Nowadays is not easy to bring up a big family... do you think it's better to just have an only child or to have more than one?? I'm an only child myself and lots of times I wish I had a brother or a sister. Therefore I would really like to have more that one kid myself... but do you think it is a smart thing to do??
2006-12-04 02:25:59 · 14 answers · asked by aroundtheworld 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You answered your own question. If you felt lonely as a child then your one kid might feel the same way. When I was growing up I have a few friends that were the only child and they told me how lucky I was to have siblings. I think you should have kids if you can afford them. If your finances are right and you think that you would be a good parent then I think you should have another. Now a days people have kids so young when they are actually a child themselves and they aren't able to raise them so the kids are put up for adoption or placed in foster care. So if you are in a good situation then have another one.
2006-12-04 05:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we first started talking about starting a family we had actually planned on having 2...a boy & a girl. Then our son came along and I had a rough pregnancy and we nearly lost our son during delivery so we started to rethink our options. As our son grew he turned into a very hyper & energetic little kid. And we treasure him because of it but is he ever a handful. Then the bills started to pile up...kids are expensive.
Then our son started daycare and we noticed he doesn't have any patience for the younger kids. (I was the same way when I was young...just ask my brother who was tortured until he was 16) Our son only wants to play with the kids who are older than him...they are more rough & tumble & more advanced like he is.
So we deliberated and talked about it. And after figuring out just how much financially we would need by the time our little guy was into university we decided we would be a one child family. My hubby & aren't really wealthy but we do ok but we want to live better than how we both grew up.
So when it comes time for you to start a family...wait until the first one is in your life and you will better be able to judge the situation. I don't know how people have all these kids in this day & age...they must have an money tree in their backyard. I personally think you should be happy with life and not completely stressed because you have all these kids & bills & you have to have 15 jobs to make ends meet.
Life is too short to be ubhappy so do what is best for you!
2006-12-04 12:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family situation is stable and finances are relatively good (meaning you're able to pay your bills, even if you don't have a lot for extras), I think a sibling is a good idea for a child. I don't see how it's any harder to bring up a big family "nowadays" as it used to be. Also I don't think of two kids as really being a big family. I have one child and one on the way and am hoping for several more in the years to come.
2006-12-04 10:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every family needs to answer this question for themselves.
My husband and I had this argument after our son was born. He had siblings and I was an only child. I wanted to have at least two kids and he only wanted one. I told him that being an only sucked and I always wished I had siblings. Needless to say we're expecting our 2nd son now.
Yes, financially we would be better off with one child but who knows where our finances will be in the next five years. I think the rewards of giving our son a sibling out weigh the finances issue.
Is having more then one child to the smart thing to do? For my family, maybe...only time will tell.
2006-12-04 11:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Andie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids, boy and a girl, I feel like I really lucked out there. I had my son first. Don't tell anyone but; he's 15 this month. OMG!!!! Where does the time go? My daughter turned 3 in July. When I found out I was pregnant I asked him what he thought about having a little brother or sister and he said, "Well, it's about time!" LOL, so cute. They keep other busy too, which is nice sometimes. My son is so helpful with her. Two is a perfect number for me. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-04 10:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know that I'm a good one to answer this question because I have 7 children plus 2 foster children BUT there are pros and cons to both sides obviously. If you don't want to have one child for fear of them being lonely have 2 but no more. That way they will always have someone else. Honestly most people that I talk to that grew up an only child would have preferred to have at least one sibling. Good luck to you!
2006-12-04 10:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that every family has to make the decision for themselves. My husband and I have decided that this one will be our only due to some medical issues he has and how difficult being pregnant was for me. We've had to think about the future and what that might bring (husband has MS).
It depends on what you can afford, how many kids you and your spouse decide is good for you, and things like that.
I do think that no matter what you decide you can't let other people make you feel bad for having only one or a whole bunch (because everyone has an opinion.)
2006-12-04 10:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as adults in our childbearing years we tend to romanticize the idea of siblings. It's a built in friend, they'll be there for each other, it's the greatest gift you can give them, and so forth. However, a lot of us saying this have little to no relationship with our own siblings and fought like cat and dogs with them as kids. The bio clock can really put the blinders on logical thinking.
Have as many kids as you and your husband want, and only as many as you and your husband want. Don't try to rationalize the decision any other way.
2006-12-04 11:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by morelli26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, and I did. I had 3. I was the oldest of 9, so I didn't want to have a whole bunch of kids. My husband only has one sister, and he wanted at least 5 kids (all his aunts and uncles had at least 4, a couple had 7!!!). We compromised at 3, and that was best for us.
2006-12-04 10:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have three kids of my own. After I have my own children I am going to adopt/foster as many children as the Lord lets me.
It's a matter of lifestyle. It depends on what you are comfortable living with as to how many kids you want. I personally live in a decent home. We have one vehicle. We have enough to get us by--and a little extra. I'm fine with this. Some people want to live in great houses, with lots of cars, free time, in a fancy town, and all of that material stuff. There is nothing wrong with that but realistically these people should only have a minimal amount of children if they are going to both support children and their choice of lifestyle.
There are sacrifices we give for children--the number you have depends on how much you are willing to sacrifice.
2006-12-04 10:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋