I was really into this guy and he said he was really into me too.
We talked on the phone for hours at a time and I had a wonderful time hanging out with him.
We slept together Friday and everything seemed to be going perfectly. I really enjoyed being with him and was hoping to see him again soon.
Yesterday, I got a call from his boyfriend.
Yes, you read that right, his boyfriend called me. According to this guy, the guy I was with was "confused" and didn't know what he was doing. Also told me that this guy has a history of hardcore drug use and was in rehab.
I confronted the guy I was with and he said that he wasn't with the guy and that he wasn't gay. He told me that he did lie about his drug past because he wanted me to accept him.
What the f uck?
2006-12-04 02:16:25 · 25 answers · asked by loislanepoet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to clear something up...
The supposed "boyfriend" used the guy's phone while he was in the bathroom. He hung up when the guy came back into the room.
2006-12-04 02:59:48 · update #1
Maybe you were his way of becoming unconfused and his boy friend found out. Thats gota suck.
2006-12-04 02:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by redbull_photo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I have had a bf in the past that was real big into smoking and growing pot and let me tell you when one does drugs they tend to be the best people at lying. This happens because they are doing something illegal and they have to master the way to hide it. The thing that is the worst about being such good liars is they tend to hold onto this even after they no longer are doing the drugs due to it being placed into their personality for such a length of time. If I were you I would perhaps keep the guy as a friend or maybe talk to the boyfriend guy again to see what he says about your friend claiming he is not gay. One other thing that is best to do with both of these guys is when you are talking to either one keep and eye on how often they blink. The more a person blinks the more likely they are telling you a lie. That is one thing about body language that can not be hidden at all. Another thing to watch for is how long they actually will look you in the eye. If they do not look you in the eye then they are most likely lying. I wish you the best and hope my advice helps!
2006-12-04 10:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel_Rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may not be gay.... but the drug use was in his past not something people should judge things that happen in the past stay in the past.... If you and him are happy together and he is no longer doing drugs then maybe he wants a serious relationship with you..... call the man back that called you an ask if he can identify a mark or trait that you b/f has something that you can't see when he has his clothes on if he does then he is gay and then you have to move on.... but do not hold a persons past agianst them
2006-12-04 10:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I'm sorry to be laughing. but don't you think some times that this could only happen to me? well im sorry, but im not so sure that i believe what either of them are saying.don't you wonder how this boyfriend got your number? and why on earth would he be telling you all of this negative stuff about this guy, when he is the one claiming to be the boyfriend. if this guy is so bad why in the hell is he with him? well im glad that you had a nice time with this guy. but i think that i would just end it. if this guy lied to you about his drug use he could be lieing about this boyfriend thing too.besides if you want someone to except you the first thing that comes out of your mouth should not be a lie.
2006-12-04 10:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so your first mistake was sleeping with a guy you didnt know hopefully you protected yourself.anyway you cant go back now so go forward soif it was me i would still hang out with him but i wouldnt put my heart into it that way if it true bout being gay you can still have a good friend buti would watch and learn more about him and just see if he acts funny around other gay guys and as far as the drugs maybe he was on drugs but did get help and now trying to go on with his life so i would stand by him and hang out the more you are around him and his friends you will learn so much about him and then take the step that you have to in your life good luck hey you what maybe he was on drugs so bad and he did try to be with a guy and now he is clean and the other guy is jealous cause he wanted to be with your friend who knows
2006-12-04 10:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by harleygirled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is strangely like a situation that happened to me once. I heard it from his brother. I learned the hard way that if a man lies about the drugs to get you to accept him, there's no way he's going to be honest about liking other boys. Get far away from this man, fast, if for no other reason than that he lied to you this early on. Good luck to you.
Oh, and don't feel bad about it. How could you have possibly known? Chalk it up to life experience, and call it a good story to tell about your worst experience with men!
2006-12-04 10:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Robin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time you have that guy over for the night have a huge roll of skink wrap there and wrap him it it before you do anything else he might not be gay/bi and this guy may not really be his friend or he is his friend but only the guy who phoned you is gay and now he is upset you got the "guy"
2006-12-04 10:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your pal here bats from both sides of the plate. Advice: don't get into this situation, you might end up getting really hurt.
2006-12-04 10:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one, maybe it was one of his friends playing tricks, though i doubt it...how did this other guy get your number?
two, u need to go get tested for what ever he may of given u.
and until u find out the truth and the whole truth, i wouldn't do anything else with him....
just watch yourself because unfortunately u cant trust anyone now days..
2006-12-04 10:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probably gay. Him not telling you about his drug past is him not telling you he's conflicted with his sexual orientation. Don't worry, it happens to a lot of people. :)
2006-12-04 10:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by in_my2ndlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this a lesson learned, and move on! The guy may very well be in denial regarding his sexual orientation!
2006-12-04 10:19:06 · answer #11 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋