males is it true?

Question

When a female ask you what you are thinking and you say "nothing", how can you be thinking about nothing, women are always thinking.

Answer 1

Cuz we're men. Yes it is true. Men often actually do just zone out or decide to give their mind's a break. Haha, my friends and I were just having a discussion the other day about girlfriends always asking what you're thinking about and being upset if you don't have an answer.

Answer 2

Okay, so we're always thinking about SOMETHING, but our brains aren't organized the same as yours. You may have everything planned out as to what you're going to do tomorrow (what to wear, to put gas in the car because you noticed the gauge was low earlier today, to buy that present for your best friend because you saw it on sale yesterday, etc) and most guys kind of play it by ear. One system isn't necessarily better than the other, it's just two different ways of doing things.
I read in a book once that once a woman starts something it stays in her mind until it's resolved, no matter how long or how many other things there are going on. That's one of those mysterious things about women that makes you so intriguing to us men. We can't understand how you do it, but God bless you for being able to.

So when we say 'nothing' it doesn't mean 'nothing', it may just mean nothing significant or important, like when you ask us what we want for dinner and we say "I don't know". We know, but really we're happy with whatever's there.

Answer 3

This is more a symptom of not being to articulate at the first asking what we mere men are thinking about. Try asking a second time, and then drop it if it's still "nothing".

The fact is, women speak about 3-4 times more than men and can multitask on several activities. Men on the other hand are specialised for focussing on a singular task, and are more 'thinkers' than 'talkers'. (Which is why men dread arguments with women, because they seem to be all over the place.) When you first ask the question, "What are you thinking about?" you are gaining a man's attention. Then when you ask the second time, he has time to concentrate on you and process the question to give you an answer.

Generally, you want to have a man's complete attention for important conversations, or allow time for a man to formulate answers if his attention is focussed elsewhere. THIS MEANS NOT FILLING THE SILENCE WITH CHATTER IF YOU WANT A RESPONSE. No offense ladies, but why would you expect your man to speak if you keep talking? If you want an answer to the question, you need to allow time for the reply to come back...

Answer 4

Nothing.....Heh, thats when I personally am doing that: Thinking about absolutely nothing. I give such an answer for other such thoughts. A few examples are:
1. Things that no one should care about
2. Thoughts I perfer to keep to myself
3. Thoughts that have nothing to do with anything I am around at the moment.
4. When women annoyingly ask me what I am thinking and make my train of thought crash, annoying me greatly.

Answer 5

It is safer for a guy to say nothing then put his foot in his mouth. Could be too that keeping quiet makes them wise. The wrong answer only makes you look foolish.
Why do we have to have the answers? Can't a man have his own private thoughts. Men think too; even when they choose not to really tell us. That can be limiting in communication in a relationship though. Why not give them time and encouragement. Being positive and allowing them to answer when they are ready.
We women tend to be impatient. On that I speak from personal experience.

Answer 6

I'm not sure how it works but it is true. Of course sometimes we may be thinking about something totally stupid or irrelevant so we may just say nothing rather than try to explain why we were thinking about whether our tongue would really freeze to the flagpole in winter or if we kick a cat in theair if it will always land on it's feet.

Answer 7

I'm not a guy but I do have a boyfriend and I normally tell when he says nothing and something is bothering him by the tone of his voice or a nuance in the word. Sometimes it is nothing and he'll insist so I'll drop it and other times he'll tell me what is really going on.

Answer 8

thats awesome.... Sorry. Its just that with my ex, i would ask her what she is thinking and she would say nothing most of the time. It used to piss me off, because like you said, we are always thinking. No human is ever thinking about NOTHING. Its not possible to NOT think. So when someone tells you, mainly your boyfriend. It means he either doesnt want to talk to you.. Or he is thinking something that he thinks you dont want to hear, OR he is thinking something that you really dont want to know. So thats that.

Answer 9

It depends on the guy. I've known girls who say the same thing. It used to drive me nuts because my mind is always racing 100 mph. I rarely answer nothing. When I do, it's probably something I'd hate to admit or something that's not important.

Answer 10

Men have creative minds that drift from subject to subject without dwelling on anything in particular. When a woman asks what a man is thinking...she really wants to know...is he thinking about her or about someone else. It is a control technique that women use to try and intimidate and control men. *My* standard answer to that question is..."I was thinking whether you would look better handcuffed and gagged, or just naked in chains." Then I smile at them.