what should i do to forget my past and b happy?

Question

past means i loved someone who ditched me very badly,these is one yr now than also i cant forget,i was really serious abou r relationship

Answer 1

Give yourself one more year, the memories would gradually fade and you will be as happy as ever

Answer 2

Ending a relationship is like a death in some ways and must be mourned. However, as with any other death, the living much continue to do just that, live. You say that you were "ditched" and I know that hurt you badly, but, do you want that person to continue to hold so much power and influence over your life? You need to begin to see yourself and a valuable, a gem of sorts. Let today be your new beginning. There will still be times that you will hurt but you need to start living again. Hope this helps. Let you good spirits of the holiday lift your spirits. If nothing else, give of yourself to someone that is less fortunate than you. This tends to let us see the big picture and know that there is a big world out there!

Answer 3

Very difficult to forget some one you loved and it is really unfortunate that you got ditched by your love.

To forget the past, you need to terminate that love and go to the jail. Can you do this ? If NO then why you are wasting your energy.

On the other extreme, if it is difficult to forget that love, can you go back to that one and get ditched afain and again ? If NO again you are wasting your time.

If some one did not make you deserve the return of your love, then why you are shading tears for that scraundal. You should not be that stupid.

I suggest you make your self so strong, bold and big that that one should feel complex when you are around. That will be the right revenge. And do that dear.

BEST OF LUCK.

Answer 4

That need real commitment. You have to spend some time in solitude, think about your past and future. You aren't the first or last person with similar problem.You have to live further. When a relation is broken it's like uprooting a plant some earth will come off. But life has to move forward.Deliberately indulge in activities that might excite you.Initially you may fail , but surely you will succeed.Then later if you get one right go for a better relation.If you are religious little bit spiritual activity will help.Even otherwise it's OK.Anyway it's better not to try to brood over or resurrect old relation

Answer 5

No matter how much you love someone there are things that you can look back on in your relationship that had to drive you crazy. No relationship is perfect in it's entirety. If it has been a year, take with you all the good things that you loved about your relationship and move on. Try to find someone who can make up for all the things the last person lacked. It is okay to move on.. You can love someone with all of your heart, but that doesn't make a relationship work all on it's own. Concentrate on yourself and someone will come along and sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. Learn all you can from your bad experience but don't let it keep you from living your life or from one day loving someone with all your heart once again. This time, someone who deserves it, and loves you back

Answer 6

i'm in a similar situation and this means i've been there already. try to keep your mind busy and away from him, but think about all the mistakes in the past not to make them again. try to be around optimistic, happy people. do things that usually make you happy- any hobby or activity that makes others happy and you-useful and fulfilled. get satisfaction from other things- your work for example, or charity. pray to god to help you settle down and try to find somebody else that can make you happy. don't look back in anger because it makes your life bitter. talk to someone about it or if you can't do this write a diary- writing about it lets the pain go off.
stop crying over the spilled milk, it's no use- you only have one life and you have to live it the best way you can. after all, the guy probably didn't deserve you anyway so it's better this way. love yourself more than you loved him and try to be happy without him. good luck

Answer 7

Very often we can’t let go not because we love the person so much, but because the person has hurt us really badly. Mainly it is our ego that has been hurt and we cannot come to terms with it because 90 % of us consciously or unconsciously refuse to accept that it is our ego that is hurting. “How could he have done this to me??? How dare he???” We get obsessed with questions like these. We can far easily accept the loss of a dear one by death but can’t deal with rejection by a living dear one. Study has proved that females are far more devastated by rejection than males. Honey, you have already lost one year of your life. You have to let go. Write down all the things that you can’t forget…the good things and the bad things, whatever. When you have finished burn the pages, let this signify the end of an era in your life. If there is an injured ego, cut it out. Get back to doing all the lovely things you enjoyed before him. Make new friends, but don’t go looking for a replacement. Love will find you (It is Gifted by God) don’t go looking for it.

Answer 8

If you keep thinking about it, you'll never get over it. And you will be miserable until it's forgotten. I've been in some shtty relationships too, some of which i thought were permanent. You're gonna go through some nasty ones until you find the right one, which pops out of nowhere.
Keep living life to the fullest. Open your mind to new interests, and new people. Smile to people, even if you don't mean it. Slumming over one person out of the 6 billion in the world, is pointless. I'm sure you have the potential to do something great with your life, and it would be a waste to keep your mind on the one person who never gave you a chance.

Answer 9

i think God take test of everything.it is the time for the test.
why you are born think about it. who has given birth to you.
if he has done it then why. no doubt you have to accept it boldly.
ok
now if the god has done then fine no problem it is the testing of your patience for the love. you are born to learn here. how much you want to learn from the love which is the most important thing in this world . see your patience. and wait for that time.and see what happens.
judge yourself.what is important to you. love or someoneelse
how much you have been waited for him. i do not know. see yourself.
if you are in true love( which is not found now a days) with him then perhaps nobody can make you happy. but if he did not come and he gets married with someoneelse then it is ok no problem you have to go for someonelse.God made someone else for you.and then you will be happy with someoneelse as it is God's decision.
the question is waiting time.
if you can not wait till his marriage then why you are asking with others . maine bhi kisi ko bhagwan samajh kar pooncha tha ki main kya karooon he said forget her. but i could not be happy with anybody becasue i was going to loose faith with God.
now i think that i should not leave her . but time never come back.you can not reverse the cloack.this is the decision time.
secondaly why do you need someoneelse to live ie to pass the time till his marriage.does your love is so impatient .
ok bahut bura tha ladka o. par he was your love. may be he will change himself. though i am not sure. but you can wait till his marriage. have faith in God.
no one can give you advice , you have to take decision.
this is the case where a person should lesten to his/her heart only.;
best of luck to you.

Answer 10

I was in love with someone when I was 16. It wasn't ment to be. It broke my heart for years. Time heals all wounds. I still wonder about him, what he's doing, how he turned out, etc. But it doesn't mean I'm not happy. The best way to get over someone is with someone else. Keep busy, find a hobby, do charity work...anything to get your mind off of him. When you smile and act happy (even when you don't feel like it) pretty soon you aren't faking. People like to be around happy people. Not downers.

Answer 11

Trust me on this one - it's a lot of hard work and self discipline. Every time you feel the thought of this person creeping into your head you have to stop it and think about something that makes you happy. At this point in the game you're in the habit of allowing yourself to be hurt by the memory so you have to retrain your brain to break that habit and start a new one. Every single time you feel that thought of them, think of something else. Every time you allow yourself to think of them it's harder and harder to break the habit so start now. :) And don't get down on yourself if you slip up, just start over again with the same determined mindset every time.

You can do it.

And for crying out loud,, don't just go 'find someone to make you happy' or you'll end up in the same boat. Learn to make yourself happy then when someone pulls the rug out from under your feet you can stand on your own.