How come guys never wanna be just friends with me? I don't understand it? My friends have guy friends but whenever I tell a guy i'm glad we're friends he compltley shuts me out or is never around anymore..
No offense to girls well cause I am 1 but sometimes guys are less annoying (not so chit chatty bout everything) and fun to hang out with and I don't understand why they can't be just friends with me and the guys I do like i'm to shy to tell them... ahhhh
2006-12-04 03:08:41 · 14 answers · asked by Holly_90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cause when you tell me we are just friends you are telling me i have no chance of sex with you and that sucks not in a good way
2006-12-04 03:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are playing at being just friends to see if there is a chance of them getting something more eventually. As soon as you shut that door down, they're gone. Not always intentional or conscious on their part. They're wired different then women. On average a guy thinks of sex 60% percent more a day than a woman.
Women see intimacy in other ways then men. For example, physical love for us is usually tied to the emotion. Guys not so. That's why alot of men can't understand why women can't forgive a fling. It was just a fling after all. We don't get that it's separate for them, and they can't get that we find it hard to separate.
There are some men who do just want friendship with a woman too, but a close intimate non physical friendship between the sexes is very rare indeed.
2006-12-04 03:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Young* guys never want to be friends. Eventually we grow up and and just fine being a girls friend.
Guys are homonal and horny well into their twenties (and beyond in some cases), usually long after girls have settled down a bit. As a result, you want to be friends with guys and they just want to have sex.
Give them time and they'll get there.
*Edit: Fun Activity. I just had a look through the other answers to your question and I think I could just about guess the age of each respondant to the thread.
Read the answers, guess the age and check the profiles to see if you're right (unfortunately a lot of people don't update them). Attitudes towards sex are one of the easiest identifiers for someone's age.
2006-12-04 03:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by crunchy_mush 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay not sure why but from personal experience girls dont make good friends because they think different and expect different outcomes from situations. and well honestly i have guy friends why do i need another friend to be quite blunt. just relax and wait a couple of years then you wont be running into guys that only think about getting some then you can have some guy friends.
2006-12-04 03:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world, take a seat.
Males go for friendships with benefits, females generally don't.
I never understood either until I lived long enough to. All my male buddies ditched me when they realized I wanted platonic friendships only.
Makes me wonder if other women are lying about their platonic friendships or if they are teasing their male friends into thinking it can lead to intimacy.
My advice: Still be friends with boys, we females sometimes need a male point of view. Expect the friendships to be brief, when it fizzles (and it will) get a new male friend and start the cycle all over again.
2006-12-04 03:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i know it is not my question and answer too, but i will try to say smth. We, girls, need a boys to be our friends, because they are not so talkative and they try always to understand us without being envious. But they are a little different, because they cant have girls friends, because their hormons work in another way, they only think about how we look, and how it will be when they will kiss us. They dream a lot...a lot...Maybe thats they way most of them dont need a girl to be their friend...
2006-12-04 03:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think it depends on the age of both of you. When you are younger guys often mistake friendship for something else, as you grow older you realise that both sexs are more mature and tend to look less for relationships where they dont exist.
2006-12-04 03:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with BOYS and not MEN. I have plenty of females I am just friends with, no sex or anything like that.
Remember,,,,
MEN are happy in a relationship (marriage) and family with ONE woman.
BOYS want to play with all the toys.
2006-12-04 03:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the only reason the guys walk away when you say that is because all they want is to get down your pants like most guys will and the guys you do like dont be scared all guys like to know that they are liked by a girl any girl it doesnt matter who they will still want to know
2006-12-04 03:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by you dont know me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋