what are your views on a 3 yr old not being potty trained?

Question

and should the mother put the child back into diapers? telling him he is behaving like a baby? there is a new baby due in feb, y would he be doing this when his older brother who is 4 is trained?

THIS IS MY GRANDSON AND MY DAUGHTER IN LAW WENT ONLINE AND ALSO TALKED TO SOMEONE AT WORK...SHE SAYS HE IS BEHAVING LIKE A BABY SO SHE WILL PUT DIAPERS BACK ON HIM BC BABIES USE DIAPERS AND NOT THE TOILET.
HE SEEMS TO GET ALL THE ATTENTION HE WANTS FROM HIS MOM BUT FORGETS ABOUT THE STEP SON........I AM VERY UPSET ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION. THE BOY WAS TRAINED WHEN HE WAS 2 BUT HE GOT SICK AND THEY PUT HIM BACK IN DIAPERS THEN AND NOW HE WON'T GO AT ALL. I HAD HIM JUST ABOUT TRAINED THIS LAST SPRING WHILE HE WAS WITH ME FOR 4 DAYS, WHEN HE WENT HOME, THEY STOPPED TAKING HIM AND LET HIM GO ON HIS OWN.........

Answer 1

First, it is very important to remember that every child is different. What worked for one child may not work on another, even if the children are siblings. Also note, boys are sometimes harder to train than girls. According to some experts, it may not be a good idea to try and start training a child when a new baby is on the way or has recently arrived. Your focus will be more directed towards you new or impending arrival, and not on your toddler.

My mother said that I (a girl) was very easy to train, while my younger brother was more difficult. Some of the things that worked for her, as well as other mothers of boys include: sitting the child on the toilet after each meal (incidently, to this day my younger brother, who is now 22, still has to go to the bathroom after each meal!), that way he'll know that after he eats or drinks he should sit on the potty until he does something in it (what goes in must come out); if there is a father or other consistent male figure in the house, have the little boy go to the bathroom whenever his dad goes, that way he'll feel more like a big boy and be more interested in doing it. Other ways to get your child interested in training are to praise him whenever he tells you he has to go, as well as when you take him yourself and he uses the bathroom in the toilet rather than in his diaper or pull-up.

Speaking of pull-ups, make sure your son understands that they are "big boy" underpants and that if he wants to be a big boy and get to wear them then he has to start going potty in the toilet like a big boy. Putting your child in pull-ups is pointless if you're still changing him like they're diapers. They are meant as a training tool to help your child be more independent and feel more grown up.

Lastly, BE CONSISTENT. You have to be willing to be patient and consistent with your child. Just like every other area of his young life, potty training requires structure and consistency. Don't give up, and don't show him your frustration because that will only frustrate him. Talk in soothing tones, and don't yell. Potty training should be a positive experience for both you and your child, not one that brings on anxiety for him and frustration for you.

I hope all this helps!

Answer 2

He may just be feeling jealous that another baby is taking his place as the baby in the family. It happens to the best of moms. You should tell him that he is not a baby he is a big boy. Nothing he does or does not do will make him a baby so he needs to act like the big boy he is. Give him potty prizes. Reward for going in the potty, DO NOT put him back in diapers. That could scar him for life. Tell him what his part in the family is. His important job as a big brother. make him feel as much a part of this new baby as you and your husband are. Good luck and congrats on the baby.

Answer 3

I'm sure he is doing it because he is afraid of not being the baby anymore. All kids are different. My son didn't completely potty train until he was 4. I was concerned and asked our pediatrician about it...she said to leave him alone because he will do it when he's ready. If he is 4 1/2 and still not potty trained at all, then start worrying.
Pull ups wont hurt him.
Don't insult him though, that's going to hurt him even worse and make him regress even more. Just don't make a big deal out of it. If he knows that it gets attention, he'll keep doing it.

Answer 4

Don't put the child back into diapers or put him down like that. Every child is different, so I feel they will all be potty trained at different ages, I feel you should start as early as possible when potty training, and you really need to work with them, not just expect them to do it.

Answer 5

Was he doing well before and he backslid?
No, I would not put him in diapers. Pull ups would be OK.
It may be a reaction to the coming baby. It's very common for kids who are potty trained to regress some when a new sibling comes into the family.

Answer 6

First and most important, even if U explain some thing they don’t know what is what. Next step is, take him to rest room along with you every time. Next is in the morning make him to sit one the potty for a while and give him some thing which he likes more than any thing example a candy, bowl of flaks, cookie, pizza peace. This will work 100%. We practiced same with my kid we got good result with in 30 mins. Good luck.

Next step, ask him that every one around should know when he is getting PP or PU-PU. This will make you people to know that what U have to 2 do.

Answer 7

Do not put him back in daipers. usually it take boys longer to be potty trained for whataever reason. My parents and sister told their children that they couldn't start going to preschool if they weren't potty trained and it worked. once they see all of the other kids doind it then they will begin. if you put them in diapers then they will think it's ok and it's not, and they will like the attention of you changing them. Once they pee on themselve a couple times it will feel uncomfortable! My little bro was almost 3 and peed himself then cried because it felt so uncomfortable. good luck

Answer 8

I have a 3 year old who is not potty trained and I've chosen not to stress over it. I've sent 5 kids to kindergarten prior to him & none of them have gone to kindergarten in diapers so I'm assuming he won't either. He goes potty sometimes but not always. I learned a long time ago if I stress myself out over it I'm only hurting myself. Good luck!

Answer 9

He is doing this for attention. And yes a three year old should be potty trained. at least to the poiont that they tell therer mother or father that they need to go to the restroom. they are doing this for mere attention and if u get them back in the diapers they one. give the kid more attention and dedicate more time into getting them potty trained

Answer 10

Don't put him back in diapers... Stay being consistent about this.. Don't give him the option..