busy working on yourself on becoming and independent individual instead of a whiny co dependent person. You are better then that...
2006-12-04 11:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋