I just need some direction! In May I met a really great guy there was instant chemistry however shortly after we started dating he had to leave town for a few months, during this time, he cheated on me and I decided we would be friends until he returned. While he was away I started talking to another guy and he and I fell for each other the only thing was that he lives 15 hrs away. He tells me he wants to be with me and that he will be moving to my town so that we can be together, get married and start a family. But he seems to just be putting it off almost as if he tells me these things just to keep me. Now my ex calls me late at night telling me he really screwed up and that he wants me back so that we can repair our relationship and he also tells me he wants a family with me. I love both of them so much and I don't want to hurt either of them and people tell me to follow my heart but its the reason im in this mess. Some please help me!!!
2006-12-04 02:21:05 · 10 answers · asked by Sumone U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your in a tough situation but you can only choose one of them. By what your saying I'm not so sure I'd take your ex back since he cheated on you. The other guy would probably be better on one hand but then you say he keeps putting his move off. Maybe he actually has a legitimate reason for taking so long to move back. I mean I've moved a lot in my life and it's not so easy to pick up and go. There's usually things you have got to get done before your move. I'd probably give him a little time to see what happens but then again don't throw your whole life away waiting. If it comes right down to it and nothing happens such as him moving there then I'd start looking for someone new and forget both of them. Sorry but that's the only advice I can see in this case. Good luck to you.
2006-12-04 02:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask god for forgivness and to give you an answer. I often follow my heart best when I have god guiding it!
I would pass a church with sayings on it and it would seem the message was sent from above. listen to some music for some inspireation but talk to god!
sadly no one can tell you what you need to do but here is a suggestion. you need some me time, to figure out what it is you want,my advice:once a cheat always a cheat. stay away from those who cause you the most pain.as for the other one maybe he has been thinking and is now scared of making such commitments.either way you should probably tell them both for now that you need some time to think and don't have anything to do with either and if the other one comes back around then go for it. but don't be blind, you will know love when you feel it.
2006-12-04 02:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you this but you aren't in love with any of them, as it seams you just like both of them.
liking some body doesn't have to mean to start a relationship with him.
here's what you need to do; take a time out for your self to think about what you really wanna do, and there's an important question to ask your self "if it happens and you met a third person, are you gonna feel for him too if he better or more cute?"
if you don't know yet then you're still searching so don't make any home, kids or family promises
2006-12-04 02:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To elude them both seems to be the best avenue to take. I know exactly what you are going through, for I am in-love with two women. In order to get peace for myself I fled the pyramid. You will not avoid hurt. Either you, one or both of those guys, or all of you will eventually be hurt. Fortunately, you are the shot-caller. This is your dilemma, and you alone must decide on a solution to it. It can be done, but, it will not be easy. Do what is best for you. No one else will. Prayer needs to be implemented. Be blessed.
2006-12-04 02:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the one guy who is 15 hrs away from you isnt being truthful...if everytime you talk about being together somthing else arises...the one you was with might not be the one either if he was unfaithful to you...how do you know he wont do it again...I think I wouldnt get to serious with either of them..I would just wait it out and see...dont fall to fast and take two steps back and look at the whole picture before making any decision...Good Luck!
2006-12-04 02:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that both the guys that you have mentioned are self centered jerks. You are thinking more about them than yourself which is kind of sad. If they do not care about you hurting, then why should you care about them at all? Start dating other people... you might find the right guy some day
2006-12-04 02:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by cutieee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay sweetie, both of these men don't care if they hurt you or not, but you say you don't want to hurt them? It's time to think of yourself for a change. Neither of them are good for you. Set them both free and find someone who is just as in to you as you are in to them. Neither of these guys will be true to you. You deserve much, much better and you are worth it.
2006-12-04 02:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you love something, set it free....if it comes back to you, it's yours....if not, it never was"
Seems that the first guy has "come back"....
Maybe it's time to set the second one free......see if what he is telling you is just what you wanna hear to string you along.....won't take long for you to find your answer....
Maybe neither of them are the right one for you.....if your not sure about either of them.....I'd say....you probably truely haven't found the "IT" factor.....when you find "IT"......you will know it without a doubt in your mind!
Take your time.....you have the rest of your life.....God Bless and good luck!
2006-12-04 02:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure don't know how to pick a bf. You need to drop em both, then proceed to find a new bf without the complications.
2006-12-04 02:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose both of them and find someone else !
2006-12-04 02:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋