Not to long ago after I dispute my girl and I had she went behind my back and went out with another guy and was sendin him sexy emails and things of that nature. I found out and gave her a pice of my mind. After 2 weeks she says she learned her lesson? But did she? At this point my trust for her a fell...i guess i was bein nieve but my trust for her was 150% and also it was the fact im in school about to graduate in a week and shes out with another guy flirtin who she said he was just a friend..well you dont send a FRIEND a sexy email. I dont trust her all like that anymore? But lately she has been tryin to get back with me...I do see her attempts, she is tryin but i am still unsure and taken back by what happened among other things WITHIN our relationship that a could and coulda dealt with but now since she got caught doin somethin she shouldnt of been doin, im just not sure...please give me your detailed insight
2006-12-04 03:02:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
send her packin and dont look back
2006-12-04 03:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, It is hard to say. I am guessing that you hurt her and she felt abandoned so she began contacting another guy. Often people do this when they do not feel that they are being treated right. I don't think it was right what she did but I can see why.
You may have to take time before you can trust her agin. If you are close to graduation I reccommend that you wait till that is all over before giving her another chance.
Tell her this too. Tell her that if she ever does anything like this again it is over for good.
Just take it real slow when you get back together and see how it goes. If you rush back in and treat her like nothing happened then she will think she can treat you this way. Be careful but it is worth another shot if you get along ok for the most part.
2006-12-04 03:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ex gf might have some insecurity issues. You may want to consider staying apart not so much because you don't trust her, but because she needs to learn self reliance. You sound like you still really care about her, so you should want to do what's best for her. Someone who is in need of attention (to the point of turning around right after a relationship hits rocky point and getting some other guys attention) really has a lot of growing up to do. She doesn't sound ready for a serious relationship and part of that may not be her fault, she just has some learnign to do.
Good luck - and follow your heart.
2006-12-04 03:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously....move on. This happened to me and I could never trust my boyfriend at the time again. Believe me...I tried and we tried to make it work like for eight months after I caught him with another girl. In my own experience...you need to move on. Trust is so important in relationships and if you can't trust your siginificant other then move on. you will be a better person and you will be free to meet someone that has the morals that you have.
2006-12-04 03:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust, what's left.
How can you possibly have a life together if you have to worry about her every move? And you will. This is your dilemma. You must decide. Ask yourself, is she worth stressing over? She is obviously very sly and secretive. Seems as though the answers are in front of you, but, your eyes are wide shut. Best wishes.
2006-12-04 03:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust you have no relationship to work for. If you don't trust her at all then move on. If you think that she has changed then start slow, don't just jump back into a committed relationship. Try being friends for a while.
2006-12-04 03:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by AMC615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with ur life and look for positive life in a girl u really can trust
2006-12-04 03:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty u went against ur trust and kinda tarnish it
so if i was you
weight ur option the pros and cons about this girl
and decide what u want to do
if i was in ur shoes i will just leave
dont need a headache like that
2006-12-04 03:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she just saying she's sorry, or is she doing anything different, like cut all ties with this guy to show she's sincere? She needs to do some different behavior like change her screen name, so this guy can't contact her.
2006-12-04 03:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real truth of the matter is if she loved you she would not have done it, cut her lose and i bet she hooks up with who ever she has been in contact with
2006-12-04 03:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by gazooks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋